Ok where to start?

[crashbest]

Hi, I am new to the lifestyle. I am trying to figure out my life right now. I am looking to start a D/s relationship with my wife. She is the one who brought the whole thing up. It is a very long and drawn ont story, but basically through a series of events we relized that we were lost. I didnt know her and she didnt know me but more importantly we didnt know ourselves. We are curently taking a step back from each other to explore. I need a experienced friend if anyone is interested. Someone who is experienced in the D/s Lifestyle, not someone who does it on the weekends or for special occasions. If anyone is interested let me know it really is a wierd story.

[rsjankowski]

welcome to the lifestyle, not worried to much about the particulars, but if she brought it up, ask her about what she percieves the relation ship roles are to be and ttell her you rexpectations then journey together through the library, ask the nice people here, main thing is if it's going to be a relationship it needs to be done together, sure extra research is good, but if both are doing it at the same time, you can share your discoveries as they are fresh in the mind, and you can talk over them, after a while you'll see the pattern of how things are wanted, wished for, and through experience you'll be able to discard that which doesn't work. i've had my share of wierdness. ask the people here, i'm sure they know by now i'm pretty open about my life and what i think from the brief time i've been posting here

[Ozme52]

[Aussiegirl1]

Hi and welcome to the forum. I am sure you will find it both fun and informative. Good luck as you begin to explore a new ideas and feelings. Just remember, everyone is different, so keep communicating with each other and have fun!

[blythe spirit]

[love2serve]

i would agree with Aussiegirl above, communication is the key. I was in somewhat the same situation, so maybe we can chat?

[QuietMaster]

Open communication.

Interactive and effective listening.

Accept information without prejudgement and filtering.

Respect, appreaciate and accept each other plus the differences.

Remember that differences are not negatives about each other. They are the signs of independence within a relationship where each partner supports the other.

A few items for you to consider.

[Diablo]

Patience.

Lots of patience while you both feel out the situation and each other.

This is a journey and I wish you luck.

Welcome.

[DiablosLittleOne]

Welcome to the Library.

[rosebud]

Hi Welcome to the Community! Have fun and Enjoy the journey!

[denuseri]

wellcome to the site

we are so very happy to have you here, the forums are full of great information, as well as having a very nice personels section and chatroom

feel free to pm any of the staff or myself with conserns or questions, we are more than willing to lend a hand

hope to see more of you soon
have lots of fun exploring the site
hugs and kissess
denu

[Tufty]

Hello and to the Forums