That Time of the Month

[Lia]

I am very fortunate in the fact that my Master does not seem to mind when I have my period. We typically play just as much at that time of the month as we do at any other time. Other than the fact that I am typically more tired, it luckily doesn't seem to slow us down. There are only two drawbacks from my perspective: 1. my pain threshold is lower as I tend to be more physically sensitive just before and during my period, and 2. it can be a little messy.

I am curious how others handle this. Do most female subs find that having their period prevents them from playing, or do they also like to play at this time in their cycle? Do male Dom's have an opinion on this subject? Thanks for your responses!

[Adamoverjules]

I'd have to say that being on her period wouldn't slow down the play, but it would change the style or approach to the scene. Bloody sex is something that honestly just turns me off, so that doesn't happen. However, there are plenty of other ways to play right?

[BabySub]

Hmm. I have to say that I think it would interrupt play for me. My Dom and I have yet to meet, but I can truthfully say that the first couple of days during my period would be a no no. I'll not go into details here ::lol:: but all I want to do is curl up into a ball and die.

:violin:

[Curtis]

That sounds like my ex-girlfriend. She was totally incapacitated by her periods (headaches, stomachaches, cramping, diarrhea). She also could never keep track of her periods, even though she was regular as the calendar, every 29 days, so unless I warned her, it caught her by surprise every time.

[BabySub]

That sounds like my ex-girlfriend. She was totally incapacitated by her periods (headaches, stomachaches, cramping, diarrhea). She also could never keep track of her periods, even though she was regular as the calendar, every 29 days, so unless I warned her, it caught her by surprise every time.

Lol, yeah, that's me. I don't get the runs, but I do get really bad backaches as well as all the rest. It's far from fun. I can keep track of mine though, as I get all the symptoms before the ***** thing even starts! :yuck:

[Lia]

Lol, yeah, that's me. I don't get the runs, but I do get really bad backaches as well as all the rest. It's far from fun. I can keep track of mine though, as I get all the symptoms before the ***** thing even starts! :yuck:

Hormones of somekind (though I am generally against them) will help those nasty periods BabySub. These can come in the form of the pill, a patch, or the Merena IUD. You may want to check with your doctor...

[Pandora's Box]

I pretty much can't do anything the first two days. My life consists of chocolate and alleve. (Great stuff that alleve).

After that though, I'm more open to play. But unless a condom is used.... ugh, no sex. I've had a urinary tract infection bounced back and forth from that before. But other than that... no worries.

[yellowrose]

There is now birth control that can reduce a woman down to only 4 periods a year. Studies indicate it is as safe as the monthly birth control pills.

If you're a young woman (under 35) on birth control already perhaps you could speak to your Doctor about this product.

[vistana]

There is now birth control that can reduce a woman down to only 4 periods a year. Studies indicate it is as safe as the monthly birth control pills.

If you're a young woman (under 35) on birth control already perhaps you could speak to your Doctor about this product.

Seasonale.

I don't think it's available everywhere though. I believe (and could be totally wrong) that it was fairly recently approved in the US, and I don't think it's been approved in many other places yet.

[Chuckdom19]

I learned one thing in playing over the years with my partner: one of the cures for PMS and period aches & pains is a solid, body-shaking orgasm. Those little hormones just seem to calm right down for her. Several orgasms, ripples, will bring her out of the worst cramps.

And a gag is very helpful for bad attitude!

[Cokera]

My life consists of chocolate and alleve.

Thats the time for EXTREMELY intense body massage and pampering. Plus the aleve and some serious foot massages.

[Dngnkeeper]

Thats the time for EXTREMELY intense body massage and pampering. Plus the aleve and some serious foot massages.

Massage as in a visit with five pounds of flogger. Puts them right to sleep every time. Aleve though helps them stay there.

[mastercoyote]

Just as an FYI, orgasm thru masturbation can relieve muscle tension and cramps for some women. Something I learned from my first Sensei.

Here's a great Tantric technique, called Yoni massage, but it works best if performed by your partner.

Lingam massage, for men, is also a lot of fun. I especially like having it performed when I'm bound by my slave. It becomes a contest to see if she can make me cum before I decide I'm ready. Lol, makes her feel all Mistressy.

[slavelucy]

I am very fortunate in the fact that my Master does not seem to mind when I have my period.

Um...well, it's lucky he doesn't mind...otherwise he'd be dating/in a Ds relationship with a man.

Massage as in a visit with five pounds of flogger. Puts them right to sleep every time. Aleve though helps them stay there.

Er..Dngnkeeper - if you massaged me with a five pound flogger in the first 2 days of my period...well, let's just say i might need that Aleve to put my prison guards to sleep.

i suffer quite badly with PMS, i'd rather not do anything major, because i feel like crap, it hurts more but not in a fun way..and, well, it's messy. i'd generally trust my Master to make reasonable decisions regarding it i guess.

sl

[Artemis]

Ah...the "it's that time of the month so what do we do?" question. The messiness of it doesn't bother my Master (he loves blood :-[ ) but usually we avoid the mess due to the fact that his mother still does his laundry, which includes the sheets, and we'd rather avoid all the questions about what we do in bed. So...that leaves us with spanking (for me) and oral play (for him) which we love so it's not really a problem. I usually don't get cramps but I'm more sensitive to pain and more tired than usual which he takes into consideration when we play. Everyone's different though which the previous responses have already shown.

~Artemis~

[jaeangel]

I used to get horrible cramps when my little red friend came to visit. For some reason, after I had my oldest son, they weren't as bad (or maybe I didn't notice it as much because I was too busy chasing him around.) After my second child I had my tubes tied (I don't want anymore, and my doctor told me any more might possibly be dangerous to my health, so he tied my tubes at 24)and after that, although I still get the occasional cramp, it's not the hot-water-bottle-in-bed-with-extra-strength-tylenol cramps I had before. And since it is messy, I'll give myself several enemas to clean myself out very thoroughly and hubby and I use the 'back door' or the mouth to pleasure ourselves with until Mrs. Happy's fully operational again. He loves my BJ's.

[Sulwen]

There's a lovely product on the market called Instead. It's vaguely diaphram-shaped, with a deeper cup. You insert it during your period, and it catches it instead of absorbing it. You take it out and empty it when you need to, which is up to half as often as a regular tampon. There have been no reported cases of Toxic Shock Syndrome for Instead users, and it's made of soft plastic, so no latex allergies. And you can have sex with it in, without making a mess! It's quite nice. I've been a convert for almost a year now, and it's great. The only drawbacks I've seen so far is that it's kind of gross when you're changing it, and that you can't tell in advance when you're about to 'spring a leak'. Other than that, it's great.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

There's a lovely product on the market called Instead. It's vaguely diaphram-shaped, with a deeper cup. You insert it during your period, and it catches it instead of absorbing it. You take it out and empty it when you need to, which is up to half as often as a regular tampon. There have been no reported cases of Toxic Shock Syndrome for Instead users, and it's made of soft plastic, so no latex allergies. And you can have sex with it in, without making a mess! It's quite nice. I've been a convert for almost a year now, and it's great. The only drawbacks I've seen so far is that it's kind of gross when you're changing it, and that you can't tell in advance when you're about to 'spring a leak'. Other than that, it's great.

Okay. I gotta say it.

No offense, but eeewwwwww!!!

[Cokera]

DITTO :That is a new one for me also... Damn that just sounds kinda nasty!

[Sulwen]

I know it sounds kinda gross, but once you get used to it, you'll never want to go back. *shrug* And it's the only one I know of that lets you have vaginal intercourse without mess during your period. At least, not *bad* mess. :-)

[midnightsky]

That wouldnt happen to be anything like the diva cup would it? I know a lot of people swear by them.

[mastercoyote]

This might send some of you running for the hills, screaming; but... you could probably sell the "results" for a decent price on eBay.

Just a (completely disgusting, even to myself) thought.

[slavelucy]

Ugh *shudders*...that device does sound a bit yuck actually. But, having said that, the whole period thing always seemed very medieval to me, and however we choose to deal with it (er...essentially 'plugging it', soaking it up, or this new 'catching it')...it's all totally sort of...old fashioned and backward... i don't know why God (who whoever) couldn't have designed something more..modern in the first place. (yes, i have these odd thoughts)

sl

[GaryWilcox]

it's all totally sort of...old fashioned and backward... i don't know why God (who whoever) couldn't have designed something more..modern in the first place. (yes, i have these odd thoughts)

Technically speaking, God's answer to periods was pregnancy... or vice versa!

[mastercoyote]

I believe more in a Gaia/evolutionary model, so I view the human condition in all it's disturbing glory as an ongoing expeiment...

Anyone wanna play "mad scientist"? :P

[slavelucy]

Technically speaking, God's answer to periods was pregnancy...

Yeah...and don't even get me started on that!

sl

[AndrewBlack]

You can do quite nicely without periods if you use the contraceptive pill but don't take the breaks, they're only there to make you feel more normal. There is no reason why you can't safely take the pill non-stop. There's certainly no reason why you should be 'on' during inconvenient times when you have full control of your menstrual cycle. Oh, and Happy new year everyone!!

[midnightsky]

andrewblack-

I would *love* to never have a period again. ever. too bad my doctor has told me that i have to stick to the 28 day cycle...since we know that works...i

Ive done cycles where i wont have a period for several months, and I just revert to the *fun* i had before I was on the pill, which consisted of having my period for five MONTHS and two weeks off....five MONTHS two weeks off. Needless to say, that is not something I want to do again anytime soon.


Gary-
Your comment about pregnancy made me giggle. I wish it was that easy- but after seeing my friend's morning sickness theres no way thats a good excuse (but hey i get to be a godparent. woo. now i just have to figure out how to thow a babyshower for a 17 yo O.o)

/rant, lol

[Sulwen]

That wouldnt happen to be anything like the diva cup would it? I know a lot of people swear by them.

Kinda, but you can't have sex with the Diva cup in. Also, Instead are disposable.

[vistana]

You can do quite nicely without periods if you use the contraceptive pill but don't take the breaks, they're only there to make you feel more normal. There is no reason why you can't safely take the pill non-stop. There's certainly no reason why you should be 'on' during inconvenient times when you have full control of your menstrual cycle. Oh, and Happy new year everyone!!

In my experience, it's not quite that easy. I can skip a month, or shift my period by a week or so, but if I skip one month, then the next month I end up with a much longer/heavier period. sometimes even starting while I'm still taking the pills for that month.