Verbal bondage?

[orchid]

hello,

something happened to me last night that has not happened before and i was curious if anyone else has experienced this...i'm sure you have - LOL

i am calling it verbal bondage because i don't know how else to describe it.

last night, my Master didn't bind me to the bed for our session, instead he simply told me to press my hands against the wall, through the headboard, and to not remove them until he said.

what followed was purely amazing - i wanted so badly to touch him, and feather my hands over him and i struggled to obey his wish. it was not an easy task, especially as he worked his magic on me, causing me all kinds of distraction! quite easily, this is one of the most erotic things i have ever experienced.

i would be interested in hearing anyone else's thoughts and experiences on this.

respectfully,
orchid

[Phantome]

I love this form of bondage- I think it really emphasizes the sub's willingness to submit, and shows trust. Much can be said about being tied up, but I think that that method really emphasizes the dom aspect- they control you whether you're willing or not. Not being tied up means you're controlling yourself and your submission. Do I make sense? I've have a long day of classes....
-Phantome

[Tojo]

Oh yeah, that's a well known one, to be ordered to stay in a position without using physical restraints.

One of my favourites is to ask her to just sit still for me, & not say anything.
That is all the more powerful for the fact that she's doing it of her own free will- what I call the essence of D/s.

Really it's just an extension of the usual- we don't do anything to anyone against their will (do we now kiddies??) so instead of saying 'turn around so I can tie your wrists together' why not say 'sit still with your hands on your thighs & don't move until I say so'

We're limited only by our imaginations.

Tojo

[angelfreak]

I'm rather shocked that I never really thought about this before. Wow. While with physical bondage, there's a helpless aspect that I love, the fact that, with 'verbal bondage' the only thing 'binding' you is your will to submit...very hot!

[Talia]

ok..wouldn't this more like mental bondage? I've experienced that once. It's amazing. It's the verbal commands the keep you where you are...but it's all mental....

SB

[Silke]

A kindom for experiencing this in r/l *sighs and smiles*.

Well, in online D/s it's practically like this all the time, isn't it? You follow commands *always* on pure will to submit - there's no proof of your submission other than your word (unless you have a web cam, lol), no restraints worth their salt, nobody watching you....unfortunately nobody touching you for distraction either, grrrrr.

Simply delicious!!! *drools*

[Ozme52]

I think we had a similar conversation regarding mental bondage. It is indeed a very hot aspect of D/s. Online or in real life, at some point comes the command...

On your hands and knees.
Now lower yourself onto your chest and shoulders and grasp your ankles.
If you let go for any reason... it stops.

"It" of course is always something pleasurable, but difficult in the face of being self-restrained.


Yeah! That's the ticket!

[Aussiegirl1]

Oh yeah, that's a well known one, to be ordered to stay in a position without using physical restraints.

One of my favourites is to ask her to just sit still for me, & not say anything.
That is all the more powerful for the fact that she's doing it of her own free will- what I call the essence of D/s.

Really it's just an extension of the usual- we don't do anything to anyone against their will (do we now kiddies??) so instead of saying 'turn around so I can tie your wrists together' why not say 'sit still with your hands on your thighs & don't move until I say so'

We're limited only by our imaginations.

Tojo

Oh yes, I have done this for Tojo and it was very exciting for me. It was the first really submissive thing I had done and it showed me just how powerful the right words at the right time can be! It also allowed me to know that I could submit and still feel like it was my choice.

Orchid, your experience sounds like a really amazing one. Thank you for sharing it with us all.

[Timberwolf]

This is something I love. Had a girl tell me "I just can't hold still... I'm a squirmer", and all I could think was "Oh, we will see about that". Instant interesting challenge.

This is really something I want... don't get me wrong I like ropes and cuffs and restraints as much as anyone else, but to be able to have someone do something as difficult as holding still (and it IS difficult to obey while having certain things done to you) with no restraints just becasue I said "Hold it, just like that", that's a big rush.

[orchid]

thank you all for your responses.

you know, its funny. i too have had my Master tell me to do something - masturbate for Him, sit still and be quiet, etc but it never equated anything like this in my mind. i guess i will have to go back and think about the other variants in the other evening that made it so much more magical.

thanks again
i love reading about others experiences, i find it heightens my own

cheers
orchid

[cariad]

Ropes and cuffs make it so easy, although have a merit of their own. Verbal/mental bondage has an exquisite beauty of its own.

cariad

[Tojo]

thank you all for your responses.

you know, its funny. i too have had my Master tell me to do something - masturbate for Him, sit still and be quiet, etc but it never equated anything like this in my mind. i guess i will have to go back and think about the other variants in the other evening that made it so much more magical.

thanks again
i love reading about others experiences, i find it heightens my own

cheers
orchid

Yeah but he doesn't usually make you stay still & tease you though does he?

That's got to be something, lying stretched out while you're being teased. I've even done that with my wife, & had the favour returned once or twice over the years.

I also like to do things to her when we're in public, when she can't react as she'd like to, a similar sort of constraint really. Finger sucking is a good one.

Tojo

[orchid]

LOL
Tojo...that's just mean
LOL

and yes, you are right - He didn't end up teasing me those other times...i wonder what brought it on? would love to know so i could do those things again. i can't wait for Him to do this to me again and He knows it too!!

[vistana]

Oh god, mental bondage! So hot.
And I have some fond feelings towards it, the first D/s thing I can remember doing during sex was mental bondage. The (then) boyfriend just pulled my arms up just past my head while I was lying down and ordered me not to move them. I can't even remember what he did after that, I just remember struggling not to move and being so incredibly turned on.

Definitely a favourite activity that doesn't get pulled out often enough for my liking. And I'm normally a squirmer!

[jennjenn]

yay the verbal command ... this is much more exciting for me than physical bondage
enough said =)

[pixie_dust]

I completely agree. As soon as I hear the words "don't move", my head starts spinning and I am completely wet. *blushes*

I have to agree with what Tojo has said, too. Having my Dom tease me in public places and then give me "the look" drives me absolutely crazy, and I love every moment.