how to get REALLY turned on/ horny?

[chrisx18]

Alright so I am 20 and I can easily get turned on. I have had sex with a couple girls and did online bdsm stuff with a couple girls. I masturbate regulary but my questions is does anyone have any suggestions on getting REALLY turned on? As of now I might get super turned on as in I'm so hard that it almost hurts once or twice a year. Those always seem like the best orgasms. Does anyone have an tips on this? I am very open and have played out (online only) many many fantasies. I have also watched porn of even more fantasies. It just seems like when I masturbate now (because I'm currently single) that its just a "whatever" thing and I want it to be super good. Thanks for any replies I get.

[lucy]

I guess it's awfully difficult for everybody except you to know what gets you super turned on. For me, it can be a wide variety of things, from writing a good scene in a story to hours of tease and denial.

Also: If you expect every orgasm to be the best of your life so far, you're in for a big disappointment. Repeatedly.

That being said: Have fun and enjoy!

[The Novice]

I enjoy sharing fantasies with my wife. That is what gets me really turned on. Listening to her tell me hers and being able to tell her mine. So my suggestion to you is get a partner. Masturbation is fun but it doesn't quite cut it in my book.

[Ceight]

The best orgasms I've had on solo ventures are when I have a lot of privacy, no concern for inturruptions (Just like with a partner!) and I create a somewhat elaborate mood. Like Lucy said, denying myself for a long time is key. But the most important thing is to be self-observant, and self-directing. I generally have internal verbal thoughts, which are commands and exciting little abuses, and then I respond physically and emotionally in my submissive way. So, more or less, splitting my personality in two.

Have fun!

[Alchemystic]

When I was twenty being REALLY turned on required no effort whatsoever. From about age sixteen until I was about twenty-five, it was if I had broken the switch while it was in the on position. One thing you might consider is allowing yourself the arousal stages but without the payoff. This will create tension that will build upon itself, and the longer you go without release, the bigger the reward will be when you finally grant yourself an O. You can also use this time to work on yourself. You have the freedom to explore your own body and find out what you like, as well as work on things that will make you a better lover when you find a partner. Great sex requires an investment of time and effort, and arousasl is literally just the beginning. It seems that men are especially prone to think of sex as a two stage process consisting of "Horny" and "Orgasm". Not only are they destined to be lousy in bed, they also are going to miss out on some mind blowing experiencess. Ultimately it isn't about finding your biggest turn on, its about what happens next. Being turned on and having a huge orgasm are just alpha and omega. A start and a finish. What lay between the two is the best part. Put your efforts there, and you won't be disappointed.

[Ceight]

My partner hates the idea of orgasm denial. I love it for the reasons you, alchemystic, stated above. And I suddenly remember also from reading your post, that tantric since and 'The Multi-orgasmic Man' both rely on this concept of not cumming. I will be sure to try to explain the benefits of not orgasming loosely based on your short post. Thanks. I hope many men are converted.