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  1. #61
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    Originally posted by Neopadinski
    I wouldn't consider it turmoil...I thought of it as more "heated debate". Either way, he caused a mass discussion on the topic.
    B]I don't see NO discussion ON THE (original) SUBJECT!
    Instead I see a fight about WHAT is one allowed to say freely.[/[/B]


    C'mon people: You are all into hurting people or getting hurt or dominate someone or submit to someone or humiliate someone or get humiliated by someone...

    And you expect that when talking about it this won't occur???

    You've gotta be kidding!

    For some people it might even be a thrill to play edgy... Who said words can't be edgy?
    They sting as bad as any cat'o'nine or single tale, anytime when used probably!

    Now this Forum is Cyberspace, right? How can you truly expect those word-man (or women!) not to whip with words? They'll do it, at least once in a while - and its okay... this is the BDSM-LIBRARY-FORUM, forgot???

    Now when someone gets hurt, stand up and say so. Any grown up individual will give you sorrow and shelter, and help you overcome your pain and pick you up again. Just like you'd do in a session where something went wrong. (That never happened to YOU? GIVE ME A BREAK, BIG FELLA, LADY WOW!)

    So what is wrong asking a question like the original one???

    One could raise so many questions:

    Supposedly statistics say that people who are drawn into BDSM as adults have been abused as Childs to an above average rate than adults from any other groups not enjoying BDSM as adults.

    Now must asking such questions as a thread-starter like "Why is it that people who have been abused in their childhood are drawn into BDSM Lifestyle as adults? automatically drive the community and the moderators into a "You'll be banned if you insult people... hey I know someone who might be insulted by that statement/question ... I'm insulted by that question, take it back!"-mode?

    Why not openly discuss the subject, maybe there is something to it for us to reveal!

    Talking about the subject and a question that has no definite answer yet, might make us all smarter because while talking we may just come up with an answer!

    Fighting about a question of conduct is not getting anybody anywhere!

    Stating "and it is still spinning" pissed half of the human race off (all Vatican ruled Christians at least) and therefore was definitely insulting to all who were living their quiet life back in those days. But it was still true and both was very likely: that you'd insult the people as well as the mighty of those days and consequently ended up being tortured by the Spanish Inquisition.
    But it was well worth the result: ALL did benefit from the answers that were brought up just because somebody raised that question!

    Lets not call each other names but -damn!- allow to raise questions and let the community discuss things that are of interest to them! (Which is most likely the case if someone starts a thread raising such question).

    Cutting subjects like this off (just because someone might or is offended) makes the BDSM community no better than those who still call us perverts!

    Remember what we tend to tell people who call our activities pervers and sick and all?
    Yes, we tell 'em to mind their own business, to look away!
    So if there is a thread about something that someone out there just might take as an insult... tell that someone to stay away from that particular thread, look into other threads that are more like it for that someone. There are examples of threads where this works just fine (e.g. the thread on scat - people who feel offended don't read, don't post there)

    So, let's not call each other names, let's not fight about codes of conducts (hey, this ain't the Ed Sullivan Show!) lets talk about the subjects instead!

    Glad to get comments.

    By the way, what was the question?

    Wt
    Last edited by WANDA's_toy; 01-20-2004 at 06:01 PM.

  2. #62
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    The original question was, "Why are so many BDSM girls fat and ugly??"

    If you're serious about wanting an answer to that, I'd have to side with pandemonium. In America, at least, most BDSM girls are fat and ugly because most humans are fat and ugly and all BDSM girls are human.

    I really think that this issue is about played out. The thread was started to cause trouble, and Whipit/Manwhore must be laughing his ass off.

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    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    I don't see NO discussion ON THE (original) SUBJECT!
    Instead I see a fight about WHAT is one allowed to say freely.

    Where do you see a fight about what what one is allowed to say freely?

    And before you answer that, head over to the General Talk section and read the updated Code of Conduct.



    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    C'mon people: You are all into hurting people or getting hurt or dominate someone or submit to someone or humiliate someone or get humiliated by someone...

    And you expect that when talking about it this won't occur???

    You've gotta be kidding!

    No. I 'm not kidding. I don't want to see people get insulted on these forums. There's a firm difference between humiliation and degradation. Just like there's a difference between BDSM and abuse.


    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    For some people it might even be a thrill to play edgy... Who said words can't be edgy?
    They sting as bad as any cat'o'nine or single tale, anytime when used probably!

    You're right, they can. However, it's how you use your words that indicates the effect they will have. Calling someone fat and ugly or stupid or a big ugly cow is NOT humiliation. It's degradation, pure and simple and that, my friend, is verbal abuse


    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    Now this Forum is Cyberspace, right? How can you truly expect those word-man (or women!) not to whip with words? They'll do it, at least once in a while - and its okay... this is the BDSM-LIBRARY-FORUM, forgot???

    So? What the heck is that supposed to mean?

    Are you trying to say that just because we're online that we don't deserve to be treated and respected like 'normal' people do?

    Or are you trying to say that, just because we are members of a BDSM community that we should just expect to be treated like shit and accept it?

    Please clarify that statement for me, so I can understand better and not go with my first instinct on this, which is to get really offended.



    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    Now when someone gets hurt, stand up and say so. Any grown up individual will give you sorrow and shelter, and help you overcome your pain and pick you up again. Just like you'd do in a session where something went wrong. (That never happened to YOU? GIVE ME A BREAK, BIG FELLA, LADY WOW!)

    So what is wrong asking a question like the original one???

    What's wrong with it? Well, first off, it's insulting. Secondly, it violates the Code of Conduct. Thirdly, it refers to the members here in a derrogatory sense and insinuates that the women here are not beautiful, each in their own way. There's a big difference between asking why women in BDSM are all fat and ugly and asking why some women in BDSM are overweight or may not take care of themselves. The devil is in the details.

    It's not the question that's the issue, it's how the question was raised in the first place. Had it been asked in a manner which was not outright insulting and degrading, then it probably would have been fine for discussion. As it is, it works okay, although a lot of people are put off by the title of the thread.

    Try this at home: Walk up to your mistress, look her right in the eye and ask her why she's a fat, ugly sow and see how she reacts. That should give you some indication of what was wrong with the original question. (Not that I'm saying she is, I'm just using this as a hypothetical example.)

    Besides, as has been stated before, the person that started this thread has shown up in several different nicknames and always started trouble. He's been banned. It doesn't matter what his name is. His nickname wasn't banned, the person was. There is a difference, contrary to what you might believe.



    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    One could raise so many questions:

    Supposedly statistics say that people who are drawn into BDSM as adults have been abused as Childs to an above average rate than adults from any other groups not enjoying BDSM as adults.

    Statistically speaking, it is true. Many women in the BDSM lifestyle are abused ealier in life. Whether that is the 'cause' of their interest in BDSM or simply just something that shaped their lives is a topic for another discussion


    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    Now must asking such questions as a thread-starter like "Why is it that people who have been abused in their childhood are drawn into BDSM Lifestyle as adults? automatically drive the community and the moderators into a "You'll be banned if you insult people... hey I know someone who might be insulted by that statement/question ... I'm insulted by that question, take it back!"-mode?

    It doesn't, because that would genuinely interest people as a topic for discussion. In fact, I think I will start that thread when I am done here.

    As for being insulting, the CoC is pretty clear on that.



    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    Why not openly discuss the subject, maybe there is something to it for us to reveal!

    Talking about the subject and a question that has no definite answer yet, might make us all smarter because while talking we may just come up with an answer!

    I agree. Let's openly discuss the topic. That's why this thread, and others, are here. So, the subject matter can be discussed.

    There's nothing at all wrong with discussion. There's plenty wrong with outright abuse.



    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    Fighting about a question of conduct is not getting anybody anywhere!

    Who's fighting about questions of conduct?


    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    Lets not call each other names but -damn!- allow to raise questions and let the community discuss things that are of interest to them! (Which is most likely the case if someone starts a thread raising such question).

    Cutting subjects like this off (just because someone might or is offended) makes the BDSM community no better than those who still call us perverts!

    What are you talking about? You did happen to notice that this thread was still in existence, right? it has not been closed or deleted or molested in any way. So, where are you getting these ridiculous and unfounded claims from?


    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    Remember what we tend to tell people who call our activities pervers and sick and all?
    Yes, we tell 'em to mind their own business, to look away!
    So if there is a thread about something that someone out there just might take as an insult... tell that someone to stay away from that particular thread, look into other threads that are more like it for that someone. There are examples of threads where this works just fine (e.g. the thread on scat - people who feel offended don't read, don't post there)

    Again... What???

    I don't want people to look away from me like I'm some Elephant Man, just because I'm a practicing member of the BDSM lifestyle. Quite the opposite, I want people lookng me right in the eye. I want people asking me questions. I want people understanding that what I do is not abuse, it's not degrading to women and it's not only poracticed by rapists and psychos like people see on cop shows.

    At least it's not degrading to women until we, as the staff of this website, allow people to walk in here and start degrading the women of this site. As long as I am here and moderating, it's not going to happen.

    And no, I'm not going to tell someone to stay away from a thread that's openly insulting. I'm going to follow the CoC and give the person being insulting a warning and tell him to tone it down. Why? Because there's a huge difference between not finding the topic of conversation to your liking and the topic of conversation being abusive and insulting. Sure, if you don't like the scat thread, don't read it, but if you're a woman and you don't want to be called fat and uguly, then tell a moderator so the person writing the thread can be talked to.


    Originally posted by WANDA's_toy
    So, let's not call each other names, let's not fight about codes of conducts (hey, this ain't the Ed Sullivan Show!) lets talk about the subjects instead!

    Glad to get comments.

    That's exactly what we've been trying to do.
    It's in the blood...

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    Open Apology

    Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
    So, why don't you do yourself, the members here and me all a favor and take you immature, no account, probably only 13 year old ass and get it the fuck off this site. Otherwise, if I see you here, posting anymore of this kind of bonehead shit, I'll take personal pleasure in banning you and making all your little-minded posts disappear.


    I'd like to openly apologize for having made this statement. It was wrong of me and it was a violation of my own Code of Conduct.

    In the future, I will attempt to make my posts a little more level-headed. I'm sure I made this post after only getting three hours sleep. Not that it's an excuse, but my patience might not have been what it should have been.
    It's in the blood...

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    Apology accepted.

    Now if we could just get alex anderson to apologize for comparing you to Hitler....

  6. #66
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    Originally posted by Curtis
    Apology accepted.

    Now if we could just get alex anderson to apologize for comparing you to Hitler....
    Agree with you on this one, Curtis!

    Just feel sorry the thread has been drifting off the subject. I thought it was something to talk about. Plus: I didn't feel it was in particular about the photos in the personal/favorite picture threads nor reduced to pictures on the net.
    I felt it meant a wider range. So the answer you gave
    If you're serious about wanting an answer to that, I'd have to side with pandemonium. In America, at least, most BDSM girls are fat and ugly because most humans are fat and ugly and all BDSM girls are human.
    made me smile...
    But who knows, there might be something else to it, yet. That's why I thought ending (what I called) the fight and getting back to the general subject would be useful.

    and by the way, I knew what the org question was

    Wt

  7. #67
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    In an effort to finally drive a stake through the heart of this topic, I offer the following. It's copyright 2002 by Christina Aguilera and used absolutely and totally without permission, so I have no objection if the moderators delete it.

    Beautiful

    To all your friends you're delirious
    So consumed in all your doom
    Trying hard to fill the emptiness,
    The pieces gone,
    Left the puzzle undone,
    Ain't that the way it is?

    You are beautiful no matter what they say
    Words can't bring you down, no, no
    'Cause you are beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can't bring you down. Oh, no
    So don't you bring me down to day

    No matter what we do,
    No matter what we say,
    We're the song inside the tune,
    Full of beautiful mistakes
    And everywhere we go
    The sun will always, always shine
    And tomorrow we might awake on the other side

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    Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
    What are you talking about? You did happen to notice that this thread was still in existence, right? it has not been closed or deleted or molested in any way.
    Oh yes... my favourite piece of online silliness, people who post to say "This forum is censored, nobody is allowed to say anything the moderators don't like, they silence anyone who disagrees with them!" How's that again?
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    I realize this thread is dead, but I've just got to say one thing after reading through this thread ...

    Finding Fantasy: As a new person to this site, as I've been making my way through the forums in here, what I've observed of you in here, you truly seem to be a beautiful person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mmmmmmm
    I realize this thread is dead, but I've just got to say one thing after reading through this thread ...

    Finding Fantasy: As a new person to this site, as I've been making my way through the forums in here, what I've observed of you in here, you truly seem to be a beautiful person.

    Thank you very much for the compliment mmmmmmm (I think that I have the right number of m's in there LOL). The compliment is very much appreciated.

    Sorry it took me so long to reply, the daily grind of life has kept me busy. (no perverted comments from the peanut gallery LOL)
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    Funny

    you are very funny. Ha, ha! People are born with the way they look, there's pretty much nothing they can do about it. On the same token, they're also born with the feelings inside them and have to live with their desires. i'm sure many of the people out there who propose that they're either Dom, sub or slave are fakes, but many aren't and they have very little control over their looks. Yes, a person who's overweight can change this by exercise and eating right, but this takes time and effort. i am a male slave and i've been told many times that i'm very good looking. Even so, i've had much trouble finding a Mistress to continue my training as a slave, not because of my looks, but because of the training i'm looking for. i had the luck of having my previous Mistress train me to fuck animals. i've been told many times that it's such a waste that i've been trained the way i have because of my looks. i actually think it was my looks that prompted my former Mistress to do this too me. i underwent this training over a period of 10 year only being allowed to fuck animals during this time. Now, for me, it's hard to see myself as anything else but an animal fucker. Luckily, i think i've finally found that special Mistress to continue training me and am going to visit with Her this May. If things work out, i'll be moving to be Her slave permanently in July or August. But anyway, looks aren't as important as attitude.

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    Why are so many BDSM girls fat and ugly??
    Some of them are fat and ugly!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shaditu
    Some of them are fat and ugly!
    and your point is ... ?
    Maybe they know what I know, that the true way to a man’s heart is six inches of metal between his ribs. Sometimes four inches will do the job, but to be really sure, I like to have six. Funny how phallic objects are always more useful the bigger they are. Anyone who tells you size doesn’t matter has been seeing too many small knives. LKH Narcissus in Chains
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    Really, some BDSM men are fat, ugly and dumb too.

    So what's the point?

    Hey RedEva, like your new pic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redEva
    and your point is ... ?
    nothing, i don't understand where is the problem!

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    I would just like to say that manwhore, your comment is incredibly immature and small-minded.

    Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and while granted, I am not a size 4, I don't feel that I am ugly either.

    A picture, so that you may decide for yourself.


    and by the way, if you are judging people by the way they look and not their worth as a person, then you are probably one of the ugliest people on the planet.

    'nuff said.
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    Just so you know, Manwhore has been banned. Repeatedly. And I don't think he's going to be allowed on the internet ever again by anyone.

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    i certainly hope not! What an asshole!!!

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    It isn't nice to try to start forest fires

    And I'm not going to fan this flame anymore than I feel I should. I just have a few points to make for you to consider.

    And bigger women aren't always ugly. I know plenty of women with HOT love lives and husbands that worship the ground they walk on that aren't exactly super model material. It's really more in the features of the face to me that counts, for example, and the look deep in the person's eyes. The eyes are the gateway to the soul and some people can see that.

    for my last point, if I've learned anything in this life, it's that you can't stereotype anyone in any group. Just because some bdsm girls are fat and/or ugly (and some will be, there isn't a weight limit for the site, thank heaven,) doesn't mean they all are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Manwhore
    Have you ever noticed that many girls into BDSM are fat and quite unattractive???

    I beleive many of these women succumb to BDSM as a result of not being able to get any "normal" sex from guys and thus are forced to do BDSM to get attention
    grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr just to say i dt'tn think i am unattractive, in fact quite a lot of people say i am very attractive, but am not thin. and my size has nothing at all to do with bdsm. it's just the way i feel not the way i look. and it would be very sad if you choose your sexual orientation or however you would cathegorise bdsm as a result of body size. and i think in general a lot of people aren't super models, if into bdsm or not.
    P.S. the profile pic is me in case you think i would hide behind the pic i used as avatar.
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    ok before anyone shoots me, please read my whole post here.
    I have noticed that many subs and Dom/mes alike in BDSM are overweight.
    However I have a theory on this.
    BDSM is not based upon looks, in the nilla world people tend to see someone who is good looking and instantly chase after them, it is looks that first attract. Whereas in BDSM the emphasis is far more upon the mental capability of that person, i.e. how much they give as a sub or how strong they are as a Dom/me. In BDSM we tend to talk much much more and get to the know the person underneath the looks, this is ESP true o/l we talk, subs open up and reveal who they really are, their deepest fears and desires are laid out before the Dom/me and in the nilla world we just don't see that as much if at all.
    I belive that people are drawn to BDSM as its meant to be a non judgmental lifestyle, so overweight people can be themselves and know that the Dom/me / sub isn't looking at what they look like, but they are looking at who they are inside.
    And in case anyone is curious, yes I too am overweight, but I was underweight when I first discovered BDSM.

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    You make interesting points Cinders...

    You may have something there. On Sat I was at a craft fair that was exclusively for BDSMers and was thinking about how the atmosphere in the room was so friendly and accepting, even to total strangers--especially since it was an open event and not a munch or a play party at all.

    Another thing... that IMHO goes along with this, is that people in the scene tend to be comfortable with their appearance--and I think that makes them even more attractive. You walk into a room like that and see what could be considered large-sized women dressed in sexy, revealing tops and sporting a beautiful smile to match.

    My partner and I are both considered "acceptable" weight for our height, but I definitely look underweight--and have always been a little conscious of my skinny arms. I would _definitely_ say that we were in the minority in that room, but once again--it is an accepting crowd, who would no more stare at us than expect that kind of behaviour in return.

    THAT, right there...is beauty.


    BTW: this thread may have been started by a moron, and looked a little like bickering from time to time, but I read the whole thing and appreciated how much it made me think... about many, many issues. Thank you all.
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    Some are, I admit, dut there's always going to be some that arn't quite to your likeing, so why don't you look at the ones you do like? For all you know, many people may like bigger girls to the twigs that we normaly get... maybe a bit of meat once in a while is not a bad thing, plus it may make you apreciate the ones that you like more (although I doubt it ).
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    I was looking at some vintage porn (Hey, it was for a project) the other night and thought of this thread while I was observing some of the women who were considered beautiful in the 60's and 70's.

    The women who were posing then were curvy, beautiful women. They were long before the heroine chic that glamourized the 'tit's on a stick' look that is what the fashion industry is telling people what is glamorous today.

    As an experiment, I'd be interested to purchase a garment made today in a size 11, and then purchase one from a vintage store from that era in the same size and compare.

    I work with a lot of women who considered pretty back then. They're in their 50's-60's now and are still attractive. I wonder how the women of today who are starving themselves to fit into that size whatever are going to look in the long run.

    Just kind of rambling here. It's funny how your mind works after being up for 36 hours.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalluss
    As an experiment, I'd be interested to purchase a garment made today in a size 11, and then purchase one from a vintage store from that era in the same size and compare.

    I work with a lot of women who considered pretty back then. They're in their 50's-60's now and are still attractive. I wonder how the women of today who are starving themselves to fit into that size whatever are going to look in the long run.
    I normally wear a size 6 american in Women's clothes, size 5 or 7 in juniors. I have a pair of vintage cords from the 1970's, labeled size 9, and they are slightly too small for me at the moment. Sizes have definitely changed seriously. I would imagine the difference gets larger the farther back you go, until you hit the era before store-bought clothes were common.
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    I have humbly decided to respond to this thread, not the originator of it.

    This is an issue that has been so much a part of my entire life... my weight! God how I can remember my mother putting me on diets as a very young girl. So from as far back as that, someone has always tried to mold me to their idea of what my body should look like.

    This continued through to my adult life and has plagued me, even somewhat to this day. I have always tried to maintain a body weight that just seems unnatural for me. And let me just say that big people do not necessarily eat gross amounts of food. I don't, but I am a big woman.

    I must say though, that since being introduced to BDSM and my Master, i have begun a transformation. Actually beginning to understand more about myself and my appearance. I'm big, but I am not ugly. My partner finds me attractive and well proportioned, and has never once asked me to lose weight. He would support me if I felt I needed to make a change to better myself, but that is it!

    Some day I hope to get to the point that I can look in the mirror and be totally pleased and content in who I am. I'm working on it... But I have to tell you, it helps so much to see everyday people showing off everyday bodys... how sexy, erotic and honest is that!!!! I admire each and every one of you for it!

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    Two things

    Number one:
    Who is to say what is fat and what is not? It's in the eye of the beholder, a phrase which has been repeatedly used on this topic thread and yet has been ignored by those who refuse to find the meaning in the spirit of the phrase. If fat is defined as being a specific number of pounds overweight according to some stupid medical chart some overeducated doctor has thought up, then I am fat too. I am 5' and 130 lbs. And I'm okay with that. Yes, I look at Jennifer Lopez and Brittany Spears and Lucy Liu on TV and wish I could look like that; but in the end, that's not who I am, and even if I were to change the outside I'd still be the same person inside. And that person on the inside is what matters. I have to look at myself every day in the mirror and be happy with the person looking back at me. Therefore, I'll do what I have to in order to be happy.
    Another thing to think about; there are sites on which pregnant women are in bondage too. Do they count also as fat, Alex, Whipit/Manwhore, and anyone else that has something to say about the way a woman looks or doesn't look? Most men seem to have a 'thing' for pregnant women (I was working as a cellular sales rep in a mall kiosk through the last trimester of my first pregnancy, and I was getting propositioned by an incredible number of men. Even AFTER they saw my wedding ring! Girls, we've all heard it said that men have a thing for pregnant women; I'll tell you something, being pregnant, petite, and Asian all at the same time was like holding a T-bone steak in front of a starving man! Fat can be beautiful, too. Don't let anyone tell you you're fat and ugly. As long as YOU can look at yourself in the mirror and say 'I'm beautiful' then you are beautiful. Regardless of how the outside looks.
    Men: If you haven't seen the movie 'Shallow Hal', then I suggest you go and rent it, and watch it with an open mind. It stars Gwyneth Paltrow...and I forgot who the guy was. The lesson inherent in the movie is that no matter what the girl looks like on the outside, what's inside matters most. Do us 'ugly/fat/unattractive' girls a favor, and watch it. It's a wakeup call.
    Number two:
    The First Amendment to the Constitution of the United States of America say that all persons are free to say what they wish, however they wish. However, the morals and societical norms of the time the Constitution was written vary greatly from the societical expectations of today. Things we say now could be construed as insults back then, and could actually cause duels to the death! Therefore, I call out Whipit/Manwhore. I demand that he present his sword and defend his opinion with his arm. And I warn you, I'm very good with a sword! I've had years of Tai Chi sword training!
    All right, levity aside, what I'm trying to get at is that, while we are technically free to say whatever we wish, some opinions need to be CAREFULLY thought out before the words are allowed to fall. Freedom of speech also requires some common sense when one is speaking. If you don't think before you speak, you could get in a lot of hot water (the which you already know.) Temper your words with common sense. Nowadays, duels are fought with guns, rather than swords, and there are no steps counted/first blood rules. Piss off the wrong person and that person might come back and shoot you while you're sitting in the bathroom jacking off to Brittany Spears's picture!
    Okay, that last was a little crude, and I apologize. But even the Supreme Court realizes that words should be processed with the brain before being allowed to leave the mouth. Why else do you think that Ku Klux Klan manifestos are suppressed and banned, and BDSM magazines, drawings, etc. are still sold? Because the one involves common sense and thought, as well as consent; the former involves uninformed racist views that do nothing but hurt people. If you go up to a Klansman and ask where the nearest good taco place is, I'll bet he'll be able to give you directions. Ask him whether he prefers wonton soup or hot and sour, he'd probably have an answer to that too.
    Anyway, this is long winded enough. Please remember: Temper your words with wisdom, and respect the people around you (even online!). Remember, what you do will come back on you threefold. I hope that someday when the above-named offenders are old and gray and hobbling down the sidewalk, some young punk says 'what an ugly old man'. Then you'll know what it feels like to be judged.
    Judge not, lest ye also be judged.
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    Re.Manwhore: Why are so many BDSM girls fat and ugly??

    Dear Manwhore,
    Apart from the usual cliche that 'beauty is in eyes of be-hold'er' and 'Looks are only skin deep', both true to a degree, usually when you are refering to someone who is plain and facial/body features don't comeup to YOUR idea of sexual, sensual, 'perfection'.
    Guys are frequently 'ugly' whether Doms. or subs. but it's the overall sexual oooze that really counts. An ugly Man can be (is usually) FAR more sexy than the Brad Pitt look-a-likes. Personally, apart from his eyes, he doesn't appeal to me, but my big, ol' teddybear Hubby turns me on, even when making his Lunch box. In fact, yes, that too.

    The following pics. are all beautiful, one is my real mom, in the silly event that guys voted, i'm sure the most beautiful of the 3 pics.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalluss
    I was looking at some vintage porn (Hey, it was for a project) the other night and thought of this thread while I was observing some of the women who were considered beautiful in the 60's and 70's.

    The women who were posing then were curvy, beautiful women. They were long before the heroine chic that glamourized the 'tit's on a stick' look that is what the fashion industry is telling people what is glamorous today.
    It's been pointed out that judging by her measurements, which were very much on record, Marylin Monroe would never get so much as a bit part in today's media unless they wanted someone to play "the fat girl".

    She never had to worry about the size of her butt. When she and Jane Russell were asked to put their footprints in the pavement outside Grauman's, she suggested that it would be more appropriate (since they already had prints of Jimmy Durante's nose and one of Betty Grable's legs) if Jane pushed her boobs into the cement and she sat in it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by leo9
    It's been pointed out that judging by her measurements, which were very much on record, Marylin Monroe would never get so much as a bit part in today's media unless they wanted someone to play "the fat girl".
    Oh, yeah--I remember a few years back, Elizabeth Hurley was at some exhibit where Marylin Monroe's size 12 dress was on display. Hurley exclaimed, "Oh my God, if I were that fat, I'd kill myself!"

    Says it all.

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