B]I don't see NO discussion ON THE (original) SUBJECT!Originally posted by Neopadinski
I wouldn't consider it turmoil...I thought of it as more "heated debate". Either way, he caused a mass discussion on the topic.
Instead I see a fight about WHAT is one allowed to say freely.[/[/B]
C'mon people: You are all into hurting people or getting hurt or dominate someone or submit to someone or humiliate someone or get humiliated by someone...
And you expect that when talking about it this won't occur???
You've gotta be kidding!
For some people it might even be a thrill to play edgy... Who said words can't be edgy?
They sting as bad as any cat'o'nine or single tale, anytime when used probably!
Now this Forum is Cyberspace, right? How can you truly expect those word-man (or women!) not to whip with words? They'll do it, at least once in a while - and its okay... this is the BDSM-LIBRARY-FORUM, forgot???
Now when someone gets hurt, stand up and say so. Any grown up individual will give you sorrow and shelter, and help you overcome your pain and pick you up again. Just like you'd do in a session where something went wrong. (That never happened to YOU? GIVE ME A BREAK, BIG FELLA, LADY WOW!)
So what is wrong asking a question like the original one???
One could raise so many questions:
Supposedly statistics say that people who are drawn into BDSM as adults have been abused as Childs to an above average rate than adults from any other groups not enjoying BDSM as adults.
Now must asking such questions as a thread-starter like "Why is it that people who have been abused in their childhood are drawn into BDSM Lifestyle as adults? automatically drive the community and the moderators into a "You'll be banned if you insult people... hey I know someone who might be insulted by that statement/question ... I'm insulted by that question, take it back!"-mode?
Why not openly discuss the subject, maybe there is something to it for us to reveal!
Talking about the subject and a question that has no definite answer yet, might make us all smarter because while talking we may just come up with an answer!
Fighting about a question of conduct is not getting anybody anywhere!
Stating "and it is still spinning" pissed half of the human race off (all Vatican ruled Christians at least) and therefore was definitely insulting to all who were living their quiet life back in those days. But it was still true and both was very likely: that you'd insult the people as well as the mighty of those days and consequently ended up being tortured by the Spanish Inquisition.
But it was well worth the result: ALL did benefit from the answers that were brought up just because somebody raised that question!
Lets not call each other names but -damn!- allow to raise questions and let the community discuss things that are of interest to them! (Which is most likely the case if someone starts a thread raising such question).
Cutting subjects like this off (just because someone might or is offended) makes the BDSM community no better than those who still call us perverts!
Remember what we tend to tell people who call our activities pervers and sick and all?
Yes, we tell 'em to mind their own business, to look away!
So if there is a thread about something that someone out there just might take as an insult... tell that someone to stay away from that particular thread, look into other threads that are more like it for that someone. There are examples of threads where this works just fine (e.g. the thread on scat - people who feel offended don't read, don't post there)
So, let's not call each other names, let's not fight about codes of conducts (hey, this ain't the Ed Sullivan Show!) lets talk about the subjects instead!
Glad to get comments.
By the way, what was the question?
Wt