Some Basic Safety Tips For Online Relationships

[Aesop]

If you were a real slave you would...

I read a thread today that asked "Is it true that all slaves never say no?" Holy hell! NO it's not true. Limits should be set at what the slave is comforatable with and that's that. If you're guy or girl is telling you that you have no choice or if you were a real slave you would just obey, tell him or her to get stuffed.

[suki]

After reading some of the responses I feel that I can safely say NO to an online Dom wihtout any guilt. Not knowing what to look for online from a Dom or wanna be Doms is alot like having sex for the first time. You just don't know what to expect, how to react or what to do in order for your partner to enjoy your body as well as for you to enjoy his or hers.


Once again , great insight.

[Aesop]

Glad to help.

[Silke]

Hey, just thought this was a good resource and should be further up in the threads...

Thanks, Aesop...good one as usual!

[wingsofanangel]

I suggest getting to know many in a community and making friends first....

I actually was friends with Ocean long before him being my O/L Dom. He has chosen his Dominate side but sometime ago subbed for a small while. He and I used to talk a lot and I confided in him about stuff and he was always fun to talk to... when I came back to the community.. he had choosen his Dom side.. we talked as friends... and then he helped guide me some.. then it only felt natural to ask him/let him be my Dominant.

I suggest not jumping right into anything but get to know people on friendship levels.. and keep the kink low.. it will help you get to know them and to see if they are interested in you as a person.. or as a piece of meat to have cyber with.

just my thoughts.


Sera (anya)

[frankee]

i agree wings,

my Mistress and i built a friendship before we ventured into the BDSM world. Building the friendship first, gives you an extra bond and strengthens your D/s relationship.

[Tojo]

Some good comments from some smart girls, who obviously know what they want & how to get it- compromise leads nowhere.

Thanks to anya, frankee & suki- take heed new subs.


Tojo

[wingsofanangel]

Thank you for your kindness Sir.

Sera (anya)

[Aussiegirl1]

Just reading this thread for the first time and I have to agree it was worth moving it up, thanks Silke. Aesop as always, great work.

I have to agree with the comment about being cautious with online doms. I have not had a bad experience, but being new to all this, I will be aware of what to look out for. To me, there would have to be a friendship first and anyone who wasn't interested in that, well I don't think I would want to know about it.

Thanks again Aesop, nice to get such good and honest advice.

[frankee]

Some good comments from some smart girls, who obviously know what they want & how to get it- compromise leads nowhere.

Thanks to anya, frankee & suki- take heed new subs.


Tojo

Thank You Tojo

[Aesop]

You're welcome everybody. I just hate to see good people get used by assholes.

[Qmoq]

You're welcome everybody. I just hate to see good people get used by assholes.

Interesting, Aesop! I like to see assholes get used by good people

Coo. I think I watch too much porn.

It's no great surprise to see smart gals like frankee and anya be careful and cautious with their choice of dominant, good luck to all those who aren't as savvy as those two.

Q

[Aesop]

Interesting, Aesop! I like to see assholes get used by good people

[frankee]

Interesting, Aesop! I like to see assholes get used by good people

Coo. I think I watch too much porn.

It's no great surprise to see smart gals like frankee and anya be careful and cautious with their choice of dominant, good luck to all those who aren't as savvy as those two.

Q

Thank You for the compliment

[Tojo]

You're welcome everybody. I just hate to see good people get used by assholes.

I'm with you all the way there Aesop- a man after my own heart indeed.


Tojo

[wingsofanangel]

Interesting, Aesop! I like to see assholes get used by good people

Coo. I think I watch too much porn.

It's no great surprise to see smart gals like frankee and anya be careful and cautious with their choice of dominant, good luck to all those who aren't as savvy as those two.

Q

awww thanks Q-sy-poo!

<3

Sera