Question

[Manarqest]

My Girlfriend wants to brings a friend of hers into the situation. She told her about our relationship a few weeks back and it's been a source of tension between me and my Girlfriend since, especially because this friend of Hers has a crush on me and She knows it. I'm worried this could jeapordize what we have, but She says it'll only strengthen it, and that I should try to open my mind a little.

The idea is that the decision is ultimately hers and my input is considered but not necessarily heeded. I understand this, but I'm still worried.

[His Slut]

My Girlfriend wants to brings a friend of hers into the situation. She told her about our relationship a few weeks back and it's been a source of tension between me and my Girlfriend since, especially because this friend of Hers has a crush on me and She knows it. I'm worried this could jeapordize what we have, but She says it'll only strengthen it, and that I should try to open my mind a little.

The idea is that the decision is ultimately hers and my input is considered but not necessarily heeded. I understand this, but I'm still worried.

In reading your uh, question, I noted that She seems to be in control...?

It will only get awkward if She allows it to. You are Hers and so is the friend...She will take care of it...just lie back and enjoy.

[Ruby]

Welcome, Manarqest!

It's okay to be worried.

Your girlfriend domme has told you what she wants and you have voiced your concerns.

If "not being shared" is a hard limit for you, then let your partner know.

What works for the two of you, may or may not work for the three of you. Be up front about your concerns, be specific and be prepared to listen to her responses.

What do you want the relationship to look like in the future?
What does she want it to look like?
Are the two anywhere close?

If not, then you may have to assert yourself.

To your success,

Ruby

[Putnamcocpl]

Hello,

Personally, I dont see this as a "she's the domme" rather its up to her about including others... and sharing him.

If this is the case, Your concerns are justified, The girl with the crush can do any number of things to step over the line. Even if its a restricted case of Girl/Girl only play... One step outside, and a running mouth can cause all sorts of issues.

Re addressing all your concerns with your girlfriend is the best course of action. Explain any ideas of what your worries are, in detail if you have to.

Thte last thing anyone needs is for fun to cause them to be "outed" in public

[ElectricBadger]

Sounds like a valid concern about emotional issues; whatever your girlfriend thinks, her friend may have other ideas: how much and what it means, what it could lead to, etc. Sounds to me that, if going ahead with it is a serious possibility, all three of you need to have a sit down and establish what you're planning, what it means, what it will lead to, and what your limits are. Is it a one time thing? Only when your g/f is around? What does it imply outside of the bedroom?

Finally, take everyone's feelings into account but only do what you're willing to. If you feel it's risking your relationship and not worth it -- don't do it. On the other hand, understand that everything in life has risks, and embarking on something outside the normal scheme of things is going to be scary no matter how you do it.

[cariad]

Just saying a big ditto to everything which has already been said.

Unless you are both fully aware that this will change your relationship, not neccessarily for the worse, and you are both fully prepared to embrace the consequences then the answer should be no. It is not worth risking a good relationship for an exciting evening.

cariad