Bit of help needed

[Jeanie]

Hi, Im really very very new to this and just need a bit of info. Im a submissive and was just wondering exactly what an online relationship would normally involve. Sorry if this is a bit of a stupid question.

[Ropeweb]

and ur question isnt stupid

[Jeanie]

Thank you

[Dr_BuzzCzar]

I'm married to a sub I met via the internet. We've been together for over 10 years, so its worked for us.

Others have an online relationship that is an end unto itself. Personally I've always felt that on line was the preamble to a R/T relationship. That's what has worked for me. So keeping that in mind, my goals on an on-line relationship has been to learn about the sub, be sure its not some crazy chick, kind of vet the person I'm talking to. I'm skeptical about people until they earn trust. Then I proceed with some activities, rules, behavior modifiers, etc. All with the idea of eventually meeting and doing those things we've been discussing.

I'm sure there are others that for one reason or another have strictly on-line relationships that can cast a better light on the goals involved in that aspect.

Good luck, go slowly, get multiple points of view, trust your instincts.

[fetishdj]

There are no stupid questions, only stupid answers. I am usually good and providing the stupidest answers...

Online relationships are as varied as r/t ones can be. I have known them to be used for occasional 'kink sessions' between friends who maybe do not have anyone near them, through being used as a preamble to r/t as desribed above all the way up to long term (24/7 TPE, married couples) relationships where they are, for some reason (usually related to work) seperated by many miles.

You can do online using simple e-mail messages/text messages. The Dom/me sends the sub messages telling them what they want done and a deadline in which to do it. The sub has to perform the task and reply with a report to tell the Dom/me they have completed the task. They may have to supply evidence (photos, voice recordings, videos) to show that the task has been done.

You can also do more real time sessions using VOIP, webcams and messenger software like msn. IN these cases you follow instructions given over the messenger system/VOIP system and the Dom/me can see you perform them on the webcam.

As for the sort of tasks that may be set. There are degrees of complexity to consider and a good online Master will find your comfort zone based on your experience and what equipment you have. The initial tasks in many online relationships are usually writing tasks - telling the Dom/me about fantasies etc. A Dom/me can also do things like determine how you dress (both in session and the rest of the time), what and when you eat, and impose other controls over your life (such as when you cum, when you go to bed and so on).

If you want an idea as to the sort of tasks you may get given check out the Taskee threads in this forum. Also, if you want more ideas, send me a PM and I will send you some examples of tasks I have been assigned in the past.

There are also some software packages out there which can act as a Dom/me in some ways when your own is not around to 'keep an eye on you'. These prepare logs that are sent to the Dom/me on a regular basis telling them thing like how many times you requested to go to the toilet, whether you asked permission to cum and so on.

In all cases, there will (or should be) a period of negotiation between you and the Dom/me as to what your limits are.