Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

[zasvig]

Abrasion:no no
Age play:
Anal sex:yes 5
Anal plugs (small):yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation:yes 4
Auctioned for charity:no 1
Bathroom use control:no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft):yes 5
Beating (hard):no 3
Blindfolds:yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no 4
Breast/chest bondage:no 4
Breath control: no 4
Branding: no no
Boot worship:no 3
Bondage (light):yes 5
Bondage (heavy):no 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:yes 5
Breast whipping:n/a
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning:no no
Catheterization:no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 3
Chastity belts:no 5
Chauffeuring: donno
Choking:no 4
Clothespins breast/nipples:no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit:n/a
Clothespins body: no 3
Cock worship:no 1
Collars (worn in private): no 3
Collars (worn in public):no 2
Competitions (with other Subs): no 2
Corsets (wearing): n/a
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal):no 3
Cutting:no no
Dilation:
Double penetration:n/a
Electricity: no 4
Enemas:no 4
Enforced chastity:no 5
Examinations (physical):no 1
Exercise (forced/required):no 1
Exhibitionism (friends):no 2
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 2
Eye contact restrictions:no 3
Face slapping:no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 3
Fantasy rape:n/a
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 1
Fantasy forced cunt licking:yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2
Fantasy gang-rape:no 1
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal):n/a
Flogging:yes 4
Following hand signals:no 2
Following orders:yes 5
Foot worship:no 3
Forced dressing:no 3
Forced homosexuality:no 1
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private):no 3
Forced nudity (around others):no 3
Forced servitude:no 3
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth):no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 3
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape):no 1
Gates of Hell:yes 3
Genital sexonno
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals:no 2
Hairbrush spankings:no 2
Hair pulling:yes 3
Hand jobs (giving):no 1
Hand jobs (receiving):no 3
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 1
Harnessing (leather):no 5
Harnessing (rope):no 5
Having food chosen for you:no 3
Having clothing chosen for you:no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no 1
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only):yes 2
High heel worship: no 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 4
Hot oils (on genitals):no 4
Hot waxing:no 4
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private):no 5
Humiliation (public):no 3
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes:no 3
Infantilism:no 0
Initiation ritesonno
Injections:no 3
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:no 3
Kidnapping:no 1
Kneeling:no 4
Leather clothing:no 5
restraints chains:yes 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior:no 2
Licking (non-sexual):yes 4
Manacles & Irons:no 3
Manicures (giving):no 3
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos:no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 4
Nipple cloths pins: no 4
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no 5
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 4
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: no 3
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 4
Serving as ashtray: no 3
Serving as furniture:no 4
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet:no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): no 2
Shaving (head hair): yes 3
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: no 3
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): no 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4
Spanking pleasure: no 4
Spandex clothing: no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 5
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: no 1
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no no
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/a
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: no 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): no 3
Video (recordings of you): no 3
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling:[/QUOTE] no 3

ok here it is that was fun and informative even for myself thank you for putting this together

[Sir_Russell]

zasvig
Try to get her to take the Dom/me on before you give her yours. that way you have a beggining point without prejudicing her responses.

You will do well as a sub remember that male subs have a tougher time of it then do the female subs.

[Sir_Russell]

Xanthos
remember they are starting points for negotiating limits and hopefully a full contract

[TomOfSweden]

It's not a very romantic/erotic list is it?

[Sir_Russell]

it was never intended to be romantic but it is damn erotic

[jon73]

Might want to consider adding "vacuum bed..."

[ladysinaz]

There is alot of ish and i dunno in filling this out )



Abrasion: no 2
Age play:no no
Anal sex:yes 3
Anal plugs (small):yes 3
Anal plugs (large):no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 1
Animal roles: no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 2
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 1
Breath control: no 1
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no no
Bondage (light): yes 4
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 4
Breast whipping: no 1
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 1
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1
Chastity belts: no 1
Chauffeuring: no 1
Choking: yes 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 1
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 1
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: not sure if worship would be the correct term but---yes
Collars (worn in private): yes 4
Collars (worn in public):yes 4
Competitions (with other Subs): no 2
Corsets (wearing): no 1
Cuffs: no 2
Cuffs (metal): no 2
Cutting: no 1
Dilation: no ?
Double penetration: no 3
Electricity: no 2
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 2
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: no no
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 1
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 1
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): yes 2
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 2
Following orders: yes 2
Foot worship: no no
Forced dressing: no 3
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 1
Gags (rubber): no 1
Gags (tape): no 1
Gates of Hell: ?? n o
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): ish 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 1
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 2
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3
Hot waxing: yes 3
Housework (doing): not for play  3
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no 2
Hypnotism: no no
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 1
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 1
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing:yes 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 3
Massage (giving): yes 3
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 3
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 3
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: no 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 4
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: no 3
Outdoor scenes: no 2
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:no 3
Scratching – getting: no 3
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 3
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no 1
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally (sexual): yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 2
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 3
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 4
Spanking in public: no 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 2
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 1
Stocks (fixed): no 1
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 2
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 2
Swallowing semen: no 1
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: have some but not for scenes
Teasing: yes 3
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 1
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: yes 2
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 2
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 1
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling:no 3

[Sir_Russell]

ladysinaz

Fairly unusual in that you have not selected any 5 and only a few 4s. Are you new to the life?

I was impressed with the lack of no no shows that you are open to experiences.

A bood Dominant may open you up and show you the joy of the Life.

[Gr1m'sGirl]

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: yes 3
Anal sex: yes 2
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): yes 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 2
Animal roles: yes 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 2
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity: no
Bathroom use control: no
Bestiality: yes 5
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 1
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 2
Breast/chest bondage: yes 4
Breath control: yes 0
Branding: NO
Boot worship: yes 0
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 3
Bondage (multi-day): yes 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 0
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 1-2
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): yes 0
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 0
Chastity belts: yes 0
Chauffeuring: yes 0
Choking: yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 1
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: yes 4
Dilation: no
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: yes 0
Enemas: yes 1
Enforced chastity: yes 0
Examinations (physical): yes 0
Exercise (forced/required): yes 0
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: yes 1
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: yes 0
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: yes 5
Fisting (anal): yes 0
Fisting (vaginal): yes 2
Flogging: yes 4
Following hand signals: yes 0
Following orders: yes 4
Foot worship: yes 2
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 3
Forced masturbation: yes 1
Forced nudity (private): yes 4
Forced nudity (around others): yes 4
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 0 (Afraid of having head fully covered.)
Gags (cloth): yes 2
Gags (penis shaped): yes 2
Gags (rubber): yes 2
Gags (tape): yes 4
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 1
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: no
Greetings rituals: yes 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): Fingering, yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no
Harnessing (leather): yes 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 0
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: yes 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 1
Hot waxing: yes 1
Housework (doing): yes 1
Human puppy dog: yes 0
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): yes 4
Hypnotism: yes 0
Ice cubes: yes 1
Infantilism: yes 0
Initiation rites: yes 1
Injections: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 4
Interrogations: yes 1
Kidnapping: yes 4
Kneeling: yes 2
Leather clothing: yes 4
restraints chains: yes 3
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 1
Licking (non-sexual): yes 1
Manacles & Irons: yes 2
Manicures (giving): yes 1
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: yes 1
Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 1
Mummification: yes 0
Nipple clamps: yes 3
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: yes 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 1
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 1
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: yes 2
Outdoor sex: yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): yes 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes 1
Piercing (permanent): yes 4
Prison scenes: yes 3
Pony slave: yes 1
Public exposure: yes 4
Public tasks: yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 3
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 3
Rituals: yes 2
Religious scenes: yes 5
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 4
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 2
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping:yes 5
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: yes 4
Sensory deprivation: yes 1
Serving: yes 3
Serving as art: yes 3
Serving as ashtray: yes 1
Serving as furniture: yes 3
Serving as a maid: yes 4
Serving as toilet: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 1
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): yes 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 0
Shaving (body hair): yes 2
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 2
Sleep deprivation: yes 3
Sleep-sacks: yes 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 4
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes 5
Spanking pleasure:yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 2
Speculums (Anal): yes 0
Speculums (vaginal): yes 0
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: yes 1
Stocks (adjustable): yes 2
Stocks (fixed): yes 2
Straight jackets: yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3
Strapping (full body beating): yes 2
Suspension (upright); yes 2
Suspension (inverted): yes 3
Suspension (horizontal): yes 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 0
Swallowing semen: yes 2
Swallowing urine: no
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 1
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3
Tattooing: yes 3
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: NO.
Triple penetration: yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 5
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Not quite understanding this one, my dom with other people and me watching or them watching me?
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 3
Water torture: yes 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 4
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling:yes 4


Yes means I will try it or have tried it, No means no chance. 1-5 on how much I enjoy it.

I am happily owned by Gr1m.

[Sir_Russell]

and you should make him very happy. Very nice responses.

For others please remember the no no is no fucking way.

[ladysinaz]

yes Sir Russel,
i am new to it all, not so much in my head and had some minor experiences with a dominating type a few yrs back. I have very little Real life experience with most things on the list. If i am fully submitted i am willing to at least try most things.. I always say, try everything once, twice usually just to make sure you didn't like it the first time

[sub-butterfly]

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: Yes 4
Age play: No 1
Anal sex: No 1
Anal plugs (small):Yes 2
Anal plugs (large): Yes 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 2
Animal roles: No 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 4
Asphyxiation: Yes 5
Auctioned for charity: No 3
Bathroom use control: Yes (slightly) 3
Bestiality: No No
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): No 3
Blindfolds: No 4
Being serviced (sexual): No 4
Being bitten: Yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 5
Breath control: No 4
Branding: No 2
Boot worship: No 1
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes 4
Bondage (multi-day): No 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 4
Bondage and Sex: Yes 5
Breast whipping: No 4
Brown showers (scat): No No
Cages (locked inside of): No 2
Caning: No 3
Catheterization: No 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No 2
Chastity belts: Yes(brief) 4
Chauffeuring: No 3
Choking: No 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 5
Clothespins body: Yes 4
Cock worship: Yes 4
Collars (worn in private): No 4
Collars (worn in public): No 4
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing): No 5
Cuffs: Yes 4
Cuffs (metal): No 4
Cutting: No 2
Dilation: No 3
Double penetration: No 2
Electricity: No 3
Enemas: No 2
Enforced chastity: No 3
Examinations (physical): No 3
Exercise (forced/required): No 4
Exhibitionism (friends): No 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): No 1
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 3
Face slapping: No 4
Fantasy abandonment: No 3
Fantasy rape: No 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: No 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: N/A
Fantasy forced rape anal: No No
Fantasy gang-rape: No 1
Fisting (anal): No 1
Fisting (vaginal): No 2
Flogging: No 4
Following hand signals: No 3
Following orders: Yes 4
Foot worship: No 1
Forced dressing: No 3
Forced homosexuality: No 1
Forced masturbation: Yes 4
Forced nudity (private): Yes 4
Forced nudity (around others): No 2
Forced servitude: No 3
Full head hoods: No 2
Gags (cloth): Yes 4
Gags (penis shaped): No 3
Gags (rubber): No 4
Gags (tape): No 4
Gates of Hell: No 2
Genital sex: Yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 1
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): No No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No No
Golden showers: No No
Greetings rituals: No 3
Hairbrush spankings: No 4
Hair pulling: Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 2
Harnessing (leather): No 3
Harnessing (rope): Yes 4
Having food chosen for you: No 2
Having clothing chosen for you: No 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): N/A
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No 3
Hot oils (on genitals): No 2
Hot waxing: Yes 3
Housework (doing): Yes 3
Human puppy dog: No 1
Humiliation (private): Yes 3
Humiliation (public): No 2
Hypnotism: No 2
Ice cubes: Yes 5
Infantilism: No 1
Initiation rites: No ?
Injections: No No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 5
Interrogations: No 2
Kidnapping: No 2
Kneeling: Yes 3
Leather clothing: No 3
restraints chains: No 4
restraints leather: No 4
restraints rope: No 4
Lectures for misbehavior: No 2
Licking (non-sexual): No 3
Manacles & Irons: No 2
Manicures (giving): No 2
Massage (giving): Yes 4
Massage (receiving): Yes 4
Medical scenes: No 2

Modeling for erotic photos: No 4
Modeling for erotic videos: No 4
Mouth bits: No 3
Mummification: No 3
Nipple clamps: No 4
Nipple cloths pins: Yes 5
Nipple weights: No 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): No 2
Over-the-knee spanking: No 3
Orgasm denial: Yes 4
Orgasm control: Yes 4
Outdoor scenes: No 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): No 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 3
Piercing (permanent): No 1
Prison scenes: No 3
Pony slave: No 2
Public exposure: No 2
Public tasks: Yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: No 3
Pussy worship: N/A
Riding crops: No 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No 2
Rituals: No 2
Religious scenes: No 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No 4
Rope body harness: Yes 5
Saran wrapping: No ?
Scratching – getting: Yes 4
Scratching – giving: Yes 3
Sensory deprivation: No 3
Serving: No 4
Serving as art: No 3
Serving as ashtray: No 2
Serving as furniture: No 3
Serving as a maid: No 3
Serving as toilet: No No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No 3
Serving orally (sexual): No 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): No 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): No 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 3
Shaving (head hair): No No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 3
Sleep deprivation: No 1
Sleep-sacks: No 2
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): No 3
Spanking in private: Yes 4
Spanking in public: No 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: No 4
Spanking pleasure: Yes 4
Spandex clothing: No 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 3
Speculums (Anal): No 1
Speculums (vaginal): No 1
Spreader bars: Yes 4
Standing in corner: Yes 2
Stocks (adjustable): No 3
Stocks (fixed): No 3
Straight jackets: No 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): N/A
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): N/A
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 1
Strapping (full body beating): No 2
Suspension (upright); No 4
Suspension (inverted): No 4
Suspension (horizontal): No 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 1
Swallowing semen: Yes 4
Swallowing urine: No No
Swapping (with one other couple): No 1
Swinging (multiple couples): No 1
Tattooing: Yes 4
Teasing: Yes 4
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 1
Uniforms: No 20
Including others: No 3 (prefer female)
Vaginal dildo: Yes 4
Verbal humiliation: No 3
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): No 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 2
Video (watching others): Yes 4
Video (recordings of you): No 2
Water torture: No 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 4
Whipping: No 4
Wooden paddles: No 2
Wrestling: No 2

[sub-butterfly]

i am quite new to this and so the ones marked ? mean i do not know what they are. very good list. i am happily owned by my r/l Master Coldblue, not registered here.

butterfly
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[Sir_Russell]

sub-butterfly

You will do your Master proud. your open to most things and I can see your hard limits and them are certainly consistant.

Learn and grow

[annie]

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: yes 4
Age play: yes 0
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: yes 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 5
Asphyxiation: yes 2
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: no 2
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 4
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes 1
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: yes 4
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 3
Brown showers (scat): no 0 (possible change to NO after trying it)
Cages (locked inside of): no 4
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 4
Chastity belts: no 5
Chauffeuring: no 0
Choking: yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 3
Cuffs: yes 4
Cuffs (metal): yes 4
Cutting: no 3
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: yes 3
Enforced chastity: yes 3
Examinations (physical): yes 0
Exercise (forced/required): yes 1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no NO
Eye contact restrictions: yes 4
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no NO
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 0
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes NO
Fantasy gang-rape: no NO
Fisting (anal): no 3
Fisting (vaginal): no 3
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 3
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 0
Forced dressing: yes 4
Forced homosexuality: no 1
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 1
Forced servitude: no 1
Full head hoods: no 5
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 5
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 2
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 0 (possible change to NO after trying it.)
Greetings rituals: yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): yes 2 (depends on the subs!)
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 4
Having food chosen for you: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 3
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: yes 0
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): yes 1
Hypnotism: yes 0
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 4
Interrogations: no 0
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 1
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): no 0
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 2
Medical scenes: no 0
Modeling for erotic photos: no NO
Modeling for erotic videos: no NO
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 4
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: yes 2
Outdoor sex: yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: yes 0
Public tasks: yes 2
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 2
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 5
Rituals: yes 4
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: yes 4
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: yes 3
Serving: yes 4
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: no 0
Serving as toilet: no 0 (possible NO after trying)
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 0
Serving orally (sexual): yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 2
Shaving (body hair): yes 2
Shaving (head hair): no NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 3
Slutty clothing (public): yes 1
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 4
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 0
Spreader bars: yes 4
Standing in corner: yes 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 4
Suspension (upright); no 4
Suspension (inverted): no 4
Suspension (horizontal): no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 0
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no 0 (possible to NO after trying)
Swapping (with one other couple): no NO
Swinging (multiple couples): no NO
Tattooing: no 0
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes NO and HELL NO!
Triple penetration: yes 4
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 4
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: yes 2
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: yes 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 2
Video (watching others): no 0
Video (recordings of you): yes 0
Water torture: yes 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 1
Whipping: no 4
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: yes 4

*NOTE: some of the items I think it depends on the "definition" used and that would still need to be discussed with the dominate. The list if extensive but I still perceived a few gray spots.*

[Sir_Russell]

annie,
You have one lucky Dom, I must say that I am a little jealous. You understood the list and answered about as well as any that has taken it.

[annie]

annie,
You have one lucky Dom, I must say that I am a little jealous. You understood the list and answered about as well as any that has taken it.

*blushes* thank you Sir Russell. Coming from you that is a true compliment.

*debates kidnapping annie and turning Domme*....

*dies laughing knowing how well THAT would work out!*

[Arria]

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no - hard limit
Age play: no - hard limit
Anal sex: yes - 5
Anal plugs (small): no - 2
Anal plugs (large): no - 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no - 2
Animal roles: no - hard limit
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no - 1
Asphyxiation: yes - 5
Auctioned for charity: no - one of my favourite fantasies, but doubt I would want it r/l.
Bathroom use control: no - hard limit
Bestiality: no - hard limit
Beating (soft): yes - 2
Beating (hard): yes - 5
Blindfolds: yes - 3 to 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes - 1 (if it is not done in a submissive way...)
Being bitten: yes - 5
Breast/chest bondage: no - too small I think, lol
Breath control: yes - 5
Branding: no - idea fascinates me, but I am scared.
Boot worship: no - would love to try, though (me doing the worship, lol);
yes - had it done once (got worshipped). Liked it a lot but need not have it again (I could not feel submissive during it...).
Bondage (light): yes - 1 (love to have my hands tied and fixed above me)
Bondage (heavy): no - I doubt I would like it.
Bondage (multi-day): no - hard limit
Bondage (public, under clothing): no - I doubt I would like it, I hate to feel hindered in any way publicly.
Bondage and Sex: no - the one guy who bound me naked had no better use for me than TICKLE me - idiot...
Breast whipping: yes - 3 to 4 (love to have my back whipped most of all!)
Brown showers (scat): no - hard limit
Cages (locked inside of): no - unsure about this one. Dom would not be allowed to leave me alone during it!
Caning: yes - 4
Catheterization: NO HELL - hard limit
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no - locked up alone is a hard limit
Chastity belts: no - no interest at all.
Chauffeuring: no - eye sight too bad to drive (lack of depth perception)
Choking: yes - 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes - 1 (prefer clamps, dislike the dull pain of clothes pins)
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes - see above
Clothespins body: yes - see above
Cock worship: I worship my Dom´s cock pretty much, lol
Collars (worn in private): yes - 5
Collars (worn in public): yes - I wear mine always, it is unobtrusive, so 5.
Competitions (with other Subs): no - hard limit
Corsets (wearing): yes - 3
Cuffs: yes - 5 (get that too rarely)
Cuffs (metal): yes - 5 (see immediate above, lol)
Cutting: yes - 5 (wish I did not scar so easily)
Dilation: not sure?
Double penetration: no - favourite fantasy of mine, but I doubt I would like it r/l, and I want no other man in my bed. If hubby could clone himself, I would be willing!
Electricity: yes - nice, but don´t need it all the time
Enemas: no - would die if someone watched me
Enforced chastity: no - dislike that idea; I am good when my Dom is not around, but chastity while he IS around? Hell no.
Examinations (physical): no - does not attract me
Exercise (forced/required): no - does not attract me
Exhibitionism (friends): yes - depends on the situation
Exhibitionism (strangers): no - unless you count that one time I walked stark naked through a 80-bed dormitory in Amsterdam when I was 20 *cough*, but I did that for fun, it was not ordered by anyone, I was single then.
Eye contact restrictions: no - the idea attracts me hugely, though (though I like to look at my Dom very much, drools)
Face slapping: yes - 5
Fantasy abandonment: no - hard limit, being abandoned alone
Fantasy rape: no - 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no - 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no - hard limit
Fantasy forced rape anal: no - 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no - again, favourite fantasy, but think I would not like it r/l.
Fisting (anal): no - hell ouch - haven´t made my mind up about that one.
Fisting (vaginal): yes - loved it during it - hated it the 3 days afterwards. Did it only once.
Flogging: yes - 5
Following hand signals: no - have not made my mind up regarding it, but would be willing to try.
Following orders: yes - (sexual context) - 5
Foot worship: noyesnoidea, I like to lick his feet when I am in the mood, does that count?
Forced dressing: no - hard limit
Forced homosexuality: no - hard limit (forced, that is)
Forced masturbation: no - have been too much of a chicken for that so far.
Forced nudity (private): I prefer to be naked, so it does not count.
Forced nudity (around others): forced, no. volunteering: depends on the situation.
Forced servitude: no - would be willing to try, though
Full head hoods: no - hard limit
Gags (cloth): yes - 3
Gags (penis shaped): no - I think not.
Gags (rubber): no - I think not.
Gags (tape): no - would be willing to try.
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes (rolls my eyes) - 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes, but only for a few beatings, and my Dom MUST stay present during it! depends on the situation/person, really.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no - never had a r/l Domme - find the idea very exciting online, though.
Given away to another Dom (perm): no - hard limit
Given away to another Domme (perm): no - hard limit
Golden showers: *BLUSH* rarely, liked it.
Greetings rituals: no - depends on the ritual, I guess.
Hairbrush spankings: no - hard limit (I don´t like to be ridiculed)
Hair pulling: yes - 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes - not really exciting if it is only hands...
Hand jobs (receiving): yes - quite exciting, but want something else after a while.
Harems (serving w/other subs): no - hard limit - *bites other bitches away* lol!
Harnessing (leather): no - 1
Harnessing (rope): no - 2
Having food chosen for you: no - hard limit
Having clothing chosen for you: yes - for parties; we try to find a compromise, though (if I stand before him in high heels and collar, I only get a "why would you want to wear anything more?" anyway, rolls my eyes)
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes - only like it if I like the woman allover
Head (giving fellatio): yes - 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes - liked it a lot
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: see boot-worship, those were high-heeled boots. lol
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no - does not attract me, or rather it always gets sexual with me rather quick. lol
Hot oils (on genitals): no - 0
Hot waxing: yes - 2-3
Housework (doing): boring. except having him watch when I scrub the floor on my knees half-naked, then I could almost like it.
Human puppy dog: no - not attractive to me
Humiliation (private): yes - I am exploring into that direction at present - lol!
Humiliation (public): no - might be interesting with BDSM friends around, not in general public or with vanillas around, though.
Hypnotism: no - scary, but attractive fantasy
Ice cubes: yes - with a lady once - loved that... would not want it often with a man, though, but would be willing to try.
Infantilism: no - hard limit
Initiation rites: no - (I am not sure what kind of rites in a BDSM context?)
Injections: no - I do enjoy donating blood very much, though.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes - once - that was the guy who tickled me. I found the whole experience somewhat pointless. God damn, if I allow a man to tie me naked, he should realize I want him to touch me! shakes my head...
Interrogations: no - I feel attracted to the idea/situation, but have no idea what I would be interrogated about.
Kidnapping: no - favourite fantasy, but somewhat difficult to realize in a fun way, I guess.
Kneeling: yes - depends on the situation if I like it. I love to kneel when giving a blowjob, though.
Leather clothing: yes - yes - yes - or did I already say yes? LOL
restraints chains: yes - 3
restraints leather: yes - 3
restraints rope: yes - 3
Lectures for misbehavior: Hm. verbal lectures - NO, hard limit. Physical punishment - yes, gladly, often, 5!
Licking (non-sexual): As I said, licking always gets sexual with me.
Manacles & Irons: yes - liked it a lot - but it is uncomfortable! lol
Manicures (giving): no - does not sound exciting
Massage (giving): yes - 3
Massage (receiving): yes - 4 :-)
Medical scenes: no - no turn-on at all.

Modeling for erotic photos: would not excite me.
Modeling for erotic videos: no - hard limit
Mouth bits: no - not interesting, I guess
Mummification: no - hard limit or rather total bore
Nipple clamps: yes - 3, depends on my mood; I prefer clit clamps
Nipple cloths pins: yes - do not like clothes pins
Nipple weights: yes - did not like it very much
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes - it took me 9 years to learn to like it. *BLUSH* *BLUSH* *BLUSH*
Over-the-knee spanking: yes - it would have to be painful for me to like it. If it is only humiliating, I hate it.
Orgasm denial: no - not attractive
Orgasm control: no - I think; does "control" only stand for "not being allowed to"?
Outdoor scenes: no - would love to be in the woods once
Outdoor sex: yes - in a barley field - loved it, but need not have it again
Phone sex (serving Dom): no - doubt I could do it, I have a problem with speaking things, I rather write, and even for that I often refrain to English, which is not my mother tongue.
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no way! the lazy assholes should get their own bitches! lol
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes - loved it - would be willing.
Piercing (permanent): yes - had too many of them as a teenager, now I only have the tongue one left (and that is mainly to please hubby *smiles*)
Prison scenes: no - does not attract me.
Pony slave: no - hard limit
Public exposure: no - might be fun in a BDSM setting, but not in general public.
Public tasks: no - hard limit
Pussy whipping: yes - 5
Pussy worship: not sure about the meaning here
Riding crops: yes - not bad, but I SO prefer whips.
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): noyesno - have seen one, but not tried it - the idea is appealing, though.
Rituals: no - depends on the rituals, I guess
Religious scenes: no, I attended a Catholic Girls School, HARD LIMIT!!!
Restrictive rules on behavior: no - depends - I would be willing to try.
Rubber/latex clothing: yes - I hate the feeling/smell/texture of rubber, but it shapes the body so prettily. lol
Rope body harness: no - would give it a try if asked.
Saran wrapping: yes - once, overnight. It only annoyed me to be restrained. Would not want it again.
Scratching – getting: yes - 5
Scratching – giving: yes - sometimes
Sensory deprivation: yes - a bit - I loved it
Serving: no - would give it a try, I guess
Serving as art: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as ashtray: no - hard limit
Serving as furniture: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as a maid: no - I want my own maid, French costume and all! lol
Serving as toilet: no - hard limit
Serving as waitress/waiter: no - sounds boring to me
Serving orally (sexual): yes - 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no - I would not serve anyone but my husband, as I am not a very servile/docile person. One would have to earn that. Hubby did not ask for it yet.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no - hard limit
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes, I guess? It made the following act very rewarding.
Sexual deprivation (long term): no - hard limit
Shaving (body hair): I dislike body hair on women - I remove mine - it does not stimulate me to do so, though, it is only aesthetic to me.
Shaving (head hair): The idea has a huge fascination, but I would not like the time it would take to grow back.
Shaving (pubic hair): see body hair
Sleep deprivation: no - hard limit
Sleep-sacks: no - hard limit
Slutty clothing (private): yes - can be fun
Slutty clothing (public): yes in a BDSM setting, but not in general public, unless I feel the urge to shock people.
Spanking in private: yes - liked it, as long as it is painful
Spanking in public: yes, in a BDSM setting, but not in general public
Spanking in bdsm parties: Oh, reading through first would be such a good idea... yes - 4
Spanking pleasure: I do not understand that question?
Spandex clothing: no - hard limit - absolutely not my thing, neither on me nor others.
Speech restrictions (when, what): no - hubby says if I die they will have to kill my mouth extra - might be interesting to try, though. Would most certainly be a cruel punishment for me! lol
Speculums (Anal): no - hard limit
Speculums (vaginal): no - hard limit
Spreader bars: yes - can be ok
Standing in corner: no - hard limit
Stocks (adjustable): no - not attractive
Stocks (fixed): yes - very attractive, I have some Medieval fancies. lol
Straight jackets: no - hard limit
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no - not attractive (seems pointless to me)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no - I don´t know - the idea of getting that from a woman excites and scares me equally - I would have to like the woman a lot, mind.
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no - seems pointless to me
Strapping (full body beating): yes - liked it - with a whip, that is. Want more of it!!!
Suspension (upright); no - 0
Suspension (inverted): no - 0
Suspension (horizontal): no - 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: ??? If he gets tired of me, I would expect him to find his own new partners. no - hard limit, that is.
Swallowing semen: yes - 5
Swallowing urine: no - have been fantasizing about that - might be willing if in the proper mood (*!).
Swapping (with one other couple): no - hard limit
Swinging (multiple couples): no - hard limit (yes, I am a jealous bitch, got a problem with that? lol)
Tattooing: yes - I have mine for un-sexual reasons, though
Teasing: no - hard limit
Tickling: NO - ABSOLUTE AND VERY HARD LIMIT, DO NOT TRY IT IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR NOSE BROKEN.
Triple penetration: no omg
Triple penetration by 3 males: no omg
(the latter two are favourite fantasies, but I doubt I would like it r/l)
No man but my husband has touched me sexually during the last 9 years. I need to feel owned. If someone else touched me that way, I would lose the feeling of belonging, and that would do fatal damage to our relationship, I think.
Or if not that, things would not be the same for me afterwards.
If I ever got bored with him, I might consider the idea, but I am not anywhere near that point yet.
(To be really honest: I would make an exception from that rule for Vin Diesel. In return, I would not expect my hubby to be good if his favourite movie star offered herself to him. Both are unlikely to happen, though. *lol*)
Uniforms: no - the only time I fancied that was a very hot lesbian friend of mine in a police uniform - drools.
Including others: to watch - yes; to participate - only another Dom for me, and only for beatings. No touching of my privates wanted by me.
Vaginal dildo: yes - loved/hated it
Verbal humiliation: works only along with sexual/physical one, and I have to be in the mood, but then I can like it a lot;
Vibrator on genitals: no - (HONESTLY, I have close to no experience with toys of that sort)
Voyeurism (watching others): I like to watch other people play, but not have sex
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Men watch all the time anyway *shrugs* lol.
Or does it mean: Me watching my Dom playing with others? That happens over my rotten corpse. Jealous bitch, as I said.
Video (watching others): All amateur films I saw were horribly bad with ugly people - so no thanks, I´ll pass.
Video (recordings of you): no - hard limits, mainly because you never know where those might end up!
Water torture: no - being pushed underwater is a hard limit.
Wearing symbolic jewelry: I wear my collar and an ankle chain all the time, I am not fond of other jewellery (yes, I know, unusual for a woman)
Whipping: yes - 5
Wooden paddles: no - not attractive to me
Wrestling: I like to be overwhelmed, and get not anywhere enough of that. But given hubby´s size, the fight would not last longer than a minute, anyway. lol

[Stone]

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 nothing like rough anal sex
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): hmmm yes 3
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 0
Asphyxiation:yes 5
Auctioned for charity:no 0
Bathroom use control:no 2
Bestiality:no hard limit
Beating (soft):yes 5
Beating (hard):yes 5
Blindfolds:yes 3
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control:yes 4
Branding:no 4
Boot worship:no 0
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy):yes 3
Bondage (multi-day):no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 2
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):no hardlimit
Cages (locked inside of):no 0
Caning:yes 5
Catheterization:no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 1
Chastity belts:no 2
Chauffeuring: yes 1
Choking:yes 5
Clothespins:yes 3
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private):yes 3
Collars (worn in public):yes 4
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3
Corsets (wearing):yes 5
Cuffs:yes 3
Cuffs (metal):yes 3
Cutting:no 4
Dilation:no
Double penetration:no depends on if toy and cock counts if that way 4
Electricity:yes 4
Enemas:yes 3
Enforced chastity:yes 3
Examinations (physical):no 0
Exercise (forced/required):no 3
Exhibitionism (friends):no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 1
Eye contact restrictions:yes 2
Face slapping:yes 5
Fantasy abandonment:no 0
Fantasy rape:yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape:no 0
Fisting (anal):no 0
Fisting (vaginal):no 0
Following orders:yes 4
Foot worship:no 0
Forced dressing:no 1
Forced homosexuality:hmmm no but 4 on her of course
Forced masturbation:yes 5
Forced nudity (private):yes 4
Forced nudity (around others):no 2
Forced servitude:yes 4
Full head hoods:no 0
Gags (cloth):no 3
Gags (rubber):no 3
Gags (tape):no 3
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm):no 0
Golden showers:yes 1
Hairbrush spankings:no 3
Hair pulling:yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 4 on her of course
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 2
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 0
Harnessing (leather):no 2
Harnessing (rope):no 2
Having food chosen for you:no 0
Having clothing chosen for you:no 0
Head (giving fellatio):na
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only yes 5
High heel worship:no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals):yes 3
Hot waxing:yes 4
Housework (doing):no 0
Human puppy dog:no 0
Humiliation (private):yes 5
Humiliation (public):yes 5
Hypnotism:no 0
Ice cubes:yes 4
Infantilism:no 0
Initiation rites:yes 2
Injections:no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 0
Interrogations:yes 3
Kidnapping:no 3
Kneeling:yes 3
Leather clothing:no 3
restraints:yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 4
Licking (non-sexual):no 2
Manacles & Irons:no 2
Manicures (giving):no 0
Massage (giving):yes 3
Massage (receiving):yes 3
Medical scenes:no 0
Modeling for erotic photos:no 0
Mouth bits:yes 3
Mummification:no 0
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 3
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 1
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 4
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes:no 3
Outdoor sex:no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom):na
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 3
Piercing (permanent):no 3
Prison scenes NO 3
Pony slave:no 0
Public exposure:no 0
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 4
Pussy worship:no 2
Riding crops:yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 0
Rituals:yes 3
Religious scenes:no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing:no 1
Rope body harness:no 0
Saran wrapping:no 0
Scratching – getting:yes 4
Scratching – giving:yes 5
Sensory deprivation:no 0
Serving:no o
Serving as art:no 0
Serving as ashtray:no 0
Serving as furniture:no 0
Serving as a maid:no 0
Serving as toilet:no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 0
Serving orally (sexual):yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 0
Shaving (body hair):yes 4
Shaving (head hair):no 0
Sleep deprivation:no 0
Sleepsacks:no 0
Slutty clothing (private):yes 4
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3
Spanking:yes 5
Spandex clyesothing:no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 3
Speculums (Anal):no 0
Speculums (vaginal)no 0:
Spreader bars:no 2
Standing in corner:no 0
Stocks (adjustable):no 2
Straight jackets:no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no 0
Strapping (full body beating):yes 3
Suspension (upright);no 0
Suspension (inverted):no 0
Suspension (horizontal):no 0
Supplying new partners for Dom:na
Swallowing semen:her swallowing my load of course 5
Swallowing urine:no 0
Swapping (with one other couple):no 0
Swinging (multiple couples):no 0
Tattooing:no 3
Teasing:yes 5
Tickling:yes 1
Triple penetration:no 0
Uniforms:no 0
Including others:no 3
Vaginal dildo:yes 4
Verbal humiliation:yes 4
Vibrator on genitals:yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others):yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):na
Video (watching others):yes 3
Video (recordings of you):no 3
Water torture:no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 3
Whipping YES 5
Wooden paddles:yes 5
Wrestling:no 2

[Sir_Russell]

not sure what to say seems that you took the sub one and I do need to work more on the Dom one. You are making it up as you go which is what we all do.

[Arria]

Aww, I worked very hard to expose myself here, and I get no reply at all?
*pouts, hoping Myst will not notice*
laughs

[Sir_Russell]

arria,
first sorry to have missed your post it is unusual to have 2 in one day, but still my fault.

Second, I must say I was surprised at your responses but then the life is very large. The important thing is that your Master is pleased with you and I believe that he is. I do appreciate the honest answers and explanations it helps my study of the life.
Being a bondage freak it all ways strikes me hard that not everyone is into it. Course I do not let a lovely such as yourself have a lot of time to think about being restrained.

Thanks for you input.

[cadence]

I thought I would give this a try


Abrasion: no 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 0 *
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: NO hard limit
Auctioned for charity: no 3 I have self esteem issues I don't know how I would feel about it really until I experienced it
Bathroom use control: yes 2 I am not a big fan of it, although I do try hard *
Bestiality: no 0 * I would make this a hard limit, but I don't really have a problem with it
Beating (soft): no 5
Beating (hard): no 3 I don't know how much pain I can actually take, but I would like to find out
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5 I have only done this on my own, so I can't really guage as to how it would really feel, however I would still like it.
Breath control: no 0 * I would like to try, but I have a panic attack when I have to hold my breath.
Branding: no 1 I don't know why, but I like the idea of this, I am unsure though how much I would like it
Boot worship: no 0 It does nothing for me at all, I don't understand it
Bondage (light): yes 5 again I have only tried it out on myself
Bondage (heavy): no 3 I want to try, but I would have to start off slow with it
Bondage (multi-day): no 3 same as heavy bondage
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5 I like to wear ropes under clothing, and even sometimes accidentally show it
Bondage and Sex: no 5 I would like nothing better than to try this
Breast whipping: yes 5, again on my own, you can't hit yourself as hard though
Brown showers (scat): NO hard limit
Cages (locked inside of): no 5 I would love the opportunity to do this
Caning: no 1, I want to try it, but don't know where my pain threshold is
Catheterization: NO hard limit
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5 I would like this too, even with some bondage
Chastity belts: no 0 I want to try, but I think that I would have to start off in small doses
Chauffeuring: no 5 I would like doing this
Choking: no 0 I can't say it's a hard limit, I would try it though first to see how it felt
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: no 0 * I don't really understand it
Collars (worn in private): yes 4, I have now come to the understanding of what it means to wear a collar, I would loveto wear one now for the right reasons
Collars (worn in public): yes 3, it all depends on the type of collar to be worn.
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0, I would say it is a hard limit, but I could do it just because, I feel like I am in a competition with other submissives all the time anyway
Corsets (wearing): no 0 I am not a fan of corsets, I don't like them
Cuffs: no 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: no 0 * It doesn't hold appeal
Dilation: no 3 I would like to try
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 0 I am on the fence with this, I would have to at least try it
Enemas: no 0 I am deathly afraid of enemas, but want to try them with a person who will be able to be with me
Enforced chastity: NO hard limit, I don't think I would be a very happy person with that, although I should try it first
Examinations (physical): no 0 *I wouldn't like it
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5 I do better when I am forced into it
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5, but only a few friends
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3, it depends on the situation involved
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 5
Fantasy rape: no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 5
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal):no 3
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 0
Forced homosexuality: no I am bisexual, so it doesn't count
Forced masturbation: no 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 5 it would depend on the situation
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 2
Gags (tape): no 2
Gates of Hell: NA
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO hard limit, I don't understand this
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO hard limit, I don't understand this
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: no 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3, have to try it first
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): yes 5!!!!
Humiliation (public): no 1
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 5 - vaginal 5 anal 0
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 4
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 0
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 2
restraints rope: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 1
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): NO hard limit
Massage (receiving): NO hard limit
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: yes 2
Orgasm control: yes 2
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2*
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1*
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): NO hard limit
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no 0
Public tasks: no 0 it depends on the task involved
Pussy/cock whipping: no 0
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 5
Rituals: yes 4
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 1
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: NO hard limit
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no 2
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 1
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3*
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 0
Shaving (body hair): NA, well I have to shave some things, it's not like I am doing it special
Shaving (head hair): NO hard limit
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 1 I would rather wax
Sleep deprivation: yes 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): no 0
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: no 5
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: no 5
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 2
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): no
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 5
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 5
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no 2
Teasing: yes 2
Tickling: NO NO NO hard limit
Triple penetration: no 5*
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5*
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: no 0*
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 0
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 5
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 5
Wrestling:no 0

Most things I haven't yet tried, I rated on how much I wanted to try them or the appeal of wanting to do them

[Beatrice]

Abrasion:
Age play:
Anal sex:
Anal plugs (small): no, 3
Anal plugs (large): no, 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no, 0
Animal roles: yes, 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes, 3
Asphyxiation: yes, 0
Auctioned for charity: no, NO
Bathroom use control: yes, 0
Bestiality: no, NO
Beating (soft): yes, 1
Beating (hard): no, NO
Blindfolds: yes, 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes, 4
Being bitten: yes, 1
Breast/chest bondage: no, 4
Breath control: yes, 2
Branding: no, NO
Boot worship: no, 3
Bondage (light): yes, 3
Bondage (heavy): yes, 3
Bondage (multi-day): no, 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no, NO
Bondage and Sex: yes, 3
Breast whipping: no, 0
Brown showers (scat): no, 0
Cages (locked inside of): yes, 5
Caning: no, 0
Catheterization: no, 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes, 3
Chastity belts: no, 3
Chauffeuring: yes, 2
Choking: no, 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: no, 0
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no, 0
Clothespins body: no, 0
Cock worship: yes, 3
Collars (worn in private): yes, 5
Collars (worn in public): no, NO
Competitions (with other Subs): no, 0
Corsets (wearing): yes, 3
Cuffs: yes, 3
Cuffs (metal): yes, 3
Cutting: yes, 0
Dilation: no, 0
Double penetration: yes, 2
Electricity: no, NO
Enemas: no, 0
Enforced chastity: no, 0
Examinations (physical): no, 3
Exercise (forced/required): no, 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no, NO
Exhibitionism (strangers): no, NO
Eye contact restrictions: no, 3
Face slapping: no, 0
Fantasy abandonment: no, 1
Fantasy rape: yes, 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no, 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no, 2
Fantasy forced rape anal: no, 2
Fantasy gang-rape: no, 2
Fisting (anal): no, 0
Fisting (vaginal): no, 0
Flogging: no, 0
Following hand signals: no, 2
Following orders: yes, 3
Foot worship: no, 2
Forced dressing: yes, 5
Forced homosexuality: no, 3
Forced masturbation: no, 0
Forced nudity (private): no, 3
Forced nudity (around others): no, NO
Forced servitude: no, 5
Full head hoods: no, 2
Gags (cloth): no, 2
Gags (penis shaped):no, 3
Gags (rubber): no, 3
Gags (tape): no, 3
Gates of Hell: no, 2
Genital sex: yes, 3
Given away to another Dom (temp): no, NO
Given away to another Domme (temp): no, NO
Given away to another Dom (perm): no, NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): no, NO
Golden showers: no, 1
Greetings rituals: no, 2
Hairbrush spankings: no, 1
Hair pulling: no, 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes, 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes, 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no, 1
Harnessing (leather): no, 4
Harnessing (rope): no, 5
Having food chosen for you: no, 3
Having clothing chosen for you: no, 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes, 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes, 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes, 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: yes, 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no, 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no, 0
Hot waxing: no, 0
Housework (doing): yes, 5
Human puppy dog: no, 3
Humiliation (private): yes, 3
Humiliation (public): no, NO
Hypnotism: no, 0
Ice cubes: no, 2
Infantilism: yes, 4
Initiation rites: no, 2
Injections: no, 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no, 3
Interrogations: no, 3
Kidnapping: no, 3
Kneeling: yes, 4
Leather clothing: no, 2
restraints chains: yes, 2
restraints leather: no, 2
restraints rope: no, 2
Lectures for misbehavior: yes, 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes, 2
Manacles & Irons: no, 3
Manicures (giving): no, 2
Massage (giving): no, 2
Massage (receiving): no, 2
Medical scenes: no, 1

Modeling for erotic photos: no, 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no, 1
Mouth bits: no, 5
Mummification: no, 1
Nipple clamps: no, 1
Nipple cloths pins: no, 0
Nipple weights: no, 0
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes, 1
Over-the-knee spanking: yes, 4
Orgasm denial: no, NO
Orgasm control: no, NO
Outdoor scenes: no, 2
Outdoor sex: no, 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): no, 0
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no, NO
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no, 2
Piercing (permanent): no, NO
Prison scenes: no, 2
Pony slave: no, 5
Public exposure: no, NO
Public tasks: no, NO
Pussy/cock whipping: no, 2
Pussy worship: no, 2
Riding crops: no, 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no, 0
Rituals: no, 2
Religious scenes: no, 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no, 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no, 1
Rope body harness: no, 2
Saran wrapping: no, 1
Scratching – getting: yes, 3
Scratching – giving: yes, 3
Sensory deprivation: no, 2
Serving: yes, 3
Serving as art: no, 2
Serving as ashtray: no, 1
Serving as furniture: no, 5
Serving as a maid: no, 5
Serving as toilet: no, NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: no, 3
Serving orally (sexual): yes, 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no, NO
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no, NO
Sexual deprivation (short term): no, 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no, NO
Shaving (body hair): yes, 2
Shaving (head hair): no, 0
Shaving (pubic hair): no, 0
Sleep deprivation: yes, 2
Sleep-sacks: no, 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes, 5
Slutty clothing (public): no, NO
Spanking in private: yes, 4
Spanking in public: no, NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: no, 2
Spanking pleasure: yes, 3
Spandex clothing: no, 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): no, 5 (temporarily, during specified scenes, specifics can vary)
Speculums (Anal): No, 1
Speculums (vaginal): No, 1
Spreader bars: No, 2
Standing in corner: No, 5
Stocks (adjustable): No, 4
Stocks (fixed): No, 4
Straight jackets: No, 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Yes, 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Yes, 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Yes, 2
Strapping (full body beating): No, 0
Suspension (upright); No, 2
Suspension (inverted): No, 1
Suspension (horizontal): No, 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no, NO
Swallowing semen: yes, 2
Swallowing urine: no, NO
Swapping (with one other couple): no, NO
Swinging (multiple couples): no, NO
Tattooing: no, NO
Teasing: yes, 3
Tickling: yes, 2
Triple penetration: no, 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no, 0
Uniforms: yes, 5
Including others: no, NO
Vaginal dildo: yes, 3
Verbal humiliation: yes, 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes, 2
Voyeurism (watching others): yes, 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes, 4
Video (watching others): yes, 3
Video (recordings of you): no, 2
Water torture: no, 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes, 4
Whipping: no, 1
Wooden paddles: no, 2
Wrestling: yes, 3

[Sir_Russell]

Ladies I just discovered your posts and will respond today after work, since I don't have enough time before work to properly analyze and comment.

A quick scan though seem to show that bathroom control is not a favorite. Remind me to tell you about my version of it may cause you to rethink.

[Wedjat]

That reminds me, I should probably re-do mine one of these days - you've given me a lot to think about : )

[Beatrice]

I'm not really looking for anything right now, just sharing.

[Sir_Russell]

cadence,
For a lady that I have been impressed with for quite some time I learned a lot about you. I think you would make a very good sub for any Dom and I think I could make you into a wonderful slave. Keys are things that you haven't done, are afraid of but willing to try and I am sure for a loved Master most of these would become favorites.

I thank you for you honesty and courage taking my list and doing it openly.

[Sir_Russell]

Beatrice,

I know very little about you now so I will make just general statements.

First I think your very new to this but have dreamed of it for some time. Second you have a tendency to be a bondage slut and that is a good thing for a lot of us, I for one am primarily a bondage Dom that grew into Life and my joy with it spread with each new skill acquired. Enjoy your journey and proceed with both caution and joy.

[Sir_Russell]

Wedjat,
Yes it is time for you to retake the list. See how many things now interest and intrigue you that only seems scary before