Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

[bellaslut]

Abrasion: yes 5
Age play:no 4
Anal sex:yes 2
Anal plugs (small):yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 3
Asphyxiation: no 0
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 5
Bestiality: no 0
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): no 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no 0
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 5
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 0
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 5
Choking: no 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit:yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: no 2
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 5
Corsets (wearing): no 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no0
Enemas: no 5
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 5
Exercise (forced/required): no 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 2
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 0
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 5
Forced dressing: no 5
Forced homosexuality: N/A
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private):yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 5
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): no 0
Gags (penis shaped):no 5
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): no 4
Gates of Hell:no 0
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 5
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: no 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 5
Hot oils (on genitals): no 4
Hot waxing: no 4
Housework (doing): no 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private):yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 3
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no 4
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 5
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 5
Licking (non-sexual): no 5
Manacles & Irons: no 5
Manicures (giving): no 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 5

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 0
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 3
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 4
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 5
Pony slave: no 5
Public exposure: yes 2
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: no 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 4
Rituals:
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping:no 2
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: yes 5
Sensory deprivation: no 2
Serving:
Serving as art: no 5
Serving as ashtray: no 5
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no 4
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 5
Strapping (full body beating): No 5
Suspension (upright); No 4
Suspension (inverted): No 4
Suspension (horizontal): No 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 2
Swallowing semen: Yes 3
Swallowing urine: No 3
Swapping (with one other couple): No 2
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2
Tattooing: No 0
Teasing: Yes 5
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 0
Uniforms: No 4
Including others: No 4
Vaginal dildo: Yes 5
Verbal humiliation: Yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): No 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 3
Video (watching others): Yes 5
Video (recordings of you): No0
Water torture: No 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 5
Whipping: Yes 5
Wooden paddles: Yes 5
Wrestling: Yes 3

[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

Abrasion: no-1 *
Age play: yes-5
Anal sex: no-1 *
Anal plugs (small): no-0
Anal plugs (large): no-0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no-0
Animal roles: yes-2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no-3
Asphyxiation: no-NO
Auctioned for charity: no-3
Bathroom use control: no-NO
Bestiality: no-NO
Beating (soft): yes-5
Beating (hard): yes-3 *
Blindfolds: yes-5
Being serviced (sexual): ?
Being bitten: yes-5
Breast/chest bondage: no-2 *
Breath control: no-NO
Branding: no-NO
Boot worship: no-2
Bondage (light): yes-5
Bondage (heavy): yes-3 *
Bondage (multi-day): no-2
Bondage (public, under clothing): no-4
Bondage and Sex: yes-5
Breast whipping: yes-4
Brown showers (scat): no-NO
Cages (locked inside of): no-5
Caning: yes-4
Catheterization: no-NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no-3 *
Chastity belts: no-0
Chauffeuring: no-1
Choking: no-NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes-5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no-1
Clothespins body: no-2
Cock worship: yes-5
Collars (worn in private): yes-5 *
Collars (worn in public): no-3 *
Competitions (with other Subs): yes-2
Corsets (wearing): yes-4
Cuffs: yes-5
Cuffs (metal): yes-5
Cutting: no-NO
Dilation: no-NO
Double penetration: no-4
Electricity: no-0 *
Enemas: no-0 *
Enforced chastity: yes-3
Examinations (physical): yes-5
Exercise (forced/required): yes-5
Exhibitionism (friends): no-4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no-5
Eye contact restrictions: yes-3
Face slapping: no-NO
Fantasy abandonment: no-3
Fantasy rape: yes-5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes-5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no-2
Fantasy forced rape anal: no-0
Fantasy gang-rape: no-2
Fisting (anal): no-NO
Fisting (vaginal): no-0
Flogging: yes-4
Following hand signals: yes-4
Following orders: yes-5
Foot worship: yes-2*
Forced dressing: yes-4
Forced homosexuality: no (lol no need to force :-P)
Forced masturbation: yes-5
Forced nudity (private): yes-5
Forced nudity (around others): no-5
Forced servitude: yes-5
Full head hoods: no-NO
Gags (cloth): yes-4
Gags (penis shaped): no-3
Gags (rubber): yes-5
Gags (tape): yes-3
Gates of Hell: N/A
Genital sex: yes-5 *
Given away to another Dom (temp):no-2
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes-4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no-NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): no-NO
Golden showers: no-NO
Greetings rituals: no-2
Hairbrush spankings: yes-5
Hair pulling: yes-5
Hand jobs (giving): yes-3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes-4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no-3
Harnessing (leather): no-2
Harnessing (rope): no-1
Having food chosen for you: yes-3 *
Having clothing chosen for you: yes-4 *
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes-3
Head (giving fellatio): yes-5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes-5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: no-1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): no-1
Hot waxing: yes-5 *
Housework (doing): yes-5
Human puppy dog: yes-5
Humiliation (private): yes-5
Humiliation (public): no-4
Hypnotism: no-2
Ice cubes: yes-5
Infantilism: no-0
Initiation rites: no-1
Injections: no-NO NO NO NO NO NEVER NO!
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no-4
Interrogations: yes-5
Kidnapping: yes-5
Kneeling: yes-5
Leather clothing: yes-3
restraints chains: yes-5
restraints leather: yes-5
restraints rope: no-2
Lectures for misbehavior: yes-0 (those aren't supposed to turn me on though. it's actual discipline)
Licking (non-sexual): ? i don't get it...
Manacles & Irons: no-2
Manicures (giving): no-1
Massage (giving): yes-5!
Massage (receiving): yes-5
Medical scenes: yes-2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes-5!!!!
Modeling for erotic videos: yes-5
Mouth bits: no-2
Mummification: no-NO
Nipple clamps: yes-5
Nipple cloths pins: yes-5
Nipple weights: yes-2
Oral/anal play (rimming): no-NO
Over-the-knee spanking: YES-5
Orgasm denial: yes-5
Orgasm control: yes-5
Outdoor scenes: yes-3
Outdoor sex: yes-5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes-4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no-0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no-NO
Piercing (permanent): no-NO
Prison scenes: yes-5
Pony slave: yes-2
Public exposure: no-2
Public tasks: yes-4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes-4
Pussy worship: no-1
Riding crops: no-4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no-no
Rituals: yes-3*
Religious scenes: (hehe nun=fun) yes-5
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes-4
Rubber/latex clothing: yes-2
Rope body harness: no-0
Saran wrapping: no-0
Scratching – getting: yes-5
Scratching – giving: no-2
Sensory deprivation: yes-5 *
Serving: yes-5
Serving as art: no-0
Serving as ashtray: no-NO
Serving as furniture: yes-5
Serving as a maid: YES-5!
Serving as toilet: no-NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes-5
Serving orally (sexual): yes-5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes-4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no-0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes-4
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes-1 (usually punishment)
Shaving (body hair): no-0
Shaving (head hair): no-NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes-3
Sleep deprivation: no-1 (i don't sleep much anyways)
Sleep-sacks: no-0
Slutty clothing (private): yes-5
Slutty clothing (public): no-1
Spanking in private: yes-5
Spanking in public: no-3
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes-5
Spanking pleasure: yes-5
Spandex clothing: no-0
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes-5
Speculums (Anal): no-NO
Speculums (vaginal): no-NO
Spreader bars: no-5
Standing in corner: yes-3
Stocks (adjustable): no-0
Stocks (fixed): no-0
Straight jackets: no-0*
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no-0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no-0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no-0
Strapping (full body beating): no-1
Suspension (upright); no-2
Suspension (inverted): no-1
Suspension (horizontal): no-1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no-0
Swallowing semen: yes-5
Swallowing urine: no-NO
Swapping (with one other couple): yes-3 lol good for spicing it up now and then
Swinging (multiple couples): no-0
Tattooing: no-NO needles=evil!
Teasing: yes-5
Tickling: yes-1
Triple penetration: no-3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no-2
Uniforms: yes-3
Including others: yes-4
Vaginal dildo: yes-5
Verbal humiliation: YES-5
Vibrator on genitals: yesyesyes-5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes-3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes-2
Video (watching others): yes-3
Video (recordings of you): yes-5
Water torture: no-0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes-5*
Whipping: yes-5
Wooden paddles: yes-5
Wrestling: no-0

[hopperboo]

Here we go...again.

I've been meaning to update this. Some of my views have changed on these topics after reading different posts and more about the topics so I thought I'd re-post. Quite a few things I had marked as “hard limits” I have changed my opinion on.

I should have waited a while and read more before I answered the questionnaire in the first place.

I'm sure they'll change again once I get to actually doing the list. Hah.



Anything with an "*" by it just means I'd be reluctant (or wouldn’t) do it because I've heard of health/danger issues.



Abrasion: No, 0 I still don't really get what this is in a BDSM context so I am not changing my answer.

Age play: No, 2

Anal sex: No, 5

Anal plugs (small): No, 3

*Anal plugs (large): No, 0

Anal plug (public, under clothes): No, 3

Animal roles: No, 1

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No, 0

*Asphyxiation: No, No

Auctioned for charity: No, No

Bathroom use control: No, 2

Bestiality: No, No

Beating (soft): No, 3

Beating (hard): No, 1

Blindfolds: No, 4

Being serviced (sexual): No, 4 I wouldn’t want it a “submissive” type of service...if that makes any sense at all.

Being bitten: No, 4

Breast/chest bondage: No, 2

*Breath control: No, 2 It would depend on the man.... If he was a serial killer it would automatically drop to a hard limit. Heh.

Branding: No, No

Boot worship: No, 1

Bondage (light): No, 4

Bondage (heavy): No, 2

*Bondage (multi-day): No, No

Bondage (public, under clothing): No, 3

Bondage and Sex: No, 4

Breast whipping: No, 2

*Brown showers (scat): No, No

Cages (locked inside of): No, 2

Caning: No, 2

*Catheterization: No, No

Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No, No I’m afraid of the dark.

Chastity belts: No, 1

Chauffeuring: No, 1

*Choking: No, 2 Same as the breath play kind of stuff?

Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 3

Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes, 3

Clothespins body: No, 2

Cock worship: No, 4

Collars (worn in private): No, 2

Collars (worn in public): No, 2

Competitions (with other Subs): No, No

Corsets (wearing): No, 3

Cuffs: No, 3

Cuffs (metal): No, 3

*Cutting: No, No

*Dilation: No, No Extreme dilation I would think wouldn’t be healthy for one’s body.

Double penetration: Yes, 4

Electricity: No, 3

Enemas: No, 0

Enforced chastity: Yes, No...lmbo.

Examinations (physical): No, 3

Exercise (forced/required): No, 3 (Um, just to clarify, I said 'no' as in I haven't been 'forced' or 'required' by another person).

Exhibitionism (friends): No, 0

Exhibitionism (strangers): No, 3

Eye contact restrictions: No, 0

Face slapping: No, ? It would depend on the man, and I can’t honestly say how I’d feel about it until it happened. Anywhere from a 2-5

Fantasy abandonment: No, No

Fantasy rape: No, 5

Fantasy forced deep throat: No, 4

Fantasy forced cunt licking: No, No

Fantasy forced rape anal: No, 4

Fantasy gang-rape: No, No

*Fisting (anal): No, No

Fisting (vaginal): No, 0

Flogging: No, 2

Following hand signals: No, 1 Ahhh. I don’t really see the point.

Following orders: No, 4

Foot worship: No, 2

Forced dressing: No, 2/3

Forced homosexuality: No, No

Forced masturbation: No, 4

Forced nudity (private): No, 4

Forced nudity (around others): No, 0

Forced servitude: No, No

Full head hoods: No, 2-4

Gags (cloth): No, 3

Gags (penis shaped): No, 0

Gags (rubber): No, 0

*Gags (tape): No, No I’ve heard duct tape is not good for one’s skin.

Gates of Hell: I still have no idea what this is....

Genital sex: No, 5

Given away to another Dom (temp): No, No

Given away to another Domme (temp): No, No

Given away to another Dom (perm): No, No

Given away to another Domme (perm): No, No

Golden showers: No, 2

Greetings rituals: No, 0

Hairbrush spankings: No, 4

Hair pulling: No, 4

Hand jobs (giving): No, 4

Hand jobs (receiving): No, 4

Harems (serving w/other subs): No, No

Harnessing (leather): No, 0

Harnessing (rope): No, 0

Having food chosen for you: No, 1-2

Having clothing chosen for you: No, 2-3

Head (giving cunnilingus): No, No

Head (giving fellatio): No, 5

Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): No, 5

Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A

High heel worship: No, No

Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No, 0

Hot oils (on genitals): No, 2

Hot waxing: No, 3

Housework (doing): No, 3 I like cleaning!

Human puppy dog: No, 0

Humiliation (private): No, 4/5

Humiliation (public): No, 4/5

Hypnotism: No, No I personally don't believe in it.

Ice cubes: Yes, 4

Infantilism: No, No

Initiation rites: No, No

*Injections: No, No

Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No, 1

Interrogations: No, 3 (And if you have a sexy accent it pops up to a 4, lol).

Kidnapping: No, 4/5 Safely of course....

Kneeling: No, 3

Leather clothing: No, 0

Restraints chains: No, 4

Restraints leather: No, 4

Restraints rope: No, 4

Lectures for misbehavior: No, 2

Licking (non-sexual): No, 2

Manacles & Irons: No, 2

Manicures (giving): No, 4 (Yay! I'll do pedicures too!)

Massage (giving): No, 4

Massage (receiving): No, 4

Medical scenes: No, 3

Modeling for erotic photos: No, 3

Modeling for erotic videos: No, 2

Mouth bits: No, 0

Mummification: No, No

Nipple clamps: No, 3

Nipple cloths pins: Yes, 3

Nipple weights: No, 0

*Oral/anal play (rimming): No, No

Over-the-knee spanking: No, 5

Orgasm denial: No, 4

Orgasm control: No, 4/5

Outdoor scenes: No, 3

Outdoor sex: No, 4

Phone sex (serving Dom): No, 3

Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No, 0

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No, No

Piercing (permanent): No, No

Prison scenes: No, 1

Pony slave: No, No

Public exposure: No, 4 Only if it was ‘private-public.’

Public tasks: No, 2

Pussy whipping: No, 2

Pussy worship: No, 5 If I am receiving...and I hope it wouldn’t feel like the man was submissive to me....

Riding crops: No, 2

Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No, 2 ...still not sure what this is either...hah.

Rituals: No, No

Religious scenes: No, No

Restrictive rules on behavior: No, 3

Rubber/latex clothing: No, 0

Rope body harness: No, 0

Saran wrapping: No, 0 I don't get the appeal.

Scratching – getting: No, 2-4

Scratching – giving: No, 3

Sensory deprivation: No, 4/5

Serving: No, 3

Serving as art: No, No

Serving as ashtray: No, No

Serving as furniture: No, 0

Serving as a maid: No, 1

Serving as toilet: No, No

Serving as waitress/waiter: No, 1

Serving orally (sexual): No, 4

Serving other Doms (supervised): No, 0 It would depend on the context of ‘serving.’

Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No, No

Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 3

Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, No (LOL, this was a funny one for me to fill out).

Shaving (body hair): Yes, 4

Shaving (head hair): No, No

Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4

Sleep deprivation: No, No NO ONE messes with my sleep!

Sleep-sacks: No, No I don’t get the appeal.

Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 3

Slutty clothing (public): No, 3

Spanking in private: No, 5

Spanking in public: No, 0

Spanking in bdsm parties: No, 0

Spanking pleasure: No, 5

Spandex clothing: lmbo

Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 1

Speculum (Anal): No, 2

Speculum (vaginal): No, 3

Spreader bars: No, 2

Standing in corner: No, 1

Stocks (adjustable): No, No

Stocks (fixed): No, No

Straight jackets: No, No

Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No, No

Strapping (full body beating): No, 1

Suspension (upright): No, 0

Suspension (inverted): No, 0

Suspension (horizontal): No, 0

Supplying new partners for Dom: No, No

Swallowing semen: No, 4

Swallowing urine: No, No

Swapping (with one other couple): No, 0 I guess it would depend on far it would be taken...I'd only do it if it was something he (my partner) couldn't live without.

Swinging (multiple couples): No, No

Tattooing: No, No

Teasing: No, 4

Tickling: No, 4

Triple penetration: No, 4

Triple penetration by 3 males: No, 0

Uniforms: No, 3

Including others: No, 0

Vaginal dildo: Yes, 4

Verbal humiliation: No, 4

Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 4

Voyeurism (watching others): No, 3/4

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No, No Only a hard limit for the fact that I don’t want to share.

Video (watching others): Yes, 4

Video (recordings of you): No, 3

Water torture: No, 0 I suppose. Still not really sure on this whole deal.

Wearing symbolic jewelry: No, 1

Whipping: No, 1

Wooden paddles: No, 3

Wrestling: No, 5

[MissConfused]

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

[hopperboo]

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

Good thing I was bored this morning.



p.s. good luck!

[icey]

Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

!

tell me about it, it took me god knows how long to post it and now its disappeared lol it's been replaced with a smiley face!

[Zarine13]

Ohhh, this thread is too useful to be buried!

[DaddysLilSlut]

Abrasion: No 3
Age play: No 1
Anal sex: Yes 4
Anal plugs (small): Yes 3
Anal plugs (large): No 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 3
Animal roles: No 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 1
Asphyxiation: No 2
Auctioned for charity: No 0
Bathroom use control: Yes 4
Bestiality: NO NO
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): Yes 3
Blindfolds: Yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 2
Being bitten: Yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: No 3
Breath control: Yes 3
Branding: No 2
Boot worship: No 2
Bondage (light): Yes 2
Bondage (heavy): No 2
Bondage (multi-day): No 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 3
Bondage and Sex: Yes 3
Breast whipping: No 2
Brown showers (scat): NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): No 2
Caning: No 2
Catheterization: No No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No 1
Chastity belts: No 3
Chauffeuring: No 1
Choking: Yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: No 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: No 2
Clothespins body: No 2
Cock worship: Yes 4
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): No 3
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing): No 4
Cuffs: No 5
Cuffs (metal): No 5
Cutting: No 3
Dilation: No 0
Double penetration: No 2
Electricity: No 0
Enemas: No 1
Enforced chastity: No 3
Examinations (physical): No 1
Exercise (forced/required): No 1
Exhibitionism (friends): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): No 3
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 3
Face slapping: Yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: No 2
Fantasy rape: No 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: No 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: No 2
Fantasy gang-rape: No 0
Fisting (anal): No No
Fisting (vaginal): No No
Flogging: No 3
Following hand signals: No 3
Following orders: Yes 5
Foot worship: Yes 4
Forced dressing: No 2
Forced homosexuality: No 1
Forced masturbation: Yes 3
Forced nudity (private): No 3
Forced nudity (around others): No 1
Forced servitude: No 1
Full head hoods: No 0
Gags (cloth): No 3
Gags (penis shaped): No 3
Gags (rubber): No 3
Gags (tape): No 2
Gates of Hell: No 1
Genital sex: Yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 2 only if daddy is there
Given away to another Dom (perm): No No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No No
Golden showers: yes 3.5
Greetings rituals: No 2
Hairbrush spankings: No 3
Hair pulling: Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 3
Harnessing (leather): No 3
Harnessing (rope): No 3
Having food chosen for you: No 2.5
Having clothing chosen for you: No 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: No 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No?
Hot oils (on genitals): No 0
Hot waxing: No 2
Housework (doing): No 2
Human puppy dog: No 2
Humiliation (private): No 2
Humiliation (public): No 1
Hypnotism: No 1
Ice cubes: No 3
Infantilism: No No
Initiation rites: No 0
Injections: No 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No 3
Interrogations: No 2
Kidnapping: No 3*
Kneeling: Yes 4
Leather clothing: No 2
restraints chains: No 3
restraints leather: No 2
restraints rope: No 3
Lectures for misbehavior: No 2
Licking (non-sexual): No 2
Manacles & Irons: No 4
Manicures (giving): No 1
Massage (giving): Yes 3
Massage (receiving): Yes 4
Medical scenes: No 0

Modeling for erotic photos: No 2
Modeling for erotic videos: No 2
Mouth bits: No 3
Mummification: No 0
Nipple clamps: No 4
Nipple cloths pins: No 3
Nipple weights: No 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: No 3
Orgasm denial: No 3
Orgasm control: Yes 3
Outdoor scenes: No 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): No 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 2
Piercing (permanent): No 2
Prison scenes: No 3
Pony slave: No 2
Public exposure: No 3

Public tasks: No 2
Pussy/cock whipping: No 3
Pussy worship: no 2
Riding crops: No 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No 3
Rituals: No 3?
Religious scenes: No 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: No 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No 1
Rope body harness: No 3
Saran wrapping: No 1
Scratching – getting: No 3
Scratching – giving: No 3
Sensory deprivation: No 3
Serving: Yes 4
Serving as art: No 2
Serving as ashtray: No 1
Serving as furniture: No 3
Serving as a maid: No 2
Serving as toilet: Yes 4 piss only
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes 4
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): No 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): No 1
Shaving (body hair): No 1
Shaving (head hair): No NO
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 5
Sleep deprivation: No 3
Sleep-sacks: No 1
Slutty clothing (private): No 2
Slutty clothing (public): No 1
Spanking in private: No 4
Spanking in public: No 2.5
Spanking in bdsm parties: No 1
Spanking pleasure: Yes 5
Spandex clothing: No 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 1
Speculums (Anal): No No
Speculums (vaginal): No No
Spreader bars: No 3
Standing in corner: No 3
Stocks (adjustable): No 2
Stocks (fixed): No 2
Straight jackets: No 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 1
Strapping (full body beating): No 2.5
Suspension (upright); No 3
Suspension (inverted): No 1
Suspension (horizontal): No 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: Yes 3
Swallowing semen: Yes 4
Swallowing urine: Yes 3 only you
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2-3
Tattooing: No in the bdsm sense 3
Teasing: Yes 3
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 0
Uniforms: No 2-3
Including others: Yes 2-3
Vaginal dildo: No 2
Verbal humiliation: No 2
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 3-4
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 3-4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 3
Video (watching others): Yes 3
Video (recordings of you): No 4
Water torture: No 2.5
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 4
Whipping: Yes 3-4
Wooden paddles: No 3
Wrestling: No 3


I'm already wanting to change things lol

[brwneydgirl]

Had to dig it up...might as well share.

[Daddy's Naughty Girl]

This is an excellent post! It may take some time because I have a busy schedule, as does Daddy, but I will think seriously on these questions and answer them. I hope that Daddy is able to find the time to do the same (if not in writing then in conversation.) I will show him this list on Saturday when I see him!

[sagacioussaga]

Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: yes 4
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: no 3
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): yes 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): no 3
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no 3
Branding: NO
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 3
Choking: yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 3
Clothespins body: no 3
Cock worship: no 3
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: NO
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 4
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 2
Enforced chastity: no 0
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: NO
Fantasy rape: no 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 4
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no 4
Fisting (vaginal): no 4
Flogging: no 4
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 3
Forced dressing: no 3
Forced homosexuality: no 4
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): no 4
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): yes 2
Gags (penis shaped): no 2
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell: no 4
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 2
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no 4
Having food chosen for you: no 1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 1
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 4
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no 1
Hot waxing: no 2
Housework (doing): no 2
Human puppy dog: no 2
Humiliation (private): no 3
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: NO
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 1
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: no 4
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 3
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 3

Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 3
Nipple cloths pins: no 3
Nipple weights: no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 4
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: no 1
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 1
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 2
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: yes 5
Sensory deprivation: no 2
Serving: no 2
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: NO
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 2
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 4
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): no 3
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no 2
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): no 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 4
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 2
Spanking pleasure: yes 4
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 1
Stocks (fixed): no 1
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 4
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing: no 1
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: no 4
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 4
Uniforms: no 1
Including others: yes 2
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: yes 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): yes 3
Water torture: yes 4
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: no 4
Wooden paddles: no 2
Wrestling: no 2
:

[raineyswench]

well it seems I have a lot to learn

[Ozme52]

Of course you do.

We all do.

Even the most experienced of us.

That's part of the fun.

[subrob99]

My biggest fantasy is to be dominated by a male and female dom couple but here is my list
Abrasion: ?
Age play: ?
Anal sex: 3
Anal plugs (small): 5
Anal plugs (large): 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 3
Asphyxiation:2
Auctioned for charity: 5
Bathroom use control: 3
Bestiality: 0
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard):5
Blindfolds: 5
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 3
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 1
Branding: 1
Boot worship: 4
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy):5
Bondage (multi-day):5
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 4 my own
Brown showers (scat): 2
Cages (locked inside of): 5
Caning: 5
Catheteriation: 5
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 5
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 1
Choking: 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit:n/a
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship:4
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 5
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation:n/a
Double penetration: 3
Electricity:5
Enemas: 4
Enforced chastity:5
Examinations (physical):5
Exercise (forced/required):3
Exhibitionism (friends):5
Exhibitionism (strangers):5
Eye contact restrictions: 5
Face slapping:5
Fantasy abandonment: 5
Fantasy rape: 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 5
Fisting (anal): 5
Fisting (vaginal): N/a
Flogging: 5
Following hand signals: 5
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 10
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 3
Forced masturbation:4
Forced nudity (private): 5
Forced nudity (around others): 5
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 5
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped): 5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell:1
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): 5
Given away to another Dom (perm):4
Given away to another Domme (perm): 4
Golden showers: 5
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): 5
Harnessing (leather): 5
Harnessing (rope): 5
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 5
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): 4
High heel worship:10
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 5
Hot oils (on genitals): 5
Hot waxing: 5
Housework (doing): 5
Human puppy dog: 5
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 5
Hypnotism: 5
Ice cubes: 5
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 3
Injections: 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 5
Kidnapping: 5
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 5
restraints chains: 5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 5
Licking (non-sexual):3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 0
Massage (giving): 3
Massage (receiving): 4
Medical scenes: 5

Modeling for erotic photos: 5
Modeling for erotic videos: 5
Mouth bits: 5
Mummification: 5
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins: 5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 5
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 5
Outdoor sex: 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 5
Piercing (permanent):3
Prison scenes: 5
Pony slave: 5
Public exposure: 5
Public tasks: 5
Pussy/cock whipping: 5
Pussy worship: 5
Riding crops: 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 3
Religious scenes: 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 5
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping: 5
Scratching – getting: 5
Scratching – giving: 2
Sensory deprivation: 5
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 5
Serving as ashtray: 5
Serving as furniture: 5
Serving as a maid: 5
Serving as toilet: 5
Serving as waitress/waiter: 5
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):5
Sexual deprivation (short term): 5
Sexual deprivation (long term):5
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 5
Shaving (pubic hair):5
Sleep deprivation: 5
Sleep-sacks: 5
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 5
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: 5
Spanking pleasure: 5
Spandex clothing: 5
Speech restrictions (when, what): 2
Speculums (Anal):4
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 5
Stocks (adjustable): 5
Stocks (fixed):5
Straight jackets: 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) : 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): 5
Suspension (upright); 5
Suspension (inverted): 5
Suspension (horizontal): 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: 5
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 5
Swapping (with one other couple): 5
Swinging (multiple couples): 5
Tattooing: 0
Teasing: 5
Tickling: 5
Triple penetration: 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/1
Uniforms:4
Including others: 4
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: 5
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 5
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 5
Water torture: 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 3
Whipping:5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling: 1

[mrperson]

I am a 21 year old submissive male looking to start a S/M relationship with a mistress. I am not very experience, but I would love to learn and serve a dominant woman.

Abrasion: ?
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: no 1
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 1
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: NO
Auctioned for charity: NO
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): no (Not including spanking) 3, slapping, whipping
Beating (hard): NO
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: no 3
Breast/chest bondage: N/A
Breath control: NO
Branding: NO
Boot worship: no, 5
Bondage (light): yes, 5
Bondage (heavy): no, 5 I would like to be tied up really tight. I want to feel completely helpless
Bondage (multi-day): no, 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): no, 2
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: N/A
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): no, 4. I think it would be really hot to be locked up in a small cage and teased.
Caning: no, 3
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no, 1
Chastity belts: no, 3
Chauffeuring: NO
Choking: no, 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: N/A
Clothespins body: no, 4
Cock worship: no, 0
Collars (worn in private): no, 5
Collars (worn in public): NO
Competitions (with other Subs): no, 1
Corsets (wearing): N/A
Cuffs: yes, 5
Cuffs (metal): no, 4
Cutting: NO
Dilation: NO
Double penetration: N/A
Electricity: no, 3
Enemas: no, 3
Enforced chastity: no, 3
Examinations (physical): no, 1
Exercise (forced/required): no, 1
Exhibitionism (friends): NO
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO
Eye contact restrictions: no, 4
Face slapping: no, 4
Fantasy abandonment: no, 3
Fantasy rape: no, 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: N/A
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no, 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no, 4
Fantasy gang-rape: NO
Fisting (anal): NO
Fisting (vaginal): N/A
Flogging: no, 3
Following hand signals: no, 3
Following orders: no, 5
Foot worship: no, 5
Forced dressing: yes 3
Forced homosexuality: no, 0
Forced masturbation: no, 4
Forced nudity (private): no, 4
Forced nudity (around others): NO
Forced servitude: yes, 5
Full head hoods: no, 2
Gags (cloth): no, 2
Gags (penis shaped): no, 4
Gags (rubber): no, 5
Gags (tape): no, 2
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: As opposed to other kinds of sex?
Given away to another Dom (temp): NO
Given away to another Domme (temp): NO
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO
Golden showers: no, 0
Greetings rituals: no, 4
Hairbrush spankings: no, 2
Hair pulling: no, 4
Hand jobs (giving): N/A
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO
Harnessing (leather): no, 2
Harnessing (rope): no, 2
Having food chosen for you: no, 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no, 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no, 0
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no, 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): I don't know what homage is, but I lie tongue...
Hot oils (on genitals): no, 0
Hot waxing: no, 3
Housework (doing): no, 1
Human puppy dog: no, 3
Humiliation (private): yes, 4
Humiliation (public): NO
Hypnotism: no, 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 4
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 3
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: no 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 4
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO
Piercing (permanent): NO
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 3
Public exposure: NO
Public tasks: NO
Pussy/cock whipping: no 4
Pussy worship: no 5
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N/A
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 1
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: yes 3
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 1
Serving as ashtray: NO
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO
Shaving (body hair): no 1
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): no 2
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 3
Slutty clothing (public): NO
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: NO
Spanking pleasure: no 3
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): N/A
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 1
Strapping (full body beating): no 3. Not too rough though. I don't want long term marks
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: N/A
Swallowing urine: no 1
Swapping (with one other couple): NO
Swinging (multiple couples): NO
Tattooing: NO
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: NO
Triple penetration by 3 males: NO
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: no 2
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: no 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 2
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 2
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: no 4
Wooden paddles: no 5
Wrestling: no 2

[98tiller]

Just leave this here, my fantasies revolve around rubber play and forced fem though even just the thought of servitude make me feel funny in my pants.


Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no 4
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 5
Animal roles: no 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 4
Asphyxiation: no 1
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 4
Breath control: no 3
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 4
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of):no 3
Caning: no 1
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 4
Chastity belts: no 1
Chauffeuring: no 3
Choking: no 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit:n/a
Clothespins body: no 4
Cock worship: no 5(strap-on)
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public):no no
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing):n0 4
Cuffs: n0 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no ?
Double penetration: no 5 mouth and ass with strap=on)
Electricity: no 4
Enemas: yes 5
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 5
Exercise (forced/required): no 4
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no no
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 5(strap-on)
Fantasy forced deep throat: n0 5 (strap-on)
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 5 (strap-on)
Fantasy gang-rape: no 4(strap-on)
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal):n/a
Flogging: no 4
Following hand signals: no 2
Following orders: yes 4
Foot worship:n0 4
Forced dressing: no 5 (forced fem)
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): no 5
Forced nudity (around others): no no
Forced servitude: no 5
Full head hoods: no 5
Gags (cloth):no 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 5
Gags (tape): no 4
Gates of Hell: no 2
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): fingering yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): no 5
Having food chosen for you: no 1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 5 (forced ffem)
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no no
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 4
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 5
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 5
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 5
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 4
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 3
Kneeling: no 3
Leather clothing: no 4
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): no 4
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 4
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 5

Modeling for erotic photos: no no
Modeling for erotic videos: no no
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no 5
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 4
Orgasm denial: no 2
Orgasm control: no 2
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 3
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 4
Public exposure: no no
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 2
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 5!!!!!!!!!!
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 5
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no 2
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5 domme only
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no no
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no 5
Slutty clothing (private): no 5
Slutty clothing (public): no no
Spanking in private: no 5
Spanking in public: no no
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: no 5
Spandex clothing: no 5
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5 in scene
Speculums (Anal): no 3
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 5
Suspension (inverted): no 4
Suspension (horizontal): no 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: no 5 (mine only)
Swallowing urine: no 3
Swapping (with one other couple):no 4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: no no
Uniforms: no 5
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: no 1
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no no
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling: no 4

[craveshumiliation]

ok so this will be my first post on this site ever...
ive only been an owned sub for a month now so i am very inexperienced ill openly admit that... so heres my answers for you.

Abrasion: NO 0
Age play: NO 1
Anal sex: YES 4
Anal plugs (small): YES 3
Anal plugs (large): NO 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): NO 2
Animal roles: NO 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): YES 1
Asphyxiation: NO 0
Auctioned for charity: NO 0
Bathroom use control: NO 1
Bestiality: NO 1
Beating (soft): YES 4
Beating (hard): NO 3
Blindfolds: YES 5
Being serviced (sexual): NO 1
Being bitten: YES 5
Breast/chest bondage: YES 4
Breath control: NO 2
Branding: NO 0
Boot worship: NO 1
Bondage (light): YES 5
Bondage (heavy): YES 5
Bondage (multi-day): NO 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): NO 4
Bondage and Sex: YES 5
Breast whipping: NO 2
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): NO 1
Caning: NO 3
Catheterization: ?
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO 1
Chastity belts: NO 3
Chauffeuring: NO 2
Choking: NO 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: YES 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: YES 3
Clothespins body: YES 3
Cock worship: YES 3
Collars (worn in private): YES 5
Collars (worn in public): NO 5
Competitions (with other Subs): NO 4
Corsets (wearing): YES 4
Cuffs: YES 5
Cuffs (metal): NO 4
Cutting: NO !
Dilation: ?
Double penetration: YES 5
Electricity: NO 3
Enemas: ?
Enforced chastity: NO 2
Examinations (physical): NO 1
Exercise (forced/required): YES 2
Exhibitionism (friends): NO 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO 1
Eye contact restrictions: YES 4
Face slapping: NO 2
Fantasy abandonment: NO 1
Fantasy rape: NO 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: YES 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: NO 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: NO 3
Fantasy gang-rape: NO 3
Fisting (anal): NO 1
Fisting (vaginal): NO 1
Flogging: NO 3
Following hand signals: YES 3
Following orders: YES 5
Foot worship: NO 1
Forced dressing: YES 4
Forced homosexuality: NO 1
Forced masturbation: YES 4
Forced nudity (private): YES 4
Forced nudity (around others):NO 1
Forced servitude: ?
Full head hoods: NO 0 (fear of suffocatting)
Gags (cloth): YES 5
Gags (penis shaped): NO 3
Gags (rubber): YES 5
Gags (tape): NO 3
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: YES 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): NO 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): NO 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO 0
Golden showers: NO 0
Greetings rituals: YES 4
Hairbrush spankings: YES 5
Hair pulling: YES 5
Hand jobs (giving): YES 5
Hand jobs (receiving): N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO1
Harnessing (leather): NO 3
Harnessing (rope): NO 3
Having food chosen for you: YES 3
Having clothing chosen for you: YES 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): ?
Head (giving fellatio): ?
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): ?
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: NO 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): NO 3
Hot waxing: NO 3
Housework (doing): YES 3
Human puppy dog: NO 1
Humiliation (private): NO 1
Humiliation (public): NO 1
Hypnotism: NO 1
Ice cubes: YES 5
Infantilism: NO 0
Initiation rites: YES 3
Injections: NO 0 (extreme fear of needles and knifes to the point of throwing up)
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: NO 3
Interrogations: NO 3
Kidnapping: NO 3
Kneeling: YES 5
Leather clothing: YES 4
restraints chains: YES 4
restraints leather: YES 4
restraints rope: YES 4
Lectures for misbehavior: YES 5
Licking (non-sexual): YES 5
Manacles & Irons: NO 2
Manicures (giving): YES 3
Massage (giving): YES 3
Massage (receiving): YES 5
Medical scenes: NO 0

Modeling for erotic photos: YES 5
Modeling for erotic videos: YES 4
Mouth bits: YES 4
Mummification: NO 0 (fear of sufficating)
Nipple clamps: YES 4
Nipple cloths pins: YES 4
Nipple weights: NO 2
Oral/anal play (rimming): reciving ? (YES 5) givinng (NO 1)
Over-the-knee spanking: YES 5
Orgasm denial: YES 5
Orgasm control: YES 5
Outdoor scenes: YES 1
Outdoor sex: YES 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): YES 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): NO 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 4
Piercing (permanent): YES 3
Prison scenes: NO 1
Pony slave: NO 1
Public exposure: NO 1
Public tasks: YES 4
Pussy/cock whipping: NO 3
Pussy worship: NO 1
Riding crops: NO 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO 1
Rituals: YES 4
Religious scenes: NO 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: YES 5
Rubber/latex clothing: YES 4
Rope body harness: NO 1
Saran wrapping:NO 1
Scratching – getting:YES 5
Scratching – giving: YES 5
Sensory deprivation: YES 5
Serving: YES 3
Serving as art: NO 2
Serving as ashtray: NO 0
Serving as furniture: NO 1
Serving as a maid: NO 1
Serving as toilet: NO 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: YES 3
Serving orally (sexual): YES 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): NO 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): YES 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO 3
Shaving (body hair): YES 4
Shaving (head hair): NO 0
Shaving (pubic hair): YES 4
Sleep deprivation: NO 1
Sleep-sacks: NO 1
Slutty clothing (private): YES 4
Slutty clothing (public): NO 3
Spanking in private: YES 4
Spanking in public: NO 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: NO 1
Spanking pleasure: YES 4
Spandex clothing: YES 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): NO 3
Speculums (Anal): ?
Speculums (vaginal):?
Spreader bars: NO 3
Standing in corner: YES 4
Stocks (adjustable): NO 2
Stocks (fixed): NO 2
Straight jackets: NO 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): NO 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO 1
Strapping (full body beating): NO 2
Suspension (upright); NO 2
Suspension (inverted): NO 2
Suspension (horizontal): NO 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: NO 3
Swallowing semen: YES 5
Swallowing urine: NO 0
Swapping (with one other couple): NO 1
Swinging (multiple couples): NO1
Tattooing: NO 1
Teasing: YES 5
Tickling: YES 4
Triple penetration: NO 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: NO 3
Uniforms: NO 2
Including others: NO 2
Vaginal dildo: YES 5
Verbal humiliation: NO 2
Vibrator on genitals: YES 5
Voyeurism (watching others): NO 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): NO 2
Video (watching others): YES 5
Video (recordings of you): YES 4
Water torture: NO 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: YES 5
Whipping: NO 5
Wooden paddles: NO 5
Wrestling: NO 3

sooo im very inexperinced and i have a few fears i know xx

[chrissysmurf]

Abrasion:no
Age play:yes 5
Anal sex:no5
Anal plugs (small):no 5
Anal plugs (large):no 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 5
Asphyxiation:no no 0
Auctioned for charity:no 2
Bathroom use control:no 5
Bestiality:no no
Beating (soft):no 4
Beating (hard):no 4
Blindfolds:yes 5
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 1
Breast/chest bondage:yes 5
Breath control:no no
Branding:no 3
Boot worship:no 3
Bondage (light):yes 5
Bondage (heavy):yes 5
Bondage (multi-day):yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing):yes 5
Bondage and Sex:yes 5
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):no 1
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning:yes 3
Catheterization:no2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 5
Chastity belts:no 5
Chauffeuring:no2
Choking:no no
Clothespins breast/nipples:no 2
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 2
Clothespins body:no 2
Cock worship:yes 5
Collars (worn in private):no 5
Collars (worn in public):no 5
Competitions (with other Subs):no 1
Corsets (wearing):yes 5
Cuffs:yes 5
Cuffs (metal):yes 5
Cutting:no 0
Dilation:no 1
Double penetration: no 4
Electricity:no 4
Enemas:yes 4
Enforced chastity:no 5
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required):no 3
Exhibitionism (friends):yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers):yes 3
Eye contact restrictions: yes 3
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment:yes 3
Fantasy rape:yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 5
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal):no 3
Fisting (vaginal):no 3
Flogging:yes 3
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: yes
Foot worship:yes 3
Forced dressing:yes 3
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation:yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):yes 5
Forced servitude:no
Full head hoods:no 5
Gags (cloth):yes 5
Gags (penis shaped):no 5
Gags (rubber):no 5
Gags (tape):yes 5
Gates of Hell:no
Genital sex:no
Given away to another Dom (temp):no
Given away to another Domme (temp):no
Given away to another Dom (perm):no
Given away to another Domme (perm):no
Golden showers:yes 5
Greetings rituals:no 3
Hairbrush spankings:yes 3
Hair pulling:no no
Hand jobs (giving):yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs):no
Harnessing (leather):no
Harnessing (rope):no
Having food chosen for you:yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you:yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):yes 5
Head (giving fellatio):yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:no
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals):no 3
Hot waxing:no 3
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog:no 3
Humiliation (private):yes 3
Humiliation (public):yes 3
Hypnotism:no 4
Ice cubes:yes 5
Infantilism:no 2
Initiation rites:no 1
Injections:no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:yes 4
Kidnapping:yes 5
Kneeling:yes 3
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:yes 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 5
Licking (non-sexual):yes 5
Manacles & Irons:yes 5
Manicures (giving):yes 3
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes:yes 2

Modeling for erotic photos:yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos:yes 2
Mouth bits:no 3
Mummification:no 1
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple cloths pins:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 5
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes:yes 5
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom):yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):yes 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 2
Piercing (permanent):no 2
Prison scenes:yes 5
Pony slave:no 4
Public exposure:yes 3
Public tasks:yes 2
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 3
Pussy worship:yes 3
Riding crops:yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 3
Rituals:no 3
Religious scenes: no3
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing:no5
Rope body harness:no5
Saran wrapping:no 3
Scratching – getting:no 3
Scratching – giving:no3
Sensory deprivation:yes 5
Serving:yes 2
Serving as art:no 2
Serving as ashtray:no 0
Serving as furniture:yes 1
Serving as a maid:yes 4
Serving as toilet:yes4
Serving as waitress/waiter:yes2
Serving orally (sexual):yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):no3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no3
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term):yes 5
Shaving (body hair):yes2
Shaving (head hair):no0
Shaving (pubic hair):yes 4
Sleep deprivation:yes 1
Sleep-sacks:no 2
Slutty clothing (private):yes 4
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3
Spanking in private:yes4
Spanking in public:no4
Spanking in bdsm parties:no
Spanking pleasure:yes4
Spandex clothing:no4
Speech restrictions (when, what):gag yes 5
Speculums (Anal):no4
Speculums (vaginal):yes4
Spreader bars:no5
Standing in corner:yes4
Stocks (adjustable):no4
Stocks (fixed):no4
Straight jackets:no5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no4
Strapping (full body beating):no4
Suspension (upright);yes4
Suspension (inverted):no4
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:no1
Swallowing semen:yes5
Swallowing urine:yes4
Swapping (with one other couple):no1
Swinging (multiple couples):no1
Tattooing:no1
Teasing:yes5
Tickling:yes3
Triple penetration:no5
Triple penetration by 3 males:no4
Uniforms:yes3
Including others:yes4
Vaginal dildo:yes5
Verbal humiliation:yes5
Vibrator on genitals:yes5
Voyeurism (watching others):yes4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):yes4
Video (watching others):yes5
Video (recordings of you):yes2
Water torture:no3
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes4
Whipping:yes4
Wooden paddles:yes5
Wrestling: no2

[Ozme52]

Bumping it up for those new to the library.

Copy the unanswered version over from page one if you want to do one of your own.

[The Novice]

As my name clearly states I am a novice and just getting into the BDSM world. This is something my wife is intrested in, she wants to be the sub. while i am the Dom. I want to make her happy. So I answered these question as if these would be things I would ask her to do as the sub. I hope that was the proper way to do this, and I rated this things by how much I would like to do them with her. I am going to ask her to take the questionair and she how we compare, but any advice from those more experniced then us would be greatly appreciated.


Abrasion: No, No
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no, 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles:No, No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):No, 0
Asphyxiation:No, No
Auctioned for charity:No, 0
Bathroom use control:No, No
Bestiality:No, No
Beating (soft):No, 0
Beating (hard):No, 0
Blindfolds:yes 5
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:no, 1
Breast/chest bondage:no, 1
Breath control:No, No
Branding:NO NO
Boot worship:No, 0
Bondage (light):Yes, 5
Bondage (heavy):no, 3
Bondage (multi-day):No, 2
Bondage (public, under clothing):no, 3
Breast whipping:no, 3
Brown showers (scat):No, No
Cages (locked inside of):No, 1
Caning:No, 1
Catheterization:No, No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):No, 1
Chastity belts:No, 1
Chauffeuring:No, 2
Choking:No, No
Clothespins:No, 0
Cock worship:No, 3
Collars (worn in private):No, 2
Collars (worn in public):No, 2
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing):No, 3
Cuffs:Yes 3
Cuffs (metal):Yes 3
Cutting:No, No
Dilation:No, No
Double penetration:Yes, 2
Electricity:No, No
Enemas:No, 0
Enforced chastity:No, 0
Examinations (physical):No, 0
Exercise (forced/required):No, No
Exhibitionism (friends):No, 1
Exhibitionism (strangers):No 1
Eye contact restrictions:No, 0
Face slapping:No, No
Fantasy abandonment:No 1
Fantasy rape:No, 1
Fantasy gang-rape:No, 1
Fisting (anal):No, 0
Fisting (vaginal):No, 0
Following orders:Yes, 5
Foot worship:No, 0
Forced dressing:No, 1
Forced homosexuality:No, 0
Forced masturbation:No, 1
Forced nudity (private): No, 1
Forced nudity (around others):No, 2
Forced servitude:No, 3
Full head hoods:No, 0
Gags (cloth):Yes, 4
Gags (rubber):Yes, 4
Gags (tape):No, 2
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:YES YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No, 2
Given away to another Dom (perm):N/A
Golden showers:No No
Hairbrush spankings:No, 4
Hair pulling:Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):N/A
Hand jobs (receiving):Yes, 5
Harems (serving w/other subs):N/A
Harnessing (leather):No, 3
Harnessing (rope):No, 2
Having food chosen for you:No, 3
Having clothing chosen for you:N/A
Head (giving fellatio):N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only Yes, 5
High heel worship:No,0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):No, No
Hot oils (on genitals):No, No
Hot waxing:No, No
Housework (doing):No, 3
Human puppy dog:No, No
Humiliation (private):No, 3
Humiliation (public):No, 3
Hypnotism:No, 3
Ice cubes:Yes, 4
Infantilism:No, No
Initiation rites:No, 3
Injections:No, No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:No, 2
Interrogations:No, 1
Kidnapping:No, 3
Kneeling:No, 3
Leather clothing:No, 4
restraints:No, 4
Lectures for misbehavior:No, 3
Licking (non-sexual):No, 2
Manacles & Irons:No, 3
Manicures (giving):No, 0
Massage (giving):Yes, 3
Massage (receiving):Yes, 5
Medical scenes:No, 3
Modeling for erotic photos:No, 3
Mouth bits:No, 3
Mummification:No, No
Nipple clamps:Yes 5
Nipple weights:No, 3
Oral/anal play (rimming):Yes, 5
Over-the-knee spanking:No, 5
Orgasm denial:Yes, 5
Orgasm control:Yes, 5
Outdoor scenes:No, 4
Outdoor sex:No, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom):Yes, 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):No, 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):No, 2
Piercing (permanent):No, 0
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave:No, No
Public exposure:No, 2
Pussy/cock whipping:No, 2
Pussy worship:No, 4
Riding crops:yes, 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):No, No
Rituals:No, 2
Religious scenes:No, 2
Restrictive rules on behavior:No, 2
Rubber/latex clothing:No, 3
Rope body harness:No, 3
Saran wrapping:No, 3
Scratching – getting:No, No
Scratching – giving:No, 0
Sensory deprivation:No, 3
Serving:No, 5
Serving as art:No, 3
Serving as ashtray:No, No
Serving as furniture:No, 3
Serving as a maid:No, 5
Serving as toilet:No, No
Serving as waitress/waiter:No, 4
Serving orally (sexual):Yes, 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):No, 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):No, 0
Sexual deprivation (short term):No, 0
Sexual deprivation (long term):No, 0
Shaving (body hair):No, No
Shaving (head hair):No, No
Sleep deprivation:No, No
Sleepsacks:No No
Slutty clothing (private):Yes, 5
Slutty clothing (public):Yes, 5
Spanking:Yes, 5
Spandex clothing:No, 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):No, 3
Speculums (Anal):No, No
Speculums (vaginal):No No
Spreader bars:No, 3
Standing in corner:No 3
Stocks (adjustable):No, 3
Straight jackets:No, 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):N/A
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):No, 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):N/A
Strapping (full body beating):No, 0
Suspension (upright);No, 0
Suspension (inverted):No, 0
Suspension (horizontal):No, 0
Supplying new partners for Dom:No, 0
Swallowing semen:N/A
Swallowing urine:no, No
Swapping (with one other couple):No, 3
Swinging (multiple couples):No, 3
Tattooing:No, 0
Teasing:Yes, 5
Tickling:Yes, 3
Triple penetration:No, 3
Uniforms:No, 3
Including others:No, 3
Vaginal dildo:No, 3
Verbal humiliation:yes, 5
Vibrator on genitals:Yes, 5
Voyeurism (watching others):No, 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):N/A
Video (watching others):Yes, 5
Video (recordings of you):No, 3
Water torture:No, No
Wearing symbolic jewelry:No, 5
Whipping No 4
Wooden paddles:No, 4
Wrestling: No, 0

[hellman]

well as i sill dont know if i'm dom or sub i did the two first is dom
The one for Dom/Masters

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a Dom and provided to their sub/slave before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0
to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no no
Age play: no 4
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): no 5
Anal plugs (large): no 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 5
Animal roles: no 1 if the sub wont it that much
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 1
Auctioned for charity:no 2
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 4
Beating (hard): no 3
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten: no no
Breast/chest bondage: no 4
Breath control: no no
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: no 4
Bondage (light): no 4
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Breast whipping: no 4
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 4
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 4/5
Chastity belts: no 5
Chauffeuring:no 1
Choking: no 4/5
Clothespins: no 3/4
Cock worship: no 4
Collars (worn in private):no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 4
Competitions (with other Subs):no 4/5
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: no 5
Cuffs (metal):no 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 2
Double penetration:no 4
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 4/5
Enforced chastity:no 5
Examinations (physical): no 4
Exercise (forced/required): no 3
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 5
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 2
Fantasy rape: no 4
Fantasy gang-rape:no 3
Fisting (anal): no 4/5
Fisting (vaginal): no 4
Following orders: no 5
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 4
Forced homosexuality:no 5
Forced masturbation: no 5
Forced nudity (private): no 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 4
Forced servitude: no 4
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (rubber): no2
Gags (tape): no no
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Hairbrush spankings: no 4
Hair pulling: no 3
Hand jobs (giving):no 5
Hand jobs (receiving): no 5
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no no
Having food chosen for you:no 1
Having clothing chosen for you:no 4
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only
High heel worship: no no
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 3
Hot oils (on genitals): no 4
Hot waxing: no 4
Housework (doing):no 4
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private):no 5
Humiliation (public): no 4
Hypnotism: no no
Ice cubes: no 2
Infantilism: no 2
Initiation rites:no 5
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no no
Interrogations: no 4 when needed
Kidnapping: no 2
Kneeling: no 5
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 5 when needed
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 4
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 3
Modeling for erotic photos: no 4
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no 3
Nipple clamps: no 4
Nipple weights: no 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4
Over-the-knee spanking:no 5
Orgasm denial: no 4
Orgasm control: no 4
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom):no 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes NO 4
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure:no 4
Pussy/cock whipping:no 4
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 4
Rituals: no 5
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior:no 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no no
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting:no no
Scratching – giving: no no
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 4
Serving as art:no 3
Serving as ashtray:no no
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 4
Serving as toilet: no 2
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 4
Serving orally (sexual): no 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no no
Shaving (body hair): no 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Sleep deprivation: no 4
Sleepsacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private):no 4/5
Slutty clothing (public): no 4/5
Spanking: no 4
Spandex clothing:no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):no 4
Speculums (Anal): no 3
Speculums (vaginal): no 3
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner:no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 4
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom:no 3
Swallowing semen: no 5
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple):no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: no 2
Tickling: no 4
Triple penetration:no 4
Uniforms: no 4
Including others:no 3
Vaginal dildo: no 4
Verbal humiliation:no 4
Vibrator on genitals: no 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): no 4
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 5
Whipping no 4
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling:no 3



now for sub


The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no no
Age play:no 4
Anal sex:no 3/4
Anal plugs (small):no3/4
Anal plugs (large):no 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 4/5
Animal roles: no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3/4
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 3
Beating (hard): no 0
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 2
Breast/chest bondage:no 4
Breath control: no 3/4
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 5
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: no 3
Brown showers (scat):no
Cages (locked inside of):no 5
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):yes 4/5
Chastity belts: no 4
Chauffeuring: no no
Choking: no 3
Clothespins breast/nipples:no no
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no no
Clothespins body: no no
Cock/pussy worship:no 4
Collars (worn in private): no 4/5
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3/4
Corsets (wearing): no 3
Cuffs: no 3/4
Cuffs (metal):yes 1
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 1
Double penetration: no no
Electricity: no 1
Enemas: no 3/4
Enforced chastity: no 4/5
Examinations (physical): no 4/5
Exercise (forced/required): yes 0/1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 1
Eye contact restrictions: no 4
Face slapping: no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 4
Fantasy rape: no 4
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 0/1
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no no
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): n/a
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 4
Forced homosexuality:no 1
Forced masturbation: no 5
Forced nudity (private): no 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 4
Forced servitude: no 4
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): no 4
Gags (penis shaped):no no
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): no no
Gates of Hellont no what this is can any one pm me what it is
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 4
Hairbrush spankings: no 3/4
Hair pulling: no 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 1
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 5
Having food chosen for you:no 3
Having clothing chosen for you:no 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 1
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no no
Hot waxing: no no
Housework (doing):no 1
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private):no 3/4
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: no 2
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 5
Interrogations: no 3/4
Kidnapping: no 4
Kneeling: no 3
Leather clothing:no 1
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: no 5
Lectures for misbehavior:no 3/4
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 2
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no 3
Mummification: no 4/5
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins:no no
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 4/5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: no 3
Orgasm control: no 3
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 3
Public tasks: no 3
Pussy/cock whipping:no no
Pussy worship: no 3/4
Riding crops: no 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 1
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes:no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 4/5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 1
Rope body harness: no 5
Saran wrapping:no 3/4
Scratching – getting:yes no
Scratching – giving: no no
Sensory deprivation: no 4/5
Serving: no 3
Serving as art:no 1
Serving as ashtray:no no
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 3
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 0/1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 4/5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3/4
Shaving (body hair): no 2
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no 1
Sleep deprivation: no 2
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private):no 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: no 3
Spanking in public: no no
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 3
Spanking pleasure:no 2
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what):no 3/4
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: 1
Standing in corner:no 3
Stocks (adjustable): 1
Stocks (fixed): 1
Straight jackets:no 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): no 3/4
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no no
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: no no
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple):no 1
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: no 2
Tickling: no 0
Triple penetration:no no
Triple penetration by 3 males:no no
Uniforms: no 3
Including others:no 3
Vaginal dildo: no 2
Verbal humiliation:no 3
Vibrator on genitals: no 5
Voyeurism (watching others):no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): no 3
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 5
Whipping: no 3 soft
Wooden paddles: no 1
Wrestling:no 1

[Ceight]

Sir_Russell,

The first time I saw this questionnaire I filled it out again and again. I pasted it into a word processing document. I added categories, I researched what some of the categories were.

The problem I had with this questionnaire was that I found reading and imagining each thing so exciting that I was inclined to say I liked or wanted to try nearly everything. Also, when answering the questionnaire I was imagining what my responses would be in sub-space, or in fantasy, which is not the norm.

I tried to add information to show if I was in sub-space this would be okay, but if I'm not in sub-space it's a only-if-you-must-but-it-doesn't-appeal event. I'm wondering if I just don't have enough experience in the community. Maybe a "2" would be read as something that could be enjoyed in sub-space.

I especially wondered if a distinctions should be made, because my final result seemed to indicate I was a very willing sub. But my over-all experience doesn't reflect this result.

[ksst]

I say use for your answers what you feel normally, not in subspace. Your dom may want to push through those "don't really love this but would do it" things, and get pleasure out of that, I don't know. You can always go back and revisit it when you have done certain things and know if you like them or not. That is what I have done. I like more things now for sure than when we started experimenting.

[Beachblonde476]

Abrasion: No / 0
Age play: No / 1
Anal sex: Yes / 4
Anal plugs (small): No / 3
Anal plugs (large): No / 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): No / 1
Animal roles: No / 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No / 0
Asphyxiation: No / No
Auctioned for charity: No / No
Bathroom use control: No / 4
Bestiality: No / NO
Beating (soft): Yes / 4
Beating (hard): Yes / 2
Blindfolds: Yes / 5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes / 5
Being bitten: Yes / 2
Breast/chest bondage: No / 3
Breath control: No / 0
Branding: No / No
Boot worship: No / No
Bondage (light): Yes / 5
Bondage (heavy): No / 2
Bondage (multi-day): No / No
Bondage (public, under clothing): No / No
Bondage and Sex: Yes / 4
Breast whipping: Yes / 4
Brown showers (scat): No / No
Cages (locked inside of): No / 3
Caning: No / No
Catheterization: No / 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No / 3
Chastity belts: No / No
Chauffeuring: No / 0
Choking: No / No
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes / 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: No / 3
Clothespins body: No / 2
Cock worship: Yes / 4
Collars (worn in private): Yes / 2
Collars (worn in public): No / No
Competitions (with other Subs): No / No
Corsets (wearing): No / No
Cuffs: Yes / 4
Cuffs (metal): No / 1
Cutting: No / No
Dilation: No / No
Double penetration: No / 2
Electricity: No / No
Enemas: No / 3
Enforced chastity: No / No
Examinations (physical): No / 3
Exercise (forced/required): No / 4
Exhibitionism (friends): No / No
Exhibitionism (strangers): No / No
Eye contact restrictions: No / 0
Face slapping: Yes / 1
Fantasy abandonment: No / No
Fantasy rape: Yes / 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes / 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No / 2
Fantasy forced rape anal: No / 2
Fantasy gang-rape: No / No
Fisting (anal): No / 2
Fisting (vaginal): No / 2
Flogging: Yes / 2
Following hand signals: No / No
Following orders: Yes / 5
Foot worship: No / No
Forced dressing: No / No
Forced homosexuality: No / No
Forced masturbation: No / 2
Forced nudity (private): Yes / 4
Forced nudity (around others): No / No
Forced servitude: No / 5
Full head hoods: No / No
Gags (cloth): No / 4
Gags (penis shaped): No / 3
Gags (rubber): No / 3
Gags (tape): No / 2
Gates of Hell:No / No
Genital sex: Yes / 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No / No
Given away to another Domme (temp): No / No
Given away to another Dom (perm): No / No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No / No
Golden showers: No / 2
Greetings rituals: No / 0
Hairbrush spankings: No / 3
Hair pulling: No / No
Hand jobs (giving): Yes / 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): No / No
Harnessing (leather): No / 3
Harnessing (rope): No / 2
Having food chosen for you: No / 2
Having clothing chosen for you: No / 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): No / 0
Head (giving fellatio): Yes / 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes / 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: No / No
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No / No
Hot oils (on genitals): No / 2
Hot waxing: Yes / 3
Housework (doing): Yes / 4
Human puppy dog: No / 3
Humiliation (private): No / 5
Humiliation (public): No / No
Hypnotism: No / No
Ice cubes: Yes / 4
Infantilism: No / 3
Initiation rites: No / No
Injections: No / No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No / 0
Interrogations: No / No
Kidnapping: No / No
Kneeling: Yes / 3
Leather clothing: No / 3
restraints chains: No / 3
restraints leather: No / 4
restraints rope: No / 3
Lectures for misbehavior: No / 4
Licking (non-sexual): No / No
Manacles & Irons: No / 0
Manicures (giving): No / No
Massage (giving): Yes / 2
Massage (receiving): Yes / 4
Medical scenes: No / 2

Modeling for erotic photos: Yes / 2
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes / 2
Mouth bits:
Mummification: No / No
Nipple clamps: Yes / 5
Nipple cloths pins: Yes / 4
Nipple weights: No / 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes / 1
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes / 4
Orgasm denial: No / 5
Orgasm control: No / 5
Outdoor scenes: No / No
Outdoor sex: No / No
Phone sex (serving Dom): No / 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No / No
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No / No
Piercing (permanent): No / No
Prison scenes: No / 3
Pony slave:
Public exposure: No / No
Public tasks: No / No
Pussy/cock whipping: No / 4
Pussy worship: No / 1
Riding crops: No / 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals: No / 0
Religious scenes: No / No
Restrictive rules on behavior: No / 5
Rubber/latex clothing: No / 0
Rope body harness: No / 1
Saran wrapping: No / No
Scratching – getting: No / No
Scratching – giving: No / No
Sensory deprivation: No / 0
Serving: Yes / 4
Serving as art: No / No
Serving as ashtray: No / No
Serving as furniture: No / 0
Serving as a maid: No / 4
Serving as toilet: No / 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: No / 4
Serving orally (sexual): Yes / 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No / 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No / No
Sexual deprivation (short term): No / 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): No / No
Shaving (body hair): Yes / 2
Shaving (head hair): No / No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes / 3
Sleep deprivation: No / No
Sleep-sacks: No / No
Slutty clothing (private): No / 3
Slutty clothing (public): No / No
Spanking in private: Yes / 3
Spanking in public: No / No
Spanking in bdsm parties: No / 0
Spanking pleasure:Yes / 4
Spandex clothing: No / 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): No / 0
Speculums (Anal): No / 2
Speculums (vaginal): No / 3
Spreader bars: No / 3
Standing in corner: No / 2
Stocks (adjustable):No /1
Stocks (fixed): No / No
Straight jackets: No / No
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No / 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No / 2
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No / No
Strapping (full body beating): No / No
Suspension (upright); No / 2
Suspension (inverted): No / 1
Suspension (horizontal): No / 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: No / 1
Swallowing semen: Yes / 5
Swallowing urine: No / 3
Swapping (with one other couple): No / No
Swinging (multiple couples): No / No
Tattooing: No / No
Teasing: Yes / 4
Tickling: No / 0
Triple penetration: No / 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: No / 0
Uniforms: No / 0
Including others: No / 1
Vaginal dildo: No / 3
Verbal humiliation: No / 3
Vibrator on genitals: Yes / 5
Voyeurism (watching others): No / 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No / 2
Video (watching others): Yes / 2
Video (recordings of you): Yes / 1
Water torture: No / No
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No / 0
Whipping: Yes / 3
Wooden paddles: No / 4
Wrestling:No / No

[Sir Scot]

Sounds very Interestting, Are you still available?

[Ceight]

So I don't expect anyone to try and read this, but if anyone wants to I revised the rating system. This makes it nigh impossible to read, but more accurate. You win some you lose some.

I have deleted repeats of things when one mention of the concept will do (e.g. I've never done electrical play so Violet Wand and TENS are superfluous categories. I'm not aroused by the idea of feces, so we don't need the soiling diapers category) or categories that do not apply to me. (I don't have any nor am I a dominant so ball stretching and I don't have anything to do with each other.)

Things with an X alone mean I have no idea what this is or what I think about it. (N X E) Is what I'd call a hard limit. I don't have any attraction to the idea what so ever. But I'd like to think any hard limits could be over come with some careful work and planning.

There's four spectrums: 1) How willing I am to do the thing. 2) How much it turns me on to think about it. 3) Whether it's a mildly negative or extremely negative sounding sensation. 4) How much guidance I would need to pull it off.

Y = I've done this
W = I've never done this but I'm interested in trying it (No convincing needed.)
U = Um, I've not tried it and I'm not sure if I'm willing (Need serious convincing.)
N = I've never done this and I don't plan on it (Hate the idea.)

X = I have never thought about it or I don't understand the appeal (If X is alone than I don't know what it is at all.)
F = I fantasize about this frequently
f = I fantasize about this sometimes
Z = I fantasize about this in sub-frenzy only

p = I consider this a mild punishment, bordering on pleasure (mild discipline, embarrassment or training)
P = I consider this a serious punishment, having no pleasure (painful or seriously humiliating)

C = Needs dominant and submissive context. (Even if I'm just pushing myself around.)
S = With a sadist and/or a sympathetic guide (Needs consistent motivation and supervision.)
E = I consider this edge play (Very unlikely to happen without a lot of attention and planning.)


Abrasion***Y f C
Age play***W F S*******
Anal sex****Y*F P S ************
Anal plugs (small)**Y p C
Anal plugs (large)***N P S
Anal plug (public, under clothes) Y p C
Animal roles**W Z p S
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) Y f p C
Aromas**X
Asphyxiation*W Z P E *****************
Auctioned for charity**N f P E**********************
Bathroom use control***U Z P E**
Beastiality**N Z E
Beating (soft)*W f P S************
Beating (hard)**N Z P E
Blindfolds**Y R p C*
Being serviced (sexual)*Y p C**
Being bitten**Y f p C
Breast/chest bondage Y F C
Breath control*W Z P E
Branding**N Z
Boot worship*W*X*************
Bondage (light)*Y F
Bondage (heavy)*Y F C*******
Bondage (multi-day)*Y F p S
Bondage (public, under clothing) Y f p
Breast whipping**W f P S
Brown showers (scat)**N X E*******
Cages (locked inside of)*W F p S
Caning**U Z P E
Castration fantasy X***********
Catheterization*U X S
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)*W F P S
Chains*W f C
Chamber-pot use U Z P S******************
Chastity belts*W f p S***********
Chauffeuring**U X C******
Choking**W P E******
Chores (domestic service)**W f S
Clothespins*Y p C************
Cock worship**W f p S***********
Collars (worn in private)*W F S******
Collars (worn in public)**U F S
Competitions (with other Subs) N X P**
Corsets (wearing casually)*Y f
Corsets (trained waist reduction) N Z E
Cuffs (leather)*W f C
Cuffs (metal)*W f C**************
Cutting*N X E*****
Diapers (wearing)*N X P S*************
Dilation*N X P E
Dildos**Y F C***************
Double penetration*(oral vaginal) Y F
Double penetration (oral or vaginal + anal) W F P S
Electricity**U X S
Enemas (for cleansing)*W X *
Enemas (retention/punishment) U X P S*
Enforced chastity*W F S
Erotic dance (for audience) U X S*****
Examinations (physical)*W X C
Exercise (forced/required)*W f S
Exhibitionism (friends)*U Z P S
Exhibitionism (strangers)*U Z P E
Eye contact restrictions*W F P S
Face slapping*W F P S
Fantasy abandonment*U X P E*********
Fantasy rape*W F P E
Fantasy gang-rape*N Z P E******
Fear (being scared)*U F P E
Fisting (anal)*N X P E
Fisting (vaginal)*N Z*P E
Flame play*U X S
Following orders*W F S************
Foot worship*U X S*************
Forced bedwetting*N X E ************
Forced dressing W F p S
Forced eating**U X p S
Forced homosexuality*N f P E (Since I'm bi the implication is being used as a tool to force another submissve.)****
Forced heterosexuality*N X P E*
Forced masturbation*U X p S**
Forced nudity (private)*W Z p S
Forced nudity (around others)*U Z P S*
Forced servitude*W F S
Forced smoking*N X P S****
Full head hoods*W Z p S
Gags (cloth)*Y F p C****************
Gags (inflatable)*W X p S**************
Gags (phallic)*W F p S**
Gags (rubber)**Y f p C**********
Gags (tape)*W f P S**
Gas masks**U X S*******
Genital sex**Y*
Given away to another Dom (temp)*W Z p S
Given away to another Dom (perm) N Z P E
Golden showers*U X P S
Gun play*Y Z P E
Hairbrush spankings*Y Z P S
Hair pulling*Y F p C
Hand jobs (giving)**Y f **********
Hand jobs (receiving)*Yp C***
Harems (serving w/other subs) U X S***
Harnessing (leather)*U X C
Harnessing (rope)*U X C
Having food chosen for you*W f p S*****
Having clothing chosen for you*W f p S
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)*Y F
Head (rcv fellatio/cunnilingus)**Y f C
High heel wearing*Y F p
High heel worship*W X p S
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)*U X p S
Hoods*W X C
Hot oils (on genitals) W X p C**********
Hot waxing**Y f P S
Housework (doing)*W F S***********
Human puppy dog**W f P S
Humiliation (private)*W F p S
Humiliation (public)**W f P S
Hypnotism**U X S
Ice cubes*W X ***
Immobilization*W F p S*************
Infantilism*U X E
Initiation rites*U X S*****
Injections*U X P E
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage W F S
Interrogations*W X P S
Kidnapping*W F P E**
Kneeling*W F S**
Knife play*U Z P E***********
Leather clothing*W X C**********
Leather restraints*W f C
Lectures for misbehavior*W F S*
Licking (non-sexual)*U Z p S
Lingerie (wearing)*Y X p
Manacles & Irons*W X p S
Manicures (giving)*N X p S
Massage (giving)*Y
Massage (receiving)*Y *******
Medical scenes**W X S********
Modeling for erotic photos*U f P S****
Mouth bits*W f p C
Mummification*U X S*************
Name change (for scene)*W F p S******
Name change (legal, permanent)**U X E**
Nipple clamps**Y f p C
Nipple rings (piercings)*W F p E******
Nipple play/"torture" W F P E
Nipple weights*U X P E
Oral/anal play (rimming) W X p C******
Over-the-knee spanking**W f P C
Orgasm denial*W F S
Orgasm control*W F S
Outdoor scenes*W X ****
Outdoor sex*W X *****
Pain (severe)*W Z P E*******
Pain (mild)**W F p S****
Persona training (in scene)*W f P S****
Personality modification (RL)*U F P E
Phone sex (serving Dom)*U X p C
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) U X P S
Phone sex (commercial provider)*N X P E
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) W F
Piercing (permanent)*U F p S
Plastic surgery*N X E
Prison scenes*W f S****
Prostitution (public pretense)*U Z P S
Prostitution (actual)*N Z P E
Pony slave*U Z p S
Public exposure*U Z P E**********
Punishment Scene*W F P S*****
Pussy/cock whipping*W F p S*
Pussy worship*W F S
Riding crops*W f p C****
Riding the "horse"*X
Rituals*W F S**
Religious scenes U f S***************
Restrictive rules on behavior*W F S
Rubber/latex clothing*Y f
Rope body harness*X***
Saran wrapping*U X C***********
Scarification*N*X P E
Scratching - getting*W X P S********
Scratching - giving**U X S
Sensory deprivation**Y F p C
Serving*W F S
Serving as art**W F S*************
Serving as ashtray*U f P E*******
Serving as furniture*Y F p S
Serving as a maid*W F S
Serving as toilet (urine) Y Z P E******
Serving as toilet (feces)*N X P E
Serving as waitress/waiter*W f S
Serving orally (sexual) Y F
Serving other doms (supervised) W F p S**
Serving other doms (unsupervised) U F P E
Sexual deprivation (short term)**W F C
Sexual deprivation (long term)***W Z C
Shaving (body hair)*Y X
Shaving (head hair)*Y X C
Skinny-dipping*Y X
Sleep deprivation*W Z P E********
Sleepsacks*X
Slutty clothing (private)**Y f p ***
Slutty clothing (public)***W F P S
Spandex clothing*W X C
Spanking*Y F p C
Speech restrictions (when, what)*W F p S
Speculums (Anal)*U X p
Speculums (vaginal)*U X p***
Spitting U X P S***********
Spreader bars*W F p C***********
Standing in corner*W f p S*****
Stocks*W f p C**************
Straight jackets W F p C*************
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)**Y F p C
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)*Y F p C *****************************
Strapping (full body beating)*N Z P E
Suspension (upright)*W f
Suspension (inverted)*W f P S***
Suspension (horizontal)*W f p S
Supplying new partners for Dom N X P E*
Swallowing feces*N X P E
Swallowing semen*Y f C****
Swallowing urine*Y Z P S**
Swapping (with one other couple) U f P S
Swinging (multiple couples)*N X P E
Tampon Training (in ass)*X
Tattooing*N Z P E
Teasing**W F p C***********
Thumbcuffs (metal)*X********
Tickling**Y f p C
Triple penetration W F P S*************
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) X *
Uniforms*W X
Including others W f p S***************
Vaginal dildo*X
Verbal humiliation*W F p S***
Vibrator on genitals*Y X ***
Voyeurism (watching others) W X P C******
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)*W F P S
Video (watching others)*Y X
Video (recordings of you)*U Z p E**
Water torture*U Z P E
Waxing (hair removal)*Y F P C*******
Wearing symbolic jewelry*W Z S
Weight gain (forced)*N X P E
Weight loss (forced)**U f P E
Whipping*W F P S
Wooden paddles*W F P S***********
Wrestling**U X C

[TheDeSade]

bump

[little_lost_devil]

oh my goddd!!!!
i didnt know just a list of limits could make one so hot and bothered...!
anyway, a great list, and was a must-know for neewbie like me!
thank you!

[slaveboy 6]

read "Fifty Shades Of Grey" . The hard limits are spelled out fully

[XxAlicexX]

Wow this is crazy hard to accomplish on a mobile device!!! Isn't there a way to do it easier without a computer? It keeps dumping all my info. This box is only an inch high on this thing! Lol