are all Doms polyamorous?

[Hime]

It actually occurs to me that I know more subs than doms who are poly -- I know a lot of doms who have the "I don't share my toys" attitude.

[gypsiecowboy]

I have never considered My sub(s) to be My toys. The only 3 times I played with subs ended up quite mixed - once was quite fine and I wanted to return to Nashville to play again, the other two were a total waste of time and energy. On the other hand, when I love someone I expect her to love Me in return which to Me means that I look out for her and care for her and sacrifice Myself when necessary for her and even sometimes when not necessary and though I might look elsewhere I do not touch elsewhere... and I ensure that I keep her on edge sexually... and in return I expect the same loyalty and total sexual submission. Only one relationship involved anything approaching 24/7 and I would just love to find another who went beyond submission and into service... but then again I am not certain I want that much responsibility again. Most of the time I prefer equality outside the bedroom and to be dominant in the bedroom. Would I share My lady with another? I have shared females with My brothers, but never have I allowed anyone to dominate My own - why would I do that? Her enslavement is to Me, not to man or male, to MMMeeeee. get it?
GypsieCowboy

[CookieMan]

Speaking for myself, no. I'm not polyamorous. My doll and I are strictly monogamous, and definitely happier for it. While I've never been an overly jealous/territorial person before, with her it is a whole other story. Poly happens in all walks of life though, not just the D/s community...it's just easier to explain in the D/s world. In 'vanilla' life, it would be more likely to be seen as cheating or 'having a mistress on the side'. Just my two bits, Sorry they're not worth much.

[thedominthehat]

I find that I have a hard time holding a romantic/sexual interest in more than one person at a time.

A harem in the I am a wealthy mofo with a lot of willing companions kinda way is attractive but really just for sexual use and entertainment purposes. I think it is possible to have some kind of polyamorous or polygamous relationship but I think that there are always going to be favorites. Just look at the Taj Mahal, he didn't build that for every wife just his favorite. Can I care about more than one woman at a time? Sure. Can I have fun with more than one sub at a time? Hell yeah, but one of them is always going to be my first choice and the other is going to be a friend with benefits or just for entertainment. I think having a large harem pretty much eliminates much emotional connection to any of the submissives. If I had a dozen or so women competing for my attention at any given time I would definitely treat the vast majority of them badly because they would be essentially disposable.

[Kostly]

Everyone lives this lifestyle their own way. I am not Poly, but I can promise you that the way I Dom is found in any single forum. The best answer I can give you is to follow your heart and listen to your gut. Just dont think too much.

[wind_dancer{W_W}]

this is a touchy topic for myself..... i am and i tend to be a viciously jealous person.... like to the extent that i am actually ashamed of myself, so if another sub is introduced in any part of my life, as more than just a friend to my relationship i will definately have to learn not to bite her (if it were to be a male sub i really dont think i would mind bizarrely enough) head off

this just reminds me of the song by Breaking Benjamin called duh duh duh dah "Polyarmorous".... AWESOME SONG

Now here's where i get geeky:

"poly" means many
"amorous" means loves

therefore i think i need to distinguish between polyamory which would mean love

and just meaningless additions to the "playtime" between a Dom and a sub !!

[Cipher]

I guess I'll drop my own insights here as well.

I am personally polyamorous, and have been for as long as I can remember. I have to agree with everyone that says yes, you should absolutely tell the people in your life something that important. There is a fine line between keeping certain things private and lying to those around you. And I have to agree with the assessment of your Dom.

Supposedly you meant so much to him that he wasn't willing to share you, he was married to another women - something that usually implies a hi level of love as well - yet you two had no idea about his 'real' life. I can't see how this would work out in your favor. I don't want to think about how things would have ended changing after a few years.

As for asking about all Doms, there is no absolute. We are 6.5 billion individuals, and every one of is going to have different rules about life.

[Logic1]

I am one of the "I don´t share my toys" kind of guy myself but naturally as any redblooded male, the thought of a harem sure has some appeal but no I wouldn´t want that in real life for sure. Too much things that can go wrong and the potential for soo much drama that I sure don´t need.
No, I dont share my toys and neither would I share my girl with anybody. She´s all mine.

[SOUTHERN GENTLEMAN]

Each his own. NO, NO, and NO. but each his own.