Is mistress/female slave BDSM or lesbian?

[MissConfused]

I would love to have a Mistress or
Be a Mistress to a female slave

But I don't think of myself as lesbian
Instead I think of myslef lost in the BDSM world

Does a mistress/slave - female/female relationship have to be lesbian?

[leo9]

I would love to have a Mistress or
Be a Mistress to a female slave

But I don't think of myself as lesbian
Instead I think of myslef lost in the BDSM world

Does a mistress/slave - female/female relationship have to be lesbian?

As I use the terms, no, because I believe that Dom/sub as an orientation trumps hetero/homosexual. If you're Dominant, you turn on to subs, and whether they're male or female is a matter of taste, it doesn't define your orientation. Likewise if you're sub you turn on to Doms, then pick your preference for gender. I've known plenty of men who wanted to sub to a woman, but who accepted me as the next best thing. They weren't gay, they were just submissive.

Of course you'll get a completely different answer from a guy with a taste for lesbian BDSM porn

[subserviant]

i dont think u need to be a lesbian it might help if u were bi ,but not nessesary

[denuseri]

Just becuase you dominate someone doesnt mean you have to have sexual relations with them.

[Veralynne]

I don't think you have to be a lesbian. I certainly don't consider myself a lesbian or even *really* bisexual (I've never dated a woman) though I have considered serving a Mistress in the past.

Since I am not really a lesbian though, and would never want to give up men completely, the more likely thing that would ever happen is my Master ordering me to serve a Domme (though I'm not sure if He wants anyone else ordering me around :-P ).

Actually... come to think of it... forced homosexual behavior when you consider yourself heterosexual can be quite humiliating and kind of hot...

Anyway! I got off on a tangent fantasy there.... the point is, no. I think you can just like to serve :-)

[Roadwatch]

Hi,As a Mistress I know that you don't have to be a lesbian.In either situation.I am a Dominant Mistress.If you want to chat more about your concerns please feel free to contact me.ok.

[voxelectronica]

Actually... come to think of it... forced homosexual behavior when you consider yourself heterosexual can be quite humiliating and kind of hot...

It's actually a very intense turn on. I've refused to have a submissive who will not submit their orientation. Even if I don't force the point I know I want the option of assigning an orientation.

I agree that submissive trumps any other orientation and even the straightest male submissive I've run across who will swear up and down that they will not entertain other men will change their tune the minute you say "okay well then we can't do this".

can slut be an orientation?

[slavedoggieboy]

I dont think you have to be a lesbian to serve as a slave to another woman, nor does a male need to be a homosexual to serve another male.
I am a slave to my Mistress L and as such i do as she orders, and if she ordered me to serve another male as his slave, complete with giving head to him, i would do so with no qualms. I dont feel that this would make me a homosexual, it would just be and indication of my total service and commitment to Her.
I have provided this type of service to two men, 50 odd years ago, and did so at the direction of my then Mistresses, sisters, who trained me in total servitude to them and their friends. At the time i did this, the early 1950,s giving head or going down on anyone, man or woman, was considered to be a dirty locker room joke.
If you want to serve a woman, go for it. As the old saying goes, try it, youmight like it.

slavedoggieboy

[shayna{L_D}]

Actually... come to think of it... forced homosexual behavior when you consider yourself heterosexual can be quite humiliating and kind of hot...

Anyway! I got off on a tangent fantasy there.... the point is, no. I think you can just like to serve :-)

I agree with you.

Actually i am bisexual and i have been in ONE relationship with ONE girl for two years, it was light D/s (my first intro do BDSM) but i dont concider myself a lesbain..but i do find women attrative, but i have never fully submitted to a female. Now that i think about it when it comes to someone Domming me, i think of a man. But i wouldnt turn away the right woman either




answer MissConfused, is no, IMO

[Ozme52]

can slut be an orientation?

I'd say definitely yes.

[Ozme52]

It's actually a very intense turn on. I've refused to have a submissive who will not submit their orientation. Even if I don't force the point I know I want the option of assigning an orientation.

I agree that submissive trumps any other orientation and even the straightest male submissive I've run across who will swear up and down that they will not entertain other men will change their tune the minute you say "okay well then we can't do this".

I agree.

By that I mean, I don't believe a woman who submits to a domme has to necessarily be a lesbian, (or bi-sexual or even bi-curious,) but she will need to be "domme-curious" at least.

And... she will undoubtedly be forced to have some kind of girl-on-girl sexual interaction (otherwise just go find a female supervisor or boss to work for.)

Now, whether that sex is totally for the purpose of humiliation (because of the sapphic aspect,) or for the pleasure of the domme or other onlookers (if there is an exhibitionist aspect,) it is, as vox has said, a very intense turn-on.

I have a domme friend who has both male and female subs, and her descriptions of using a strap-on on either of them is exceptionally erotic... and I have zero interest in men, but yeah, I wouldn't mind seeing her use her boy toy.

I also agree that submission trumps other orientation limits. What might start out as a hard limit (heh) may well soften with time if the domme insists she doesn't want a submissive with that particular limit.

[Mistress Annabelle]

It depends how sexual your domination is. There has to be an element of attraction underlying your domination if you are sexually aroused by a woman. This is not just because you are dominant, in my opinion. Submission does not automatically make a dominant attracted to them? Or want to dominate that particular person. (This is in my experience, at any rate, I am by no means absolute...)

However the relationship doesn't sound lesbian... if you like men...

If there is sexual attraction, you are probably bisexual.

But this is just my opinion...