What you wish subs knew....

[satisfied]

If there was one thing that you wish submissives, new or old, were aware of about Doms or Dom/sub relationships what would it be?

[shayna{L_D}]

that the relationship can in fact fail.

[Carpe Coma]

That the people involved are just that; people. Being x, y, or z doesn't confer any special powers or immunity from the human condition. It is so very easy to forget, or never realize, that.

[Mizar]

What it means, emotionaly and spiritualy and mentaly etc. That this is seriously...important. Not just a game to play (although it can be) but that it means something beyond "tie me up" it is...giving alot to be involved with this.

[Demon Dom]

That there is a reason why I chose her and she should stop questioning it. Stop questioning My taste.

[Pearlgem]

That there is a reason why I chose her and she should stop questioning it. Stop questioning My taste.

Ha ha! Are you listening, Adriana?

Good Domly advice there - they dig us!

[AdrianaAurora]

Ha ha! Are you listening, Adriana?

I have no idea who He is talking about.

[Pearlgem]

I have no idea who He is talking about.

You are so going to get it tonight, you minx!

[SubmissiveDoll]

One might think she is TRYING to get it. *grins*

But seriously Demon Dom, be nice to the poor girl. It's in our nature to question that very thing. I'm sure my Master wants to slap me silly sometimes. We believe you, on a rational level. But there is always that little bit of doubt that creeps in, and we have to ask.

[AdrianaAurora]

@ SubmissiveDoll

Yes, Tristan. Be nice to the poor girl.

[Pearlgem]

Whoever she might be.

[QueenCunt]

We are not mind readers. Communication is critical.

[13'sbadkitty]

its amazing this thread isn't larger, i hope more Dom/Dommes pick it up

[clarity25]

its amazing this thread isn't larger, i hope more Dom/Dommes pick it up

I agree, it's been quite enlightening thus far.

For instance, being a person who has struggled with self-esteem issues most (if not all) of my life, I've never truly considered what message that sends to others. As Demon Dom's post illustrates:

That there is a reason why I chose her and she should stop questioning it. Stop questioning My taste.

I appreciate the illumination of alternate points of view.

[Jennifer Williams]

That we need you as badly as you need us (though we may never let on that that's so)

[WIPLASH]

That there is a reason why I chose her and she should stop questioning it. Stop questioning My taste.

i tell my sub that shit all the time and she never get it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[666ick]

A lot of dominants are looking for permanent subs and not just weekend play. With out the M/s or D/s RELATIONSHIP, it's just kinky sex.

[MistressMallory]

How mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting it can be to be 100% Dominant, and how much she means to Me that I am willing to exhaust myself for her.

[Guera]

that we feel responsibility, not just control-freaky-ness

[Ozme52]

How mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting it can be to be 100% Dominant, and how much she means to Me that I am willing to exhaust myself for her.

A tremendous amount of energy is expended by us.

I am fortunate, my girl does indeed understand this.

[Jennifer Williams]

Especially the mental part. Do you know what it's like when my creative juices dry up? *groans with misery*

[jeanne]

A tremendous amount of energy is expended by us.

I am fortunate, my girl does indeed understand this.

Not only understands, but also deeply appreciates.