Anal sex

[Lord Douche]

*giggles* Yeah, i don't think that is all that in common, i figured it was just because..um..that's usually what it's used for and it feels odd at first doing that...if you try and ignore it and move past it, it will probably pass. Or, you could consider enema's....*looks at LordDouche meaningfully* (LD being something of an expert on such matters!).

That's an idea. A few enema's beforehand would help, perhaps to loosen you up inside, and also the help reassure yourself that your rear is clean and there is no need to worry about making a mess.
On a more mischevious note, you could get your BF to tie you up. Then you won't have any choice in the matter!
LD

[MrJerseyGuy]

Enema? I don't know that she'd go for that...but cuffs aren't a bad idea...maybe a gag too.

[slavelucy]

Enema? I don't know that she'd go for that...but cuffs aren't a bad idea...maybe a gag too.

MrJG - how did the anal session go in the end??

sl

[MrJerseyGuy]

MrJG - how did the anal session go in the end??

sl

No pun intended lucy????

Ever notice how the more carefully you plan something the more fucked up it gets? I had a whole plan...based on advice I got here I was going to get her really worked up...the problem was that I got really worked up too and wound up cumming myself. That, of course, required a break to...shall we say...reload, during which we both fell asleep!

Now I have a pefectly good brand new butt plug and whip that I have to wait two more weeks to try out! Damn it!

[slavelucy]

No pun intended lucy????

Ever notice how the more carefully you plan something the more fucked up it gets? I had a whole plan...based on advice I got here I was going to get her really worked up...the problem was that I got really worked up too and wound up cumming myself. That, of course, required a break to...shall we say...reload, during which we both fell asleep!

Now I have a pefectly good brand new butt plug and whip that I have to wait two more weeks to try out! Damn it!

Oh no! LOL!! Oh well, nevermind, there's always next time. (and yeah, you're right on the phenomena that exists between carefully planning something and it all going wrong).

And, actually, there WAS no pun intended...which is most unlike me, i must be losing my touch!

*looks again at 'how did the anal session go in the end' - and groans*

sl

[redEva]

LOL ... but I am really sorry it did not go as planned - though that is normal! And yes! There will be next time. On the other hand – a piece of advice – she should not be allowed to cum prior to session – few days at least, you should vigorously exercise your God given right to use your right (or left) hand and for sure couple times the day of the planned session – that should help to keep you in working order

[slavelucy]

[QUOTE=redEva she should not be allowed to cum prior to session – few days at least[[/QUOTE]


My God red, you're just so mean!!!

Although....the humiliation of cumming during anal sex..mmmmm

*grins cheekily and blushes*

sl

[redEva]

My God red, you're just so mean!!!
Although....the humiliation of cumming during anal sex..mmmmm
*grins cheekily and blushes*
sl

ahhh, but sweets you would be taken under special consideration - you would be fitted with the but plug for 2 days with enemas every morning, and masturbation to completion every hour on the hour for 48 hours - than i would play with you (how do you like that - still think im mean?) :[

[cyndylu]

anglestar, sounds like you need someone to "expand" you limits a bit. someone that you trust completely to be gentle with you and someone you can just give yourself over to.... with love and trust, you can play safe and find new ways to enjoy.......

i think you just described the ideal relationship situation


i know i’m kind of late into this thread but would like to share my experience with anal. My first husband knocked me around then sodomized me telling me to get used to it; i was to young to understand and didn’t get accustomed to the abuse.

Many years later i met a fellow who used a different approach and i really enjoyed the anal experience. He gave me a couple of clitoral orgasms then inserted a vibrator in my vagina before penetrating my anus. In addition to a whole lot of patience, he used lots of lube and a small, hard plastic vibrator to get started with the anal and kept up with the foreplay until i backed up onto him.

i like the use of condoms simply because clean up is easier and faster so we can move on to other things. i read somewhere that condoms are important for anal sex because of some bacteria that can get into the penis. Also if you switch from vagina to anus you’re not transferring anything to the anus but my obgyn did say to never, ever go from anus to vagina because it can and will cause vaginal infections.

[MrJerseyGuy]

Thanks to all of you for the advice and humor. And yes, Cyndylu, I agree that it is something that needs to be done with a little consideration (at least at first). At 45 years old I've had more than one prostrate exam from a doctor and I can't say I found it very exciting. Although the last time, in the middle of the exam, I looked back at the doctor and said "You know...I usually buy someone dinner before I do this to them!" I actually got a chuckle out of him!

LOL...if nothing else, this will give me some incentive...come the weekend I'll say "But honey we have to...redEva, slavelucy, Cyndylu and all the people from the bondage web site are waiting to hear about it!"

[GaryWilcox]

With my first regular anal partner, the key was teasing her mercilessly about it and refusing to do anything for her until she begged me for it.

She wasn't comfortable with me licking her down there, either, but lovebites on her ass really got her going. Tying wrists together behind her back also helped, as did clamping the left hand across her mouth... every time I set that scenario up, she was sure that this was the day I was going to do it. Eventually, she raised her hips on to me as I teased my cock at her anus. I wish I had stayed still and let her do the work!

If I had used a vibrator to stimulate her clit and toyed with her the way Cindylu's partner did, it probably would have sped things along tremendously.

[cyndylu]

You can also try the bowling ball grip. With your thumb in her vagina insert your well lubed middle finger into her rectum then rub your finger and thumb together. I’m not sure whether it was the thumb and finger action rubbing or squeezing the space between the two holes but the one time it happened was wonderful.

If there is a correct name for what I’ve just described, please let me know.

[lola]

You can also try the bowling ball grip. With your thumb in her vagina insert your well lubed middle finger into her rectum then rub your finger and thumb together. I’m not sure whether it was the thumb and finger action rubbing or squeezing the space between the two holes but the one time it happened was wonderful.

If there is a correct name for what I’ve just described, please let me know.

If it's not called the bowling ball grip, it certainly should be. That was the perfect description.

[MrJerseyGuy]

I love that description "Bowling Ball Grip". For the next week I'm going to tell her that I want to go bowling this weekend!!!

I'll have to keep you guys posted (especially slavelucy) but...

As hard as I try...sometimes I feel like a one man version of the three stooges trying to be a Dom. I can see it now...11pm Saturday night I'm going to be sitting in bed with my ankles handcuffed to my nuts...a ball gag stuck in my ass and a butt plug hanging out of my nose...

and she'll be sound asleep!

That just seems to be how my luck runs!

[l<itten]

well i dunno. he's tried doing it with me doggie style. but usually once he gets a bit of it in... i just squirm away which i dont want to, but i keep thinking it'll hurt like hell so i just yeah, escape

I have the same exact problem. I want to do anal, but I have an extremely LOW tolerance for pain, but am curious and want to do anal. I find myself squirming away from my Master's cock as he is trying to put it in.

[slavelucy]

I have the same exact problem. I want to do anal, but I have an extremely LOW tolerance for pain, but am curious and want to do anal. I find myself squirming away from my Master's cock as he is trying to put it in.

Yeah, see, it's at that point you should try to fight all your natural instincts to pull away (heh, i make that sound easy!) and push back onto him..push out, if you see what i mean...it will hurt for a second, but once you're past that, it should be fine, if he's gentle with you...and you'll only need to do it once, to convince yourself that it will work, if you see what i mean.

sl

[l<itten]

Yeah, see, it's at that point you should try to fight all your natural instincts to pull away (heh, i make that sound easy!) and push back onto him..push out, if you see what i mean...it will hurt for a second, but once you're past that, it should be fine, if he's gentle with you...and you'll only need to do it once, to convince yourself that it will work, if you see what i mean.

sl

lol yea, alot easier said than done. My Master also suggested I push back on him, I think maybe if we both decide this is something we want to continue trying to do that maybe I should mention him letting me have control during anal until if/and/or/when I get used to it. Which might be hard for me, I don't take control, I never have. I prefer to be Dominated than to Dominate.

[slavelucy]

lol yea, alot easier said than done.

*grin* Absolutely...because every ounce of your natural instincts screams 'Pull away, you fool!'...but i promise, promise, promise, if you relax and push out, it will get better after a few strokes.

Which might be hard for me, I don't take control, I never have. I prefer to be Dominated than to Dominate.

But..it's not dominating. Try to think of it as doing something that ultimately will lead to you be able to do something you want to do for him..in that respect, it's the ultimate submissive action.

(Just to be clear, if anal sex is something that you decide is a hard limit, then that's cool, i'm not saying you HAVE to do anal sex, if it's just not your cup of tea.)

sl

[-angelstar-]

lucy, just wondering but will there be slight tearing or a little bleeding during the first time anal is tried?

[slavelucy]

lucy, just wondering but will there be slight tearing or a little bleeding during the first time anal is tried?

Hey angel, nice to hear from you.

There shouldn't be significant tearing and/or bleeding, no, especially not if done with consideration (and lube!). You will obviously 'feel' slightly different, for a very short while (having been stretched, it's just new, to the body), but that's as much a pyschological thing i think. If there was to be any slight bleeding, it would be no more than like an ink flick of blood, and you almost certainly wouldn't notice it or feel pain from it afterwards, the human body is very resiliant and it wouldn't be anything significant enough to trouble it. If done with care, the anus will accomodate what you wish it to accomodate without tearing, promise.

sl

[-angelstar-]

yeppers, havent been around much lately. hope all is well for you

anyway the reason why i asked was because the one time i tried getting a substantial bit of him up my butt, i found a bit of spotting... and my butt felt quite sore. so that freaked me out a little cos i got worried that i'd bleed a lot more if i took it all up

i shall work on my mental block now

thanks lucy!

[BDSM_Tourguide]

I have the same exact problem. I want to do anal, but I have an extremely LOW tolerance for pain, but am curious and want to do anal. I find myself squirming away from my Master's cock as he is trying to put it in.

For an easier time with anal sex, tell your master not to start with his cock, but with his tongue instead. Analingus tends to give pleasurable feelings in the area and should cause you to relax somewhat. After a few minutes of it, you will probably notice your hips rocking as he's licking you, just as if he was performing cunnilingus.

Second, after the tongue, still leave the cock in the pants. Have him use a finger or small vibe to begin slowly penetrating you. All the time, you should be concentrating not on how much it might hurt, but on your breathing and the relaxation of the muscles in your anus. After you are able to take a couple of finger or a small vibe easily, then it's time to pull the cock out of the pants and put it in the bum.

That should, however, be done slowly at first. This will give you plenty of time to stay relaxed and to get used to the larger (hopefully) item being introduced into your rectum. After that, it's easy peasy. You'll be laughing in no time.

To keep the anus "trained" try using a small butt plug for a certain amount of time each day. Start with a half hour's wear and move up from there. Once you can easily handle a small one, move to larger one. Eventually, you can get to the point where you can walk around with one in, wear one to work, or even sleep with one in and not even notice. Suffice it to say, when you get used to having a foreign body in your anus for lengthy periods of time, having your master turn you over and shove his cock all the way in you in one stroke is not so difficult anymore.

[MistressKali]

As a nurse, I've read this thread with interest, and a smile most of the time. First, as with any muscle, the sphincter can be stretched if done gently without causing any long term lasting effects... as long as it is not given the chance to atrophe (do those keigel excercises to keep up the elasticity!) and given a chance to return to normal and not remain in a stretched condition for extended periods of time without a rest. Second, as long as you KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that you are in a relationship where there is no chance of death by sex and both partners have tested negative for chlamydia, human papilloma virus, trichomonas, syphilis, gonorrhea, gardnerella, and herpes then a condom is not necessary as long as 1) there is no switching from anal to vaginal sex without cleaning up first and 2) the male urinates right after to flush the bacteria from the urethra and washes well to eleminate them from crawling right back into the warm wet environment they like so well.

To make anal sex play enjoyable and healthy, keep these tips in mind: Because no lubrication is produced by the anus, a lubricant should definitely be used to help the insertion of anything -- finger, penis or sex toy. Water-based lubricants are fine. Some of these can be purchased at drugstores or at a store that carries sensual accessories. Other more greasy lubricants are preferred by some who intend to spend a longer time at anal play. If you are using a latex based condom, remember that petrolium based products break down latex, exposing you to the risk of a STD.

For additional information on this topic, I recommend Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men and Women by Jack Morin.

~steps down from the lecture podium with a sheepish grin~