Am I the only one?

[BDSM_Tourguide]

I appreciate the welcoming you both have given me.

And yes, I have read the Gor books. All of them. At least four times each. Well, except the last two. I can't find them.

Until now! I found out I can download all of them off the internet recently. So, hahaha! I will be Gor-book-reading again in no time!

Go me!

[write4jetc]

Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
Umm... Submissive and slave are two different things.

I'm not a submissive. I am dominant. I have been involved in the bdsm lifestyle for thirteen years now.

I don't consider myself to be a "typical" dominant, either. I don't capitalize my my's, nor any of my other pronouns. I also don't feel it necessary to capitalize my status as a dominant. It's personal choice, of course, and I'm not going to condemn others for the way they type.

Well, I'm getting a little off-topic here. Sorry for that. Looking back on things, I'm very happy to have found out about bdsm and the surrounding lifestyle. I'm also incredibly happy to have found out about this website. I like the diversity of the fetishes and the fact that people don't seem to mind reading them. I don't see others judging people for their thoughts here. I have seen too much of that lately in chat rooms and alternative lifestyle websites. So, keep up the great work and I will contribute as much and as often as I can to this site.

Hi! I too just found this forum, and agree with this quote (although I did snip some of it for length)

I am the dominant person in our twosome as well, although I don't feel the need to shout it out to everyone that knows us. My sub is my best friend; we don't live together (I live with my unsuspecting husband, I'm ashamed to say), but we do spend alot of quality time with each other.
In her professional world, she is 'someone', going ever higher and higher; she's very ambitious. I am not; I run my own little business, in my own little world. Because we are best friends, it is not at all unusual for her to take me on a business trip with her, which can lead to all kinds of interesting scenes. She is a highly controling person; we met when I worked for her many years ago. Once she explained that she 'valued' things more if she had to work hard for them, our relationship changed from friends, to lovers, to dom/sub. She also likes being punished, which was an unusual scene for meek & mild me to understand. However, a tour around a good BDSM library sure sparked my imagination - and my dom side - and we're having a great time.
When she goes away without me, we have great telephone scenes; they can be almost as erotic as the real thing. She has a webcam on her laptop computer, so I can watch her but she can't see me to judge my reaction to what she may be doing. These are the trips where she comes home so aroused and I know she's been like that for a few days.
Hmmm, I might have to refuse to go on the next trip ...

Spanker (and spankee)

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by write4jetc


Hi! I too just found this forum, and agree with this quote (although I did snip some of it for length)

I am the dominant person in our twosome as well, although I don't feel the need to shout it out to everyone that knows us. My sub is my best friend; we don't live together (I live with my unsuspecting husband, I'm ashamed to say), but we do spend alot of quality time with each other.
In her professional world, she is 'someone', going ever higher and higher; she's very ambitious. I am not; I run my own little business, in my own little world. Because we are best friends, it is not at all unusual for her to take me on a business trip with her, which can lead to all kinds of interesting scenes. She is a highly controling person; we met when I worked for her many years ago. Once she explained that she 'valued' things more if she had to work hard for them, our relationship changed from friends, to lovers, to dom/sub. She also likes being punished, which was an unusual scene for meek & mild me to understand. However, a tour around a good BDSM library sure sparked my imagination - and my dom side - and we're having a great time.
When she goes away without me, we have great telephone scenes; they can be almost as erotic as the real thing. She has a webcam on her laptop computer, so I can watch her but she can't see me to judge my reaction to what she may be doing. These are the trips where she comes home so aroused and I know she's been like that for a few days.
Hmmm, I might have to refuse to go on the next trip ...

Spanker (and spankee)

We will, of course, be expecting pics and videos of any spanking and BDSM-related things that you and your partner do.

Greetings from Canada, by the way.

[write4jetc]

<<Greetings from Canada, by the way.>> Did you notice my location? <grin>



Pics & videos? Hmmm, haven't actually done that ... a digital camera, an embarrassed sub - yeah, now you're making me think all kinds of things! Just the thought of her begging me not to show them to anyone, and the things she'd have to agree to before I promised...
geez, if only it was warm enough to tie her up outside, where the threat of exposure is sooo much greater. It just may be time for another visit to the old reference library - the one with all the small dark corners where no-one ever goes.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by write4jetc
<<Greetings from Canada, by the way.>> Did you notice my location? <grin>



Pics & videos? Hmmm, haven't actually done that ... a digital camera, an embarrassed sub - yeah, now you're making me think all kinds of things! Just the thought of her begging me not to show them to anyone, and the things she'd have to agree to before I promised...
geez, if only it was warm enough to tie her up outside, where the threat of exposure is sooo much greater. It just may be time for another visit to the old reference library - the one with all the small dark corners where no-one ever goes.

Yes, I noticed your location.

I think that sounds just lovely. If you need my email address to send the humiliating pics, just let me know.

[VLMarquette]

[URL=http://]Perks?[/URL

]Oh My, I haven't thought of the Gor books since HS, close to 22 years ago. Could It really be that I might have taken my love for the books a tad too far?


Chuckle.

V.L. Marquette

[Mobius]

It may have themes about rape torture Sexual sadism.
Dominance and submission. Does that mean I am going out and rape the first goth chick I see, No! One has to remember that for most of us this is FICTION (HELLO).
It is very nice to see couples with the gift of good communication and an open mind that can actually try some things that we all read about.
But I fear that for most of us if we even mention rope,handcuffs,blind fold, or the ubiquitous butplug. our significant other would running screaming to local authorities.

That is why Fiction lets us all have the freedom to explore new worlds, even if I dont have the balls to explore in real life.

[write4jetc]

Of course, if you want to explore other options, you do not have to include your s.o.
I realized after 15 years of marriage what that small voice in the back of my head had been trying to say to me for so long. As I started to explore that part of my psyci (sp?), the voice became a little bit clearer. But I also knew that my s.o. would not be interested. I am more dominant than he is, in a vanilla sort of way, but not in a way that we would talk about and admit to.
However, when my best friend realized what had me confused, we started to explore this thing together.
There is no question that I am dominant over her when we are together; it's sometimes hard to not let that spill into our vanilla lives; my family knows and accepts her as my best friend, with no hint of more between us.
We often explore new options between us on-line; she has a webcam, and nicely submits to the scenarios I spell out for her. If it goes the way we want it to, we will re-create the scene the next time we are together.
The on-line sessions only work because we have complete honesty and trust between us; if I tell her to cuff herself to her bed at night time, I have to know that is what she will do, no exceptions. However, for safety purposes, she does have to be able to get out of the cuffs herself, even if it's only so she can go to work in the morning!
I guess what I am saying, bbeale7, is that you could explore some parts of this world on-line; it is not that difficult to find someone who had the same (or do I mean opposite?) traits as you.
I did train another sub on-line; it is a slower process, but can be very rewarding. Just make sure you get to know the person well before handing over your secrets to them.

[Mobius]

Originally posted by write4jetc
Of course, if you want to explore other options, you do not have to include your s.o.
I realized after 15 years of marriage what that small voice in the back of my head had been trying to say to me for so long. As I started to explore that part of my psyci (sp?), the voice became a little bit clearer. But I also knew that my s.o. would not be interested. I am more dominant than he is, in a vanilla sort of way, but not in a way that we would talk about and admit to.
However, when my best friend realized what had me confused, we started to explore this thing together.
There is no question that I am dominant over her when we are together; it's sometimes hard to not let that spill into our vanilla lives; my family knows and accepts her as my best friend, with no hint of more between us.
We often explore new options between us on-line; she has a webcam, and nicely submits to the scenarios I spell out for her. If it goes the way we want it to, we will re-create the scene the next time we are together.
The on-line sessions only work because we have complete honesty and trust between us; if I tell her to cuff herself to her bed at night time, I have to know that is what she will do, no exceptions. However, for safety purposes, she does have to be able to get out of the cuffs herself, even if it's only so she can go to work in the morning!
I guess what I am saying, bbeale7, is that you could explore some parts of this world on-line; it is not that difficult to find someone who had the same (or do I mean opposite?) traits as you.
I did train another sub on-line; it is a slower process, but can be very rewarding. Just make sure you get to know the person well before handing over your secrets to them.

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Would not even know where to start.
No I think I need to keep that demon bottled up for safty sake.
and limit my exposure to fiction.
I freely admit to loving to read storys about brutality and
dominating others. But in reality I would not hurt a flee.

[write4jetc]

<<But in reality I would not hurt a flee>>

That was me, too. I couldn't believe that anyone could like hurting anyone else. When I was growing up, I had a younger brother with a lot of anger in him, and a perfectionist mother. Needless to say, it was like mixing oil and fire! I hated it so much, that I would hide in a closet, covering my ears, so I didn't have to listen to it. I think I could say I feel too much, and anyone's pain affects me.

My sub, Sylvie (she's around here somewhere) is exactly the opposite on this point. She has grown a very hard crust over her emotions; she has trained herself to be a hardass with no feelings. That's what the pain does for her, it makes her feel. We had to start out very slowly in this field; the first time I spanked her, I cried a lot more than she ever would!

It's really weird, I think, that I was trianed to be a dom by my sub, but we've never worried about fitting into other people's pigeonholes. Because we have been pretty isolated in our bdsm, we have evolved in a way that suits us.

I don't think I completely took over the reins of being a dom until the day I saw this powerful chained woman kneeling at my feet, sobbing in thankfulness because I had paddled her to an orgasm.

I must admit, the power I have over her is a huge turn on for me; whenever I find a woman that appeals to me, she is usually a strong woman. This doesn't mean she is a big-shot out in the world, although that sometimes does seem to be the case), but rather that she is opinionated and speaks her mind. That, along with the submissive side she reveals only to me, is a turn-on. I guess in a way I would have to say the dom in me now is a letting out of the 'wouldn't-hurt-a-flea' part that I have in my vanilla life. Maybe in some way I'm striking back at my childhood? I'm sure a shrink could have a field day with that one!

I do have to say that no other woman has ever made me lust after them the way I do after Sylvie. I don't even consider myself bi sexual, although many would. I must admit though, being attracted to a nice butt that I could warm up to a nice shade of red <sigh>.

[AmandasSpankee]

<<<the first time I spanked her, I cried a lot more than she ever would!>>>

I remember that! I couldn't understand t; you weren't even the one being spanked. We sure have come along way, haven't we?


<<<I don't think I completely took over the reins of being a dom until the day I saw this powerful chained woman kneeling at my feet, sobbing in thankfulness because I had paddled her to an orgasm.>>>

Dear Mistress,
While I would never question your right to say whatever you want about me, could you please stop putting my rosy ass on public display?
I'm embarrassed - which is the whole point of it, isn't it? I think you know me too well. I know you, too, and I know you're trying to make me say something you can punish me for. I'm going off-line now, in case it works.
Sometimes it's so much fun to only be able to communicate by computer.

p.s. love your new tag line ~Tread softly, and carry a big stick ~ that's kinda scary!

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by AmandasSpankee
Dear Mistress,
While I would never question your right to say whatever you want about me, could you please stop putting my rosy ass on public display?
I'm embarrassed - which is the whole point of it, isn't it? I think you know me too well. I know you, too, and I know you're trying to make me say something you can punish me for. I'm going off-line now, in case it works.
Sometimes it's so much fun to only be able to communicate by computer.

p.s. love your new tag line ~Tread softly, and carry a big stick ~ that's kinda scary!

Wait, wait, wait.

If we're going to be putting your rosy ass on public display, I want to see the pics, dammit!

[write4jetc]

I think I can probably do that for ya. Trouble is, I don't know where to post them.
Maybe I could just add them to my website; it's not as though anyone could find them by mistake, just by guessing the name of the page.

What do you think, Sylvie? Since you seem to have an opinion on everything these days!
Could you bring those red cheeks (the ones on your face, this time) over here? It would melt all this snow away very quickly.

I like this idea; mostly because I think Sylvie's buns are the best there is. I'll eMail you the link, BDSM_TourGuide, as soon as they are posted.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

If you need suggestions for how to get them to me, just click the "profile" button under this message. You can email me from there and I can send you a return message to let you know what the actual email address is. Or you can use one of the various messengers I have listed to send them. Other than that, I'm flexible.

[AmandasSpankee]

Nnnnnnooooooo!!!!!!

[BDSM_Tourguide]

... your opinion was asked for. *Winks at Amanda*

[write4jetc]

Personally, I want to know just what tone of voice this was said in.

Is it the whine of a 6 year old being dragged out of a toy store? Lots of noise, but she knows she has no choice?

Or is it the sound of a sub who mistakenly believes she has some say in the matter?


And what the hell are you doing on-line in the daytime anyhow? Shouldn't you be stomping around, terrifying some file clerk or something?

[Mobius]

It has to be in the water or the air is to thin up there

[veru_skjava]

Amanda how is she feeling today?

giggles love this lil interaction, hehehe

veru skjava

[AmandasSpankee]

she's feeling sore, thank you for asking. Mistress had a little talk with me last night. If you would like to hear about it, we posted it here:

www.findbeads.com/Wow1.html

If it doesn't form a link, and you have to type it in, the W has to be a capital.

This is only the first part, from last night.Today's part will be up later on; I was too tied up to day to get to it <giggle> Oh god, she's got me giggling. I never giggle. well, it's been a day of firsts, and at least I know what her NewYears Resolution is.

You have to understand, when Mistress sets up playtime for us, she writes it up as a story first, so she can work out all the details that she needs to know. Then, she sets it all in motion. I, of course, have not had a chance to read the story, it would spoil the whole thing.
After we have finished playing, she will revise the story/plan so that it reflects what actually happened, and then she gives it to me as a 'memory', or diary. This is her first draft of last night. I can see a couple of changes she needs to make, but it is fairly accurate the way it is. When did she get to know me so well?

I believe that Mistress will be posting the next part soon, also unrevised. I think that only I will get the revised parts, cause it's my life

Please note the change in attitude. I'm sure the real Sylvie will be back someday soon, but for now this subdued version will be filling in for her. I won't be able to write much more; for some reason, I'm finding it hard to sit down.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Well worthy of a first chapter in a continuing story here on the Library. i would look forward to updates for sure.

[write4jetc]

Thank you, BDSM_TourGuide. I felt it was time to settle little miss smartass straight on a few things. While I am willing to take a bit of the blame ... okay, maybe I can actually accept most of the blame, I am supposed to be the dominant one here.
However, I don't feel we'll have too many more questions about that.
I have, indeed managed to post the second part of the story/plan. It did get rather out of hand; I ended up feeling a little bit like Jekyl & Hyde, as you'll see. There are some revisions to be done to it; this part did not go as close to the script as I intended them to, but I was being a bit over optimistic.
Still, the brat seems to have been supressed for now, so some very good things came out of it.
This issue of trust had been brought up between us before; it's all well and good to say you trust someone, but if it's never put to the test, it doesn't mean much. Our test went very well, if I say so myself.

okay, here it is, part 2: (why am I so nervous? This propably isn't as dark as I think it is ...)

www.findbeads.com/Wow2.html

[VLMarquette]

Obviously, we are not alone in all of thi

Below is a quote.

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I read storys about BDSM It may have themes about rape torture Sexual sadism.
Dominance and submission. Does that mean I am going out and rape the first goth chick I see, No! One has to remember that for most of us this is FICTION (HELLO).
It is very nice to see couples with the gift of good communication and an open mind that can actually try some things that we all read about.
But I fear that for most

[VLMarquette]

Obviously, we are not alone in all of thi

Below is a quote.

_________________________
I read storys about BDSM It may have themes about rape torture Sexual sadism.
Dominance and submission. Does that mean I am going out and rape the first goth chick I see, No! One has to remember that for most of us this is FICTION (HELLO).
It is very nice to see couples with the gift of good communication and an open mind that can actually try some things that we all read about.
But I fear that for most of us if we even mention rope,handcuffs,blind fold, or the ubiquitous butplug. our significant other would running screaming to local authorities.

That is why Fiction lets us all have the freedom to explore new worlds, even if I dont have the balls to explore in real life.
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<Chuckle>

It's nice to see someone here that owns up to not having *balls* enough to do a lot of things seen in some of the more interesting stories.

Pity, though, I happen to like butt plugs in r/t. And what is even funnies is being a woman, I don't have any *balls* either.

But all joking aside. You are right, this is fiction. And the reason it is so popular here. It does allow those who have either Dom or sub tendencies the place to read, or write what ever they dream up. It does not mean that anyone who reads or writes in here, is apt to go out and run amuck in the streets. No matter how much that fantasy thrills or delights you.

So, whether you are in a r/t exchange of power or just enjoy reading or writing about them. As long as you go by the three rules of all power exchanges are safe, sane and consensual.


Ronnie

[write4jetc]

We really like role-playing, and since Sylvie gets embarrassed quite easily out in the real world, it is my duty (and pleasure!) to push that embarrassment into humiliation as often as possible.
Some of our playing needs her co-operation, some of it needs her to be totally unaware of what is going to happen.
Because she/we travel so much, it is easier to 'play' than it would be if we stayed at home. Renting a sleazy motel room, complete with mirrored walls, is easy to do. Without bragging, I can say that Sylvie makes enough money to keep us in toys. When I want to rent such a place, I often drive by a strip of motels first, and pick one that seems likely. I will then phone and book it in the fake name we sometimes use. I don't think I could ever book it in person; I'd be as embarrassed as she would!
If I need the help of a man, I will usually find a cab driver, tell him I'm playing a trick on 'my sister' for her birthday, and ask for his help. Since I'm never going to see him again, it's not too hard. In some cases, I just can't go in and get the motel key, I have to ask the cabbie to do it, and take the payment in with him.
I'm pretty out-going, so it's not too hard to find someone to help. And I look soft, so they don't think I'm some butch girl out looking for trouble. Unlike Sylvie, I don't embarrass too easily, and I can certainly giggle.
Sometimes, I am way over optimistic. While the first part of our weekend went really well, the second did not. It was okay until we had our bath, at which point Sylvie let the water out before I went too far. From then on, it fell apart.
He knees hurt, she was too cold not having clothes on, she wanted something to eat, I was bored not having an equal to talk to, I felt lazy and rude making her do things I could easily do, such as making tea, etc, etc. In other words, we both missed not having our usual relationship, which is easy and relaxed.
So, I gave her the spanking she had been waiting a week for, she allowed me to get a bit closer to her butthole, and we all lived happily ever after - till the next crisis!

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by write4jetc
Because she/we travel so much, it is easier to 'play' than it would be if we stayed at home.

Dammit! Travel your asses over here!

*Stomps his foot and threatens to throw a tantrum.* LOL

[VLMarquette]

LOL

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Dammit! Travel your asses over here!

*Stomps his foot and threatens to throw a tantrum.* LOL



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Or they could just travel down here. I di not embarrass near as easily.


Ronnie

[write4jetc]

gee, it's nice to be appreciated!

Sylvie is <looking over shoulder quickly, to make sure she not loitering nearby> a motivational speaker, so she gets asked to travel all over. We were in Calgary once, and we've been out to Victoria, BC too. We get into the States every now and then, but usually only to New York, sometimes Pennsylvania. Don't ask me why we never seem to go anywhere nice and warm in the winter time; I think it's a plot to keep me 'chilled'.

We do have a lot of fun playing together, but anyone can do it. I get my ideas from lots of different stories, a touch here, a thought there; it maybe something that was just mentioned in passing, or it may be that my mind reacts very differently to something suggested in a story. My other big source of inspiration recently has been some of those stupid pictures you see on some 'adult' sites. My brain immediately starts to wonder what would lead a 'normal' person (meaning not an actress) to end up in that position.

Frankly, I think that while Sylvie's in her business meetings, I should be setting up 'playtime' for people. You know, I could become a consultant ......... But I'd need so much info from people, that they probably wouldn't want to give.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by write4jetc
gee, it's nice to be appreciated!

Sylvie is <looking over shoulder quickly, to make sure she not loitering nearby> a motivational speaker, so she gets asked to travel all over. We were in Calgary once, and we've been out to Victoria, BC too. We get into the States every now and then, but usually only to New York, sometimes Pennsylvania. Don't ask me why we never seem to go anywhere nice and warm in the winter time; I think it's a plot to keep me 'chilled'.

That COULD be considered a good thing, you know? Gives you more reason to "warm up" to people.

We do have a lot of fun playing together, but anyone can do it. I get my ideas from lots of different stories, a touch here, a thought there; it maybe something that was just mentioned in passing, or it may be that my mind reacts very differently to something suggested in a story. My other big source of inspiration recently has been some of those stupid pictures you see on some 'adult' sites. My brain immediately starts to wonder what would lead a 'normal' person (meaning not an actress) to end up in that position.

Oh... you must mean how they all seem to have taken acrobatics and gymnastics classes before becoming adult models. I have wondered about that, too. LOL

Frankly, I think that while Sylvie's in her business meetings, I should be setting up 'playtime' for people. You know, I could become a consultant ......... But I'd need so much info from people, that they probably wouldn't want to give.

Sounds like it could be a fun and profitable career. I wonder how one signs up for that?

[write4jetc]

I think anyone with enough imagination to write stories could probably plan scenes/playtime for people, with a bit of practice.

It's just a matter of finding the right person to practice with. In fact, if you could find someone with a webcam, you can setup a playtime for them while chatting to them - it's quite fun! It's amazing how erotic it cane be, when you can't even touch them. Of course, it can be equally frustrating!

Even if it's just finding out the things they most like to do, and throwing a slight twist into it, changes it and keeps it evolving.
Variety is the spice of life!