Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

**Sir_Russell** · 04-01-2007

First I have used as a beginning point a list done by someone else, and I have altered and tweaked it to be better, I think.

This is intended to assist in negotiations and to show if the 2 of you are compatible. I have alter the list so that one is for the Dominate and the other is for the submissive though each cover the same issues.

I would request that once you take this please send me or post here a copy of it so that I can improve upon it. I will also give you my opinion of how you fit into the life from your responses.

Russell

**Sir_Russell** · 04-01-2007

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub

Abrasion:
Age play:
Anal sex:
Anal plugs (small):
Anal plugs (large):
Anal plug (public, under clothes):
Animal roles:
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):
Asphyxiation:
Auctioned for charity:
Bathroom use control:
Bestiality:
Beating (soft):
Beating (hard):
Blindfolds:
Being serviced (sexual):
Being bitten:
Breast/chest bondage:
Breath control:
Branding:
Boot worship:
Bondage (light):
Bondage (heavy):
Bondage (multi-day):
Bondage (public, under clothing):
Bondage and Sex:
Breast whipping:
Brown showers (scat):
Cages (locked inside of):
Caning:
Catheterization:
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):
Chastity belts:
Chauffeuring:
Choking:
Clothespins breast/nipples:
Clothespins labia lips/clit:
Clothespins body:
Cock worship:
Collars (worn in private):
Collars (worn in public):
Competitions (with other Subs):
Corsets (wearing):
Cuffs:
Cuffs (metal):
Cutting:
Dilation:
Double penetration:
Electricity:
Enemas:
Enforced chastity:
Examinations (physical):
Exercise (forced/required):
Exhibitionism (friends):
Exhibitionism (strangers):
Eye contact restrictions:
Face slapping:
Fantasy abandonment:
Fantasy rape:
Fantasy forced deep throat:
Fantasy forced cunt licking:
Fantasy forced rape anal:
Fantasy gang-rape:
Fisting (anal):
Fisting (vaginal):
Flogging:
Following hand signals:
Following orders:
Foot worship:
Forced dressing:
Forced homosexuality:
Forced masturbation:
Forced nudity (private):
Forced nudity (around others):
Forced servitude:
Full head hoods:
Gags (cloth):
Gags (penis shaped):
Gags (rubber):
Gags (tape):
Gates of Hell:
Genital sex:
Given away to another Dom (temp):
Given away to another Domme (temp):
Given away to another Dom (perm):
Given away to another Domme (perm):
Golden showers:
Greetings rituals:
Hairbrush spankings:
Hair pulling:
Hand jobs (giving):
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs):
Harnessing (leather):
Harnessing (rope):
Having food chosen for you:
Having clothing chosen for you:
Head (giving cunnilingus):
Head (giving fellatio):
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:
Housework (doing):
Human puppy dog:
Humiliation (private):
Humiliation (public):
Hypnotism:
Ice cubes:
Infantilism:
Initiation rites:
Injections:
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:
Interrogations:
Kidnapping:
Kneeling:
Leather clothing:
restraints chains:
restraints leather:
restraints rope:
Lectures for misbehavior:
Licking (non-sexual):
Manacles & Irons:
Manicures (giving):
Massage (giving):
Massage (receiving):
Medical scenes:

Modeling for erotic photos:
Modeling for erotic videos:
Mouth bits:
Mummification:
Nipple clamps:
Nipple cloths pins:
Nipple weights:
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking:
Orgasm denial:
Orgasm control:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent):
Prison scenes:
Pony slave:
Public exposure:
Public tasks:
Pussy/cock whipping:
Pussy worship:
Riding crops:
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals:
Religious scenes:
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Rubber/latex clothing:
Rope body harness:
Saran wrapping:
Scratching – getting:
Scratching – giving:
Sensory deprivation:
Serving:
Serving as art:
Serving as ashtray:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as a maid:
Serving as toilet:
Serving as waitress/waiter:
Serving orally (sexual):
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (head hair):
Shaving (pubic hair):
Sleep deprivation:
Sleep-sacks:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spanking in private:
Spanking in public:
Spanking in bdsm parties:
Spanking pleasure:
Spandex clothing:
Speech restrictions (when, what):
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:
Standing in corner:
Stocks (adjustable):
Stocks (fixed):
Straight jackets:
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):
Strapping (full body beating):
Suspension (upright);
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine:
Swapping (with one other couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Triple penetration by 3 males:
Uniforms:
Including others:
Vaginal dildo:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrator on genitals:
Voyeurism (watching others):
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):
Video (watching others):
Video (recordings of you):
Water torture:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping:
Wooden paddles:
Wrestling:

**kisskinky** · 04-29-2007

well here goes...im a little hungover and ive found it quite difficult to do but heres my answers. i fear i may have contradicted myself in places but have tried to go over it and alter some a second time. anyhow, im am a bit of a contradiction sometimes lol

feedback welcomed

Originally Posted by Sir_Russell

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub

Abrasion: no no
Age play: no 3
Anal sex: yes 4
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 1
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): i dont know what these are so cant comment
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no no
Bestiality: no 0
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): no 4
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 3, light
Breath control: yes 3/4
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no no
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 3
Breast whipping: no no no no
Brown showers (scat): nope no
Cages (locked inside of): no no
Caning: no 1
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no no
Chastity belts: no no
Chauffeuring: i cant drive
Choking: yes 3, as in hand around my throat firmly
Clothespins breast/nipples: no no
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no no
Clothespins body: no no
Cock worship: no 1
Collars (worn in private): no 4
Collars (worn in public): no 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 4
Cutting: nope no
Dilation: no no
Double penetration: no 0
Electricity: no 0
Enemas: no no
Enforced chastity: no no
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5, a few more stone to lose yet

Exhibitionism (friends): no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no no
Eye contact restrictions: no no
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: yes 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 4
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): no no
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: not sure what this means
Following orders: no 3
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 1
Forced homosexuality: n/a
Forced masturbation: no 1
Forced nudity (private): no no
Forced nudity (around others): no no
Forced servitude: no no
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (penis shaped):no no
Gags (rubber): no 2
Gags (tape): no 2
Gates of Hell: no idea what this is
Genital sex: er yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: yes 3
Greetings rituals: i dont know what this is
Hairbrush spankings: no 3/4
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no
Harnessing (leather): no 2/3
Harnessing (rope): no 2/3
Having food chosen for you: no 3
Having clothing chosen for you: no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no no
Hot waxing: no 2
Housework (doing): no no lol
Human puppy dog: no no
Humiliation (private): no 0
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 3/4
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: not sure what this is
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no no
Kidnapping:no 3
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: no 5
restraints rope: no 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no no
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no no
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: no 0
Mouth bits: no no
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: yes 3
Nipple cloths pins: no no
Nipple weights: no no
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: no 0
Orgasm control: no 0
Outdoor scenes: no 0
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no no
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no no
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 1
Rubber/latex clothing: no 1
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:no no
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: no no
Serving: no no
Serving as art: no no
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no no
Serving as a maid: no no
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no no
Serving orally (sexual): yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no no
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair):yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no idea what this is
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3
Spanking in private: no 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure:no 5
Spandex clothing: no no
Speech restrictions (when, what): no no
Speculums (Anal): no no
Speculums (vaginal): no no
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 0
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no no
Suspension (upright); no no
Suspension (inverted): no no
Suspension (horizontal): no no
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 4
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: no 3
Triple penetration: no no
Triple penetration by 3 males: no no for all at the same time, but yes 5 for seperatley
Uniforms: yes 2
Including others: yes 3
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: no 0
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 5
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: no 0

**boytoy2mistress** · 04-29-2007

Abrasion: no no
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: no 4
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 0
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no no
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: n/a
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 0
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 3
Choking: no no
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: n/a
Clothespins body: no 2
Cock worship: no no
Collars (worn in private): no 4
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: huh?
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no no
Enemas: no 2
Enforced chastity: yes 3
Examinations (physical): no 0
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no 1
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: no no
Fantasy forced deep throat: no no
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): n/a
Flogging: no 4
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 3
Forced dressing: yes 4
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 4
Forced servitude: yes 4
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 5
Gags (tape): no 2
Gates of Hell: no 3
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: no 1
Hand jobs (giving): no 0
Hand jobs (receiving): no 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 0
Having clothing chosen for you: no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no no
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 4
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 5
Hot oils (on genitals): no 0
Hot waxing: no 0
Housework (doing): no 1
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): no 4
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no no
Ice cubes: no 3
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 0
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 0
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: no 5
Manicures (giving): no 2
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 0
Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: no 4
Nipple cloths pins: no 4
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: no 5
Phone sex (serving Domme): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Domme's friends): no 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 4
Public tasks: no 5
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): huh?
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 5
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 0
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 4
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Dommes (supervised): no 5
Serving other Dommes (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): no 0
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no 0
Sleep deprivation: yes 2
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: no 0
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/a
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: no 4
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: no 1
Vibrator on genitals: no 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling: no 2

**Daes** · 05-11-2007

Felt like filling it out, didnt see fireplay so added it in since i won't do it >.> Most of the things listed I do with my Doms only - as I don't usually take casual play partners.

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 2
Anal plugs (small): no 1
Anal plugs (large): no 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 0
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 1
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: yes 4
Bestiality: no 0
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 3
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 3
Breath control: yes 5
Branding: no No
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 0
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 3
Brown showers (scat): no No
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning: no 2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: yes 2
Choking: yes 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 2
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 2
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): no 3
Cutting: no No
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no 2
Enemas: no 0
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical): yes 4
Exercise (forced/required): no 2 (haven't tried but would like to)
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3
Eye contact restrictions: yes 5
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 0
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 0
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fireplay: no No
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 2
Forced dressing: yes 4
Forced homosexuality: no 0
Forced masturbation: yes 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 4
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell: ??
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no* (this really depends on whos involved)
Golden showers: no 0
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 2
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 2
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no No
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 0
Head (giving fellatio): yes 2
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 2
Hot waxing: yes 1
Housework (doing): yes 4
Human puppy dog: yes 2
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no No
Initiation rites: no 4
Injections: no No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: yes 5
Kidnapping: no 3
Kneeling: yes 4
Knife play: yes 1
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 4
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): yes 2
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 2

Modeling for erotic photos: no 0
Modeling for erotic videos: no No
Mouth bits: yes 1
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: yes 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 3
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 1
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no No
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 2
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: yes 4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 3
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: no 2
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 1
Rope body harness: yes 2
Saran wrapping: no 1
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 1
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: yes 4
Serving as toilet: no No
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 4
Serving orally (sexual): yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): yes 2
Shaving (head hair): no No
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 2
Sleep deprivation: yes 1
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 1
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 5
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: yes 4
Standing in corner: no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): yes 2
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 0
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no No
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no No
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1 (really depends)
Swinging (multiple couples): no No
Tattooing: yes 1
Teasing: yes 2
Tickling: yes 2
Triple penetration: no 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 1
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: yes 0
Vaginal dildo: yes 2
Verbal humiliation: yes 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 1
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: yes 4
Wooden paddles: no 2
Wrestling: no 2

**zasvig** · 08-13-2007

Abrasion:no no
Age play:
Anal sex:yes 5
Anal plugs (small):yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation:yes 4
Auctioned for charity:no 1
Bathroom use control:no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft):yes 5
Beating (hard):no 3
Blindfolds:yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no 4
Breast/chest bondage:no 4
Breath control: no 4
Branding: no no
Boot worship:no 3
Bondage (light):yes 5
Bondage (heavy):no 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:yes 5
Breast whipping:n/a
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning:no no
Catheterization:no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 3
Chastity belts:no 5
Chauffeuring: donno
Choking:no 4
Clothespins breast/nipples:no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit:n/a
Clothespins body: no 3
Cock worship:no 1
Collars (worn in private): no 3
Collars (worn in public):no 2
Competitions (with other Subs): no 2
Corsets (wearing): n/a
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal):no 3
Cutting:no no
Dilation:
Double penetration:n/a
Electricity: no 4
Enemas:no 4
Enforced chastity:no 5
Examinations (physical):no 1
Exercise (forced/required):no 1
Exhibitionism (friends):no 2
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 2
Eye contact restrictions:no 3
Face slapping:no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 3
Fantasy rape:n/a
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 1
Fantasy forced cunt licking:yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2
Fantasy gang-rape:no 1
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal):n/a
Flogging:yes 4
Following hand signals:no 2
Following orders:yes 5
Foot worship:no 3
Forced dressing:no 3
Forced homosexuality:no 1
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private):no 3
Forced nudity (around others):no 3
Forced servitude:no 3
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth):no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 3
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape):no 1
Gates of Hell:yes 3
Genital sex

onno
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals:no 2
Hairbrush spankings:no 2
Hair pulling:yes 3
Hand jobs (giving):no 1
Hand jobs (receiving):no 3
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 1
Harnessing (leather):no 5
Harnessing (rope):no 5
Having food chosen for you:no 3
Having clothing chosen for you:no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no 1
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only):yes 2
High heel worship: no 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 4
Hot oils (on genitals):no 4
Hot waxing:no 4
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private):no 5
Humiliation (public):no 3
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes:no 3
Infantilism:no 0
Initiation rites

onno
Injections:no 3
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:no 3
Kidnapping:no 1
Kneeling:no 4
Leather clothing:no 5
restraints chains:yes 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior:no 2
Licking (non-sexual):yes 4
Manacles & Irons:no 3
Manicures (giving):no 3
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos:no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 4
Nipple cloths pins: no 4
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no 5
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 4
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: no 3
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 4
Serving as ashtray: no 3
Serving as furniture:no 4
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet:no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): no 2
Shaving (head hair): yes 3
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: no 3
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): no 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4
Spanking pleasure: no 4
Spandex clothing: no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 5
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: no 1
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no no
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/a
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: no 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): no 3
Video (recordings of you): no 3
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling:[/QUOTE] no 3

ok here it is that was fun and informative even for myself thank you for putting this together

**cadence** · 12-07-2007

I thought I would give this a try

Abrasion: no 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 0 *
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: NO hard limit
Auctioned for charity: no 3 I have self esteem issues I don't know how I would feel about it really until I experienced it
Bathroom use control: yes 2 I am not a big fan of it, although I do try hard *
Bestiality: no 0 * I would make this a hard limit, but I don't really have a problem with it
Beating (soft): no 5
Beating (hard): no 3 I don't know how much pain I can actually take, but I would like to find out
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5 I have only done this on my own, so I can't really guage as to how it would really feel, however I would still like it.
Breath control: no 0 * I would like to try, but I have a panic attack when I have to hold my breath.
Branding: no 1 I don't know why, but I like the idea of this, I am unsure though how much I would like it
Boot worship: no 0 It does nothing for me at all, I don't understand it
Bondage (light): yes 5 again I have only tried it out on myself
Bondage (heavy): no 3 I want to try, but I would have to start off slow with it
Bondage (multi-day): no 3 same as heavy bondage
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5 I like to wear ropes under clothing, and even sometimes accidentally show it
Bondage and Sex: no 5 I would like nothing better than to try this
Breast whipping: yes 5, again on my own, you can't hit yourself as hard though
Brown showers (scat): NO hard limit
Cages (locked inside of): no 5 I would love the opportunity to do this
Caning: no 1, I want to try it, but don't know where my pain threshold is
Catheterization: NO hard limit
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5 I would like this too, even with some bondage
Chastity belts: no 0 I want to try, but I think that I would have to start off in small doses
Chauffeuring: no 5 I would like doing this
Choking: no 0 I can't say it's a hard limit, I would try it though first to see how it felt
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: no 0 * I don't really understand it
Collars (worn in private): yes 4, I have now come to the understanding of what it means to wear a collar, I would loveto wear one now for the right reasons
Collars (worn in public): yes 3, it all depends on the type of collar to be worn.
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0, I would say it is a hard limit, but I could do it just because, I feel like I am in a competition with other submissives all the time anyway
Corsets (wearing): no 0 I am not a fan of corsets, I don't like them
Cuffs: no 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: no 0 * It doesn't hold appeal
Dilation: no 3 I would like to try
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 0 I am on the fence with this, I would have to at least try it
Enemas: no 0 I am deathly afraid of enemas, but want to try them with a person who will be able to be with me
Enforced chastity: NO hard limit, I don't think I would be a very happy person with that, although I should try it first
Examinations (physical): no 0 *I wouldn't like it
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5 I do better when I am forced into it
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5, but only a few friends
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3, it depends on the situation involved
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 5
Fantasy rape: no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 5
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal):no 3
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 0
Forced homosexuality: no I am bisexual, so it doesn't count
Forced masturbation: no 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 5 it would depend on the situation
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 2
Gags (tape): no 2
Gates of Hell: NA
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO hard limit, I don't understand this
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO hard limit, I don't understand this
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: no 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3, have to try it first
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): yes 5!!!!
Humiliation (public): no 1
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 5 - vaginal 5 anal 0
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 4
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 0
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 2
restraints rope: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 1
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): NO hard limit
Massage (receiving): NO hard limit
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: yes 2
Orgasm control: yes 2
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2*
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1*
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): NO hard limit
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no 0
Public tasks: no 0 it depends on the task involved
Pussy/cock whipping: no 0
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 5
Rituals: yes 4
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 1
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: NO hard limit
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no 2
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 1
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3*
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 0
Shaving (body hair): NA, well I have to shave some things, it's not like I am doing it special
Shaving (head hair): NO hard limit
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 1 I would rather wax
Sleep deprivation: yes 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): no 0
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: no 5
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: no 5
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 2
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): no
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 5
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 5
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no 2
Teasing: yes 2
Tickling: NO NO NO hard limit
Triple penetration: no 5*
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5*
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: no 0*
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 0
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 5
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 5
Wrestling:no 0

Most things I haven't yet tried, I rated on how much I wanted to try them or the appeal of wanting to do them

**icey** · 03-16-2008

havnt taken this for a while so it will be interesting to compare any differences. , thankyou for posting it

Abrasion: yes 5
Age play: yes 5
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: yes 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: yes 5
Auctioned for charity: no 4
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 3
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): n/a
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: yes 5
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: yes 3
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): yes 5
Caning: yes 4
Catheterization: no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 5
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no (cant drive)
Choking: yes 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 4
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: yes 5
Dilation: no 3
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: yes 1
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: yes 4
Examinations (physical): yes 5
Exercise (forced/required): yes 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: yes 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: yes 5
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: yes 5
Fisting (anal): no 1
Fisting (vaginal): yes 5
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 5
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 3
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 1
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 2
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 2
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): yes 3
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 5
Gates of Hell: no 2
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: NO
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): yes 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 3
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 5
Hypnotism: NO
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: yes 5
Initiation rites: yes 5
Injections: no 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 5
Interrogations: yes 5
Kidnapping: yes 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 1 (am veggie)
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 1
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 1
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: yes 5 (i answered yes diy improvisations,not actual shop bought equip)
Manicures (giving): yes 2
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving):yes 1
Medical scenes: yes 4

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 4
Mummification: yes 5
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes 5
Piercing (permanent): no 5
Prison scenes: no 4
Pony slave: yes 4
Public exposure: yes 5
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 1
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 5
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: yes 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 3
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: yes 5
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving:
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: yes 3
Serving as furniture: yes 3
Serving as a maid: yes 5
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 0
Sleep-sacks: no 5
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 5
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 3
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 1
Strapping (full body beating): yes 5
Suspension (upright); yes 5
Suspension (inverted): yes 5
Suspension (horizontal): yes 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 2
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: NO
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3
Tattooing: yes 4
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 5
Uniforms: yes 5
Including others: yes(not in this r/ship) 4
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 5
Water torture: yes 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: no 4

**MissLindyLoo** · 07-12-2008

Originally Posted by Sir_Russell

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub

Abrasion: no 0 written by sub

Age play:no 3

Anal sex:yes 2
Anal plugs (small):no 2
Anal plugs (large):no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 2
Animal roles: no not sure what animal role is
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 0
Asphyxiation:no 0
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no 0
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): no 1
Being bitten: no 0
Breast/chest bondage: no 1
Breath control: no 0
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 1
Bondage (multi-day): no 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 2
Breast whipping: no 1
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 0
Caning: no 0
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 0
Chastity belts: no 0
Chauffeuring: no 0
Choking: no 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 0
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 0
Clothespins body: no 0
Cock worship: no 1
Collars (worn in private): yes 3
Collars (worn in public): yes 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 2
Cuffs: no 2
Cuffs (metal): no 0
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 2
Electricity: no 0
Enemas: no 0
Enforced chastity: no 0
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 0
Eye contact restrictions: no 0
Face slapping: no 0
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 0
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 0
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 2
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: yes 2
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 0
Forced masturbation: no 2
Forced nudity (private): yes 2
Forced nudity (around others): no 0
Forced servitude: no 1
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 0
Gags (rubber): yes 1
Gags (tape): no 0
Gates of Hell:no 0
Genital sex: yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 1
Hair pulling: no 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): na
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 1
Having food chosen for you: no 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 0
Head (giving fellatio): no 0
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): no 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only): na
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 2
Hot waxing: no 2
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): no 0
Humiliation (public): no 0
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 0
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: no 0
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: no 0
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 0
restraints leather: no 0
restraints rope: no 0
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): no 0
Manacles & Irons: no 0
Manicures (giving): yes 2
Massage (giving): yes 2
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 2
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 2
Nipple cloths pins: no 2
Nipple weights: no 0
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 1
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 3
Orgasm denial: no 2
Orgasm control: yes 2
Outdoor scenes: no 0
Outdoor sex: yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no,,,0
Public tasks: no 0
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 2
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 0
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Rope body harness: no 0
Saran wrapping:no 0
Scratching – getting: no 0
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: no 0
Serving: no 2
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: yes 2
Serving as toilet: no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 2
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 0
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): no 2
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 0
Spanking pleasure:yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): no
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 0
Spreader bars: no 0
Standing in corner: no 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 0
Stocks (fixed): no 0
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no 0
Suspension (inverted): no 0
Suspension (horizontal): no 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 2
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 0
Swinging (multiple couples): no 0
Tattooing:no 2Teasing: yes.....3
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: no 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 0
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: no 0
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: yes 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 2
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: no 1
Wooden paddles: no 1
Wrestling:

no 0

**Ceight** · 04-24-2012

Sir_Russell,

The first time I saw this questionnaire I filled it out again and again. I pasted it into a word processing document. I added categories, I researched what some of the categories were.

The problem I had with this questionnaire was that I found reading and imagining each thing so exciting that I was inclined to say I liked or wanted to try nearly everything. Also, when answering the questionnaire I was imagining what my responses would be in sub-space, or in fantasy, which is not the norm.

I tried to add information to show if I was in sub-space this would be okay, but if I'm not in sub-space it's a only-if-you-must-but-it-doesn't-appeal event. I'm wondering if I just don't have enough experience in the community. Maybe a "2" would be read as something that could be enjoyed in sub-space.

I especially wondered if a distinctions should be made, because my final result seemed to indicate I was a very willing sub. But my over-all experience doesn't reflect this result.

**little_lost_devil** · 03-31-2014

oh my goddd!!!!
i didnt know just a list of limits could make one so hot and bothered...!
anyway, a great list, and was a must-know for neewbie like me!
thank you!

**XxAlicexX** · 05-21-2015

Wow this is crazy hard to accomplish on a mobile device!!! Isn't there a way to do it easier without a computer? It keeps dumping all my info. This box is only an inch high on this thing! Lol

**Sir_Russell** · 04-01-2007

The one for Dom/Masters

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a Dom and provided to their sub/slave before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0
to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):
Anal plug (public, under clothes):
Animal roles:
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):
Asphyxiation:
Auctioned for charity:
Bathroom use control:
Bestiality:
Beating (soft):
Beating (hard):
Blindfolds:
Being serviced (sexual):
Being bitten:
Breast/chest bondage:
Breath control:
Branding:
Boot worship:
Bondage (light):
Bondage (heavy):
Bondage (multi-day):
Bondage (public, under clothing):
Breast whipping:
Brown showers (scat):
Cages (locked inside of):
Caning:
Catheterization:
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):
Chastity belts:
Chauffeuring:
Choking:
Clothespins:
Cock worship:
Collars (worn in private):
Collars (worn in public):
Competitions (with other Subs):
Corsets (wearing):
Cuffs:
Cuffs (metal):
Cutting:
Dilation:
Double penetration:
Electricity:
Enemas:
Enforced chastity:
Examinations (physical):
Exercise (forced/required):
Exhibitionism (friends):
Exhibitionism (strangers):
Eye contact restrictions:
Face slapping:
Fantasy abandonment:
Fantasy rape:
Fantasy gang-rape:
Fisting (anal):
Fisting (vaginal):
Following orders:
Foot worship:
Forced dressing:
Forced homosexuality:
Forced masturbation:
Forced nudity (private):
Forced nudity (around others):
Forced servitude:
Full head hoods:
Gags (cloth):
Gags (rubber):
Gags (tape):
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:
Given away to another Dom (temp):
Given away to another Dom (perm):
Golden showers:
Hairbrush spankings:
Hair pulling:
Hand jobs (giving):
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs):
Harnessing (leather):
Harnessing (rope):
Having food chosen for you:
Having clothing chosen for you:
Head (giving fellatio):
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:
Housework (doing):
Human puppy dog:
Humiliation (private):
Humiliation (public):
Hypnotism:
Ice cubes:
Infantilism:
Initiation rites:
Injections:
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:
Interrogations:
Kidnapping:
Kneeling:
Leather clothing:
restraints:
Lectures for misbehavior:
Licking (non-sexual):
Manacles & Irons:
Manicures (giving):
Massage (giving):
Massage (receiving):
Medical scenes:
Modeling for erotic photos:
Mouth bits:
Mummification:
Nipple clamps:
Nipple weights:
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking:
Orgasm denial:
Orgasm control:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent):
Prison scenes NO 0
Pony slave:
Public exposure:
Pussy/cock whipping:
Pussy worship:
Riding crops:
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals:
Religious scenes:
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Rubber/latex clothing:
Rope body harness:
Saran wrapping:
Scratching – getting:
Scratching – giving:
Sensory deprivation:
Serving:
Serving as art:
Serving as ashtray:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as a maid:
Serving as toilet:
Serving as waitress/waiter:
Serving orally (sexual):
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (head hair):
Sleep deprivation:
Sleepsacks:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spanking:
Spandex clothing:
Speech restrictions (when, what):
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:
Standing in corner:
Stocks (adjustable):
Straight jackets:
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):
Strapping (full body beating):
Suspension (upright);
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine:
Swapping (with one other couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Uniforms:
Including others:
Vaginal dildo:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrator on genitals:
Voyeurism (watching others):
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):
Video (watching others):
Video (recordings of you):
Water torture:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping YES 4
Wooden paddles:
Wrestling:

**sardis** · 07-05-2008

Sir Russell

I've completed the questionnaire and would appreciate your feedback. As you will see I have little real life experience, but I am going to my first munch this evening and wanted to capture my baseline....maybe one day I'll be able to look back on this and smile. I do expect it to change.

I've tried to distinguish ratings between an activity I receive and the same activity I would give to my sub. eg Clothespins - I would rate on myself as 3 but as a 5 if I were placing them on my sub.

I've answered from a Dom's perspective.

I will send you my subs answers tomorrow.

Thanks,
Sardis

Abrasion: NO 2
Age play: NO 2
Anal sex: YES 5
Anal plugs (small): NO 3 ....but 4 if for my sub
Anal plugs (large): NO 3 ....but 4 if for my sub
Anal plug (public, under clothes): NO 4 if for my sub
Animal roles: NO 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): NO 3 but 5 if for my sub
Asphyxiation: NO 3 could go either way on this
Auctioned for charity: NO 1
Bathroom use control: NO 1
Bestiality: NO No...but 3 if for voyeurism
Beating (soft): yes 1 but 4 if for my sub
Beating (hard): NO but 4 if for my sub
Blindfolds: YES 4
Being serviced (sexual): YES 5
Being bitten: NO 3
Breast/chest bondage: NO 2
Breath control: NO 3
Branding: NO 1
Boot worship: NO 1
Bondage (light): YES 3 but 5 if for my sub
Bondage (heavy): NO 2 but 5 if for my sub
Bondage (multi-day): NO 2 3 for my sub
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 1 ...but 4 if for my sub
Breast whipping: no ....but 5 if for my sub
Brown showers (scat): NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): NO 2... 4 if for my sub
Caning: NO 2...if 5 for my sub
Catheterization: NO 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO 2
Chastity belts: NO 2
Chauffeuring: NO 1
Choking: NO 1
Clothespins: Yes 3 but 5 if for my sub
Cock worship: NO n/a
Collars (worn in private): NO 2 but 5 if on my sub
Collars (worn in public): NO 2 but 5 if on my sub
Competitions (with other Subs): NO 3
Corsets (wearing): NO 1 but 4 if on my sub
Cuffs: NO 2 but 4 if on my sub
Cuffs (metal): NO 2 but 4 if on my sub
Cutting: NO 2 if my sub needed it
Dilation: NO 3
Double penetration: NO 4
Electricity: NO 1
Enemas: NO 0
Enforced chastity: NO 1 ..but 4 if on my sub
Examinations (physical): NO 3
Exercise (forced/required): NO 2
Exhibitionism (friends): NO 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO 2
Eye contact restrictions: yes 2.. but 5 if for my sub
Face slapping: NO 2... 4 if on my sub
Fantasy abandonment: NO 1.... 4 on my sub
Fantasy rape: NO 0 ... 4 if on my sub
Fantasy gang-rape: NO 4 if on my sub
Fisting (anal): NO 2
Fisting (vaginal): NO 3
Following orders: NO 1 ..5 if for my sub
Foot worship: NO 2
Forced dressing: NO 2.. 4 for my sub
Forced homosexuality: NO 0
Forced masturbation: NO 3.. 5 for my sub
Forced nudity (private): NO 2 3 for my sub
Forced nudity (around others): NO 2 4 for my sub
Forced servitude: NO 2... 5 for my sub
Full head hoods: NO 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (cloth): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (rubber): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (tape): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): n/a 3 for my sub
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO NO
Golden showers: NO 1
Hairbrush spankings: YES 5 if on my sub
Hair pulling: NO 3 if on my sub
Hand jobs (giving): YES 4
Hand jobs (receiving): YES 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): n/a but 4 if for my sub
Harnessing (leather): NO 4 if for my sub
Harnessing (rope): NO 4 if for my sub
Having food chosen for you: NO 2...3 for my sub
Having clothing chosen for you: NO 3 4 for my sub
Head (giving fellatio): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only YES 5
High heel worship: N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): NO 3...
Hot oils (on genitals): NO 3
Hot waxing: NO 3
Housework (doing): NO 1
Human puppy dog: NO 0
Humiliation (private): NO 1
Humiliation (public): NO 1
Hypnotism: Yes 3...not sure this works on me...would like to try on my sub
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: NO 1
Initiation rites: NO 3 4 if for my sub
Injections: NO 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: NO 3
Interrogations: NO 2
Kidnapping: NO 1
Kneeling: Yes 2.. 5 if for my sub
Leather clothing: NO 3
restraints: Yes 5 if on my sub
Lectures for misbehavior: NO 3 if on my sub
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: NO 4 if for my sub
Manicures (giving): NO 1
Massage (giving): YES 4
Massage (receiving): YES 4
Medical scenes: NO 1
Modeling for erotic photos: NO 3...
Mouth bits: NO 1...4 for my sub
Mummification: NO 1
Nipple clamps: Yes 5 if on my sub
Nipple weights: NO 4 if on my sub
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: YES 5 if my sub is over my knee
Orgasm denial: Yes 2...4 for my sub
Orgasm control: Yes 2...5 for my sub
Outdoor scenes: NO 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): NO 3 if for for my sub
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 2
Piercing (permanent): NO 2
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave: NO 3 if pony is my sub
Public exposure: NO 2
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 4
Pussy worship: No 1
Riding crops: Yes 5 if on my sub
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO 3
Rituals: NO 4
Religious scenes: NO 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 5 for my sub
Rubber/latex clothing: NO 3
Rope body harness: NO 3 for my sub
Saran wrapping: NO 2
Scratching – getting: NO 2
Scratching – giving: NO 2
Sensory deprivation: Yes 2 ....5 if on my sub
Serving: NO 4 if from my sub (as for all serving)
Serving as art: NO 3
Serving as ashtray: NO 1
Serving as furniture: NO 1
Serving as a maid: NO 4
Serving as toilet: NO 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: NO 4
Serving orally (sexual): YES 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): NO 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): NO 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 4
Shaving (head hair): NO 1
Sleep deprivation: NO 1
Sleepsacks: NO 1
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 4 for my sub
Slutty clothing (public): NO 3 for my sub
Spanking: YES 5 giving to my sub
Spandex clothing: NO 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): NO 5 if for my sub
Speculums (Anal): NO 1 .... 3 for my sub
Speculums (vaginal): NO 3
Spreader bars: NO 1...5 for my sub
Standing in corner: NO 4
Stocks (adjustable): NO 4 for my sub
Straight jackets: NO 1....3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): N/A...3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO 3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO 1 3 for my sub
Strapping (full body beating): NO 0... 3 for my sub
Suspension (upright); NO 1 3 for my sub
Suspension (inverted): NO 1 3 for my sub
Suspension (horizontal): NO 1 3 for my sub
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 3 if sub providing
Swallowing semen: NO 1..5 for my sub
Swallowing urine: NO 1
Swapping (with one other couple): NO 2
Swinging (multiple couples): NO 2
Tattooing: NO 3
Teasing: NO 2
Tickling: NO 1
Triple penetration: NO 3 for my sub
Uniforms: NO 3
Including others: NO 3
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: NO 0
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): NO 3
Voyeurism (your slave w/others): NO 3
Video (watching others): Yes 4
Video (recordings of you): NO 3
Water torture: NO 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 4
Whipping Yes 1 4 if on my sub
Wooden paddles: Yes 2 5 if on my sub
Wrestling: NO 2

**MissLindyLoo** · 07-09-2008

Sir Russell

My sub has problems registering... MissLindyLoo's response will be submitted soon

Sardis

**Sir_Russell** · 04-01-2007

For an example MINE and I retake it often because I keep changing.

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a Dom/Master and provided to their sub/slave before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if the Dom/Master has done this to his sub/slave.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0
to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your submissive/slave.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your sub/slave to know. There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: no 3
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 4
Asphyxiation: yes 2
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no no I enjoy light biting of my sub/slave but no in return
Breast/chest bondage: yes 4
Breath control: yes 2
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: yes 3
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 3
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning: yes 2
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 3
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: yes 4
Choking: yes 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 2
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 4
Corsets (wearing): yes 5 again on the sub/slave
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: yes 4
Double penetration: yes 4 device or with a male sub following my directions
Electricity: yes 4
Enemas: no no
Enforced chastity: yes 5 short term in preparation of a scene
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 3
Eye contact restrictions: yes 3
Face slapping: yes
Fantasy abandonment: yes 2 mostly for punishment
Fantasy rape: yes 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no 1
Fisting (vaginal): yes 4
Following hand signals by sub/slave: yes 4
Following orders by sub/slave: yes 5
Foot worship: no 3 would use as punishment mostly unless sub craves
Forced dressing of sub: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 3
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 5
Forced servitude of sub: yes 4
Full head hoods: yes 4
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (penis shaped): yes 4
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 2
Gates of Hell: No 2
Genital sex: yes 5
Given sub away to another Dom (temp): yes 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given sub away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: Yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5 to female sub/slave only
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): yes 3 had 2 slaves for 3 years live in
Harnessing (leather): yes 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for sub: yes 4 I order at restaurants always
Having clothing chosen for sub: yes 4 I set dress codes and for special events
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no no
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 2 having sub worship Domme/or selected play partner
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals of sub): yes 3
Hot waxing of sub: yes 4
Housework (sub doing): yes 5 this depends on living conditions
Human puppy dog: Yes 3
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): yes 3
Hypnotism: yes 5
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: yes 5 includes greetings and house rules & ceremony
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 3
Interrogations: yes 2 done as part of punishment for offense
Kidnapping sub: yes 4
Kneeling sub: yes 5 part of private greeting ritual and at command
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: yes 5
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 2
Modeling for Dom’s erotic photos: yes 4
Mouth bits: yes 3
Mummification: yes 4
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: yes 3
Oral/anal play by sub (rimming): yes 4
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5 Orgasm with permission only, for 1 day preceding scene
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): yes 4
Prison scenes yes 3
Pony slave: no 2 some growing interested in this
Public exposure: yes 3
Public tasks: yes 4
Pussy spanking: yes 5 at least lightly
Pussy whipping: yes 4 lightly
Pussy worship: yes 4 only when order to a Domme or female sub by the Dom
Riding crops: yes 4 can be part of play or much harder for earned punishment
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 3
Rituals: yes 5 important to establish relationship on going
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on sub behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 2
Rope body harness: yes 3
Saran wrapping: yes 2
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving by sub: yes 5
Serving as sub art: yes 3
Serving as sub ashtray: no no possibly as punishment for gross offense
Serving as sub furniture: yes 2
Serving as a sub maid: yes 3
Serving as sub toilet: no no
Serving as sub waitress/waiter: yes 3
Serving orally by sub (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): yes 2 has to be agreed upon by sub
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 2 only as punishment so far
Shaving (body hair): yes 5 shave wax or lazored for arm pits and legs
Shaving (head hair): no 2
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 2
Sleep-sacks: yes 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes 3
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 3 sub wearing it
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 4
Speculums (Anal): yes 3
Speculums (vaginal): yes 3
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing sub in corner: yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): yes 4
Stocks (fixed): yes 4
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 3 only if shared with Domme
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 3 only if shared with Domme
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3 only if shared with female sub/slave
Strapping (full body beating): yes 1
Suspension (upright); yes 4
Suspension (inverted): yes 4
Suspension (horizontal): yes 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 3 again must be agreed upon by sub
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no no possible as punishment
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 3 not a requirement agreement only
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3 not a requirement agreement only
Tattooing of sub for ownership purposes: yes 3 not a requirement agreement only
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3 reserve the right under any condition as punishment
Triple penetration of sub: yes 3 if agreed to by sub
Triple penetration of sub by 3 males: no 2 if agreed to by sub and under my control
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: yes 3 if agreed to by sub and under my control
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 2 punishment unless sub/slave desires it
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 3
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of sub): yes 4
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping YES 3 flogging but harsh whipping needs to be discussed
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: yes 2

**tessa** · 04-01-2007

This is why this place is so great! Always learning, always discovering. I love it here!!

Thanks, Sir Russell!

**DrGeordie** · 04-01-2007

thanks for posting these Sir_Russell. I'll definitely be taking some time to go through these carefully.

**Sir_Russell** · 04-01-2007

Thank you both. Remember you must have your partner fill out the appropriate questionaire and then compare them to learn. Also remember that things do change if your partners hard limit seems to be a deal breaker then question it see if it really is, learn about it before you say NEXT

Russell

**DrGeordie** · 04-02-2007

Sir_Russell, and anyone else who's reading,

I've filled in my set of questions. I did find the instructions on the one for doms a bit confusing since they're written as if a sub was filling it out. I've answered in such a fashion that I would be giving where it makes sense to for a Dom to give and receiving where it makes sense of a Dom to receive as I understand it. As noted in other posts I am quite inexperienced as a Dom, so there are a lot of No's in the have you tried this column. I've answered on instinct for a lot of these. I expect this list to change quite a lot as I try some of these activities. In particular I think many of the 4's might become 5's once I've tried them. Equally a lot of the 1's could become 0's but I don't believe I should rule out anything I haven't tried unless I'm sure it's an absolute certain NO.

I'm open to any feedback people want to give. There is no partner to fill in the sub questions yet, hopefully that will change. But I'm quite comfortable with laying my cards on the table, so to speak. If any of my answers don't make sense I'm happy to clarify (I've probably just misunderstood the question). Enough rambling, here are my answers

Code:

Abrasion: 	NO 3
Age play: 	NO 2
Anal sex: 	YES 5
Anal plugs (small): NO 4
Anal plugs (large): NO 4 
Anal plug (public, under clothes): NO 4 only with the explicit consent of the submissive and dependent on specifically where 'public' is
Animal roles:	NO 1 only if this was a strong turn on for the sub
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): NO 3
Asphyxiation:	NO 1 not at this time, at my level of experience it would be unsafe
Auctioned for charity:	NO 1
Bathroom use control: 	NO 1
Bestiality:	NO NO 	hard limit.
Beating (soft):	NO 3/4 
Beating (hard): NO 1 only if it was something the sub specifically wanted and then only with thorough planning and a _lot_ of precautions
Blindfolds:	YES 5
Being serviced (sexual): YES 5
Being bitten: NO 3
Breast/chest bondage:	NO 4
Breath control:	NO 5
Branding: NO NO 
Boot worship: NO 2/3
Bondage (light): YES 5
Bondage (heavy): NO 5
Bondage (multi-day): NO 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): YES 4 wherever 'public' is involved, only where the sub is also interested
Breast whipping: YES 4
Brown showers (scat):	NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): NO 2/3
Caning:	NO 4
Catheterization: NO 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO 2/3
Chastity belts: NO 2
Chauffeuring: NO 1
Choking: NO 1
Clothespins: NO 4
Cock worship: NO 4
Collars (worn in private): NO 5
Collars (worn in public):  NO 4 again 'public' so only with explicit consent
Competitions (with other Subs): NO 2
Corsets (wearing): NO 3
Cuffs: NO 4
Cuffs (metal): NO 4
Cutting: NO NO I would not feel safe doing this at this time
Dilation: NO 3
Double penetration: NO 4
Electricity: NO 1
Enemas: NO 2
Enforced chastity: NO 3
Examinations (physical): NO 4
Exercise (forced/required): NO 3
Exhibitionism (friends): NO 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO 1
Eye contact restrictions: NO 1
Face slapping: NO 2
Fantasy abandonment: NO 1
Fantasy rape: NO NO 
Fantasy gang-rape: NO NO
Fisting (anal): NO 3
Fisting (vaginal): NO 3
Following orders: NO 4
Foot worship: NO 2
Forced dressing: NO 4
Forced homosexuality: NO 2
Forced masturbation: NO 4
Forced nudity (private): NO 5
Forced nudity (around others): NO 2 only if the others were people we both knew well
Forced servitude: NO 3
Full head hoods: NO 2
Gags (cloth): YES 4
Gags (rubber): NO 4
Gags (tape): NO 4
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): NO 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO NO
Golden showers: NO NO
Hairbrush spankings: YES 5
Hair pulling: NO 3
Hand jobs (giving): YES 4
Hand jobs (receiving): YES 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO 4
Harnessing (leather): NO 3/4
Harnessing (rope): NO 3/4
Having food chosen for you: NO 4
Having clothing chosen for you: NO 4
Head (giving fellatio): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only YES 5
High heel worship: N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): NO 4
Hot oils (on genitals): NO 3/4
Hot waxing: NO 3
Housework (doing): NO 2
Human puppy dog: NO NO 
Humiliation (private): NO 4
Humiliation (public): NO 2/3
Hypnotism: NO 1
Ice cubes: NO 4
Infantilism: NO 1
Initiation rites: NO 3
Injections: NO 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: NO 3/4
Interrogations: NO 2
Kidnapping: NO 1
Kneeling: NO 5
Leather clothing: NO 3
restraints: NO 4
Lectures for misbehavior: NO 3
Licking (non-sexual): NO 3
Manacles & Irons: NO 4
Manicures (giving): NO 1
Massage (giving): YES 4
Massage (receiving): YES 3
Medical scenes: NO 1
Modeling for erotic photos: NO 4
Mouth bits: NO 1
Mummification: NO 1
Nipple clamps: NO 5 
Nipple weights: NO 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): NO 3/4
Over-the-knee spanking: YES 5
Orgasm denial: NO 4/5
Orgasm control: NO 4/5
Outdoor scenes: NO 4 only in a carefully chosen location
Outdoor sex: NO 4/5 as above
Phone sex (serving Dom): NO 3/4 recieving from a sub obviously
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): NO 3/4 as above
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 1
Piercing (permanent): NO 1
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave: NO NO 
Public exposure: NO 2/3
Pussy/cock whipping: NO 3/4
Pussy worship: 
Riding crops: NO 4/5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO 3
Rituals: NO 4
Religious scenes: NO 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: NO 4
Rubber/latex clothing: NO 3
Rope body harness: NO 3/4
Saran wrapping: NO 3
Scratching – getting: NO 2
Scratching – giving: NO 2
Sensory deprivation: NO 3
Serving: NO 4 recieving service from a sub for all of these
Serving as art: NO 4
Serving as ashtray: NO NO 
Serving as furniture: NO 2/3
Serving as a maid: NO 4
Serving as toilet: NO NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: NO 4
Serving orally (sexual): YES 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): NO 2/3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): NO 3/4
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO 2
Shaving (body hair): NO 4
Shaving (head hair): NO 1
Sleep deprivation: NO 1
Sleepsacks: NO 1
Slutty clothing (private): NO 4/5
Slutty clothing (public): NO 3
Spanking: YES 5 giving obviously
Spandex clothing: NO 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): NO 3
Speculums (Anal): NO 3
Speculums (vaginal): NO 3
Spreader bars: NO 4
Standing in corner: NO 4
Stocks (adjustable): NO 4
Straight jackets: NO 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): N/A
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO NO
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO 0
Strapping (full body beating): NO 1
Suspension (upright); NO 3
Suspension (inverted): NO 3
Suspension (horizontal): NO 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: N/A
Swallowing semen: NO 4
Swallowing urine: NO NO
Swapping (with one other couple): NO 1
Swinging (multiple couples): NO 1
Tattooing: NO NO too permanent at this time
Teasing: NO 4
Tickling: NO 4
Triple penetration: NO 4
Uniforms: NO 3
Including others: NO 2
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: NO 3
Vibrator on genitals: NO 4 administering
Voyeurism (watching others): NO 2
Voyeurism (your slave w/others): NO 2 depends on who the others are
Video (watching others): NO 3
Video (recordings of you): NO 3
Water torture: NO 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: NO 4
Whipping NO 4
Wooden paddles: NO 4/5
Wrestling: NO 2

**Rhabbi** · 04-02-2007

Thanks for the post Sir Russell, we need to be aware of these things.

**Sir_Russell** · 04-02-2007

Thank you Doc

First you have a lot NO experience in many of the areas that you have expressed interest in. You show concern and care for the sub/slave in very important areas and that is a great trait for a good Dom/Master.

My advice is that you do a lot of research and ask a lot of questions. Ask for what are the hidden problems of each. In example, many pictures show a young lady hanging off the ground by her wrists, shoulders are a very weak point and most none gymnasts can't take more then 5 to 9 minutes of this. Then there is a the hidden problem that suspension cuffs are made differently for standard cuffs to protect the wrist or ankles.

You will need to plan carefully for each scene, be a chess master in that you will consider "what ifs" at each step and have a plan for each. Always remember that it is rare that anyone plans to actually harm their sub but yet it happens.

My personal opinion is that you have what it takes to be good caring Dom/Master.

Russell

**DrGeordie** · 04-03-2007

Thank you for the feedback. Every post of yours I have found on these forums I've found myself nodding at your wisdom. A positive comment from you gives me assurance that I am going in the right direction, even if I have a long way to go.

There will certainly be more questions in the future. Right now I'm just absorbing as much information as I can get from the questions that have been asked already.

R

cariad · 04-03-2007

Well that looks a pretty good hand you have laid out there. Thinks somewhere there is a sub who is going to enjoy an exciting journey with you.

cariad

**BorderCollie** · 04-04-2007

I am happily married sub to Border Collie.

Abrasion: No 5
Age play: No 5
Anal sex: Yes 1
Anal plugs (small): Yes 1
Anal plugs (large): Yes 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 3
Animal roles: No 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): Yes 2
Asphyxiation: No 5
Auctioned for charity: No 5
Bathroom use control: Yes 3
Bestiality: No 5
Beating (soft): Yes 1
Beating (hard): No 1
Blindfolds: Yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 1
Being bitten: Yes 1
Breast/chest bondage:Yes 1
Breath control: No 5
Branding: No 5
Boot worship: Yes 1
Bondage (light): Yes 1
Bondage (heavy): Yes 1
Bondage (multi-day): Yes 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 3
Bondage and Sex: Yes 1
Breast whipping: Yes 3
Brown showers (scat): No 5
Cages (locked inside of): No 5
Caning: No 5
Catheterization: No 5
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No 5
Chastity belts: Yes 1
Chauffeuring: No 5
Choking: No 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 1
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes 1
Clothespins body: No 5
Cock worship: Yes 1
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): No 1
Competitions (with other Subs): Yes 3
Corsets (wearing): Yes 2
Cuffs: Yes 1
Cuffs (metal): No 1
Cutting: No 5
Dilation: No 5
Double penetration: Yes 1
Electricity: Yes 3
Enemas: Yes 3
Enforced chastity: Yes 1
Examinations (physical): No 5
Exercise (forced/required): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (friends): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): No 5
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 2
Face slapping: No 1
Fantasy abandonment: Yes 3
Fantasy rape: Yes 1
Fantasy forced deep throat:Yes 1
Fantasy forced cunt licking: Yes 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: Yes 1
Fantasy gang-rape: No 5
Fisting (anal): No 5
Fisting (vaginal): Yes 1
Flogging: Yes 2
Following hand signals: No 5
Following orders: Yes 1
Foot worship: Yes 1
Forced dressing: Yes 1
Forced homosexuality: Yes 1
Forced masturbation: Yes 1
Forced nudity (private): Yes 1
Forced nudity (around others): Yes 2
Forced servitude: Yes 3
Full head hoods: Yes 5
Gags (cloth): Yes 1
Gags (penis shaped): Yes 1
Gags (rubber): Yes 1
Gags (tape): Yes 1
Gates of Hell: No 5
Genital sex: Yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): No 5
Given away to another Domme (perm): No 5
Golden showers: Yes 3
Greetings rituals: Yes 2
Hairbrush spankings: No 5
Hair pulling: Yes 2
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 1
Hand jobs (receiving): Yes 1
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 3
Harnessing (leather): Yes 3
Harnessing (rope): Yes 3
Having food chosen for you: Yes 2
Having clothing chosen for you: Yes2
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 1
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 1
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 1
Head (receiving fellatio male only): Yes 1
High heel worship: Ohhhhh Yes 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Yes 1
Hot oils (on genitals): No 3
Hot waxing: No 3
Housework (doing): Yes 1
Human puppy dog: No 5
Humiliation (private): Yes 1
Humiliation (public): No 5
Hypnotism: No 1
Ice cubes: Yes 3
Infantilism: No 5
Initiation rites: No 5
Injections: No 5
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 2
Interrogations: No 5
Kidnapping: No 5
Kneeling: Yes 1
Leather clothing: Yes 1
restraints chains: Yes 1
restraints leather: Yes 1
restraints rope: Yes 1
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes 2
Licking (non-sexual): Yes 2
Manacles & Irons: Yes 3
Manicures (giving): Yes 2
Massage (giving): Yes 1
Massage (receiving): Yes 3
Medical scenes: No 5

Modeling for erotic photos: Yes 1
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes 1
Mouth bits: Yes 1
Mummification: No 3
Nipple clamps: Yes 1
Nipple cloths pins: Yes 1
Nipple weights: Yes 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): YES YES 1
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes 3
Orgasm denial: Yes 3
Orgasm control: Yes 3
Outdoor scenes: Yes 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 3
Piercing (permanent): Yes 1
Prison scenes: No 5
Pony slave: No 5
Public exposure: Yes 1
Public tasks: Yes 1
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 1
Pussy worship: Yes 1
Riding crops: Yes 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): Yes 1
Rituals: No 5
Religious scenes: No 5
Restrictive rules on behavior: No 5
Rubber/latex clothing: Yes 1
Rope body harness: Yes 1
Saran wrapping:No 5
Scratching – getting: No 5
Scratching – giving: No 5
Sensory deprivation: Yes 1
Serving: Yes 1
Serving as art:Yes 1
Serving as ashtray: No 5
Serving as furniture: No 5
Serving as a maid: Yes 1
Serving as toilet: Yes 3
Serving as waitress/waiter: No 5
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 1
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 5
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 1
Shaving (head hair): No 5
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 1
Sleep deprivation: No 5
Sleep-sacks: No 5
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 1
Slutty clothing (public): Yes 1
Spanking in private: Yes 1
Spanking in public: No 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: Yes 3
Spanking pleasure: Yes 3
Spandex clothing: No 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 5
Speculums (Anal): Yes 1
Speculums (vaginal): Yes 1
Spreader bars: Ohhhhhh Yeah !
Standing in corner: Yes 1
Stocks (adjustable): Yes 1
Stocks (fixed): Yes 1
Straight jackets: No 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Yes 1
Strapping (full body beating): No 5
Suspension (upright); Yes 1
Suspension (inverted): No 5
Suspension (horizontal): Yes 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 5
Swallowing semen: Yes 1
Swallowing urine: No 5
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes 1
Swinging (multiple couples): No 5
Tattooing: No 5
Teasing: Yes 1
Tickling: Yes 1
Triple penetration: Yes 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: No5
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: No 5
Vaginal dildo: Yes 1
Verbal humiliation: Yes 2
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 3
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Yes 1
Video (watching others): Yes 1
Video (recordings of you): Yes 1
Water torture: No 5
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 1
Whipping: Yes 1
Wooden paddles: Yes 1
Wrestling: No 5

**jeanne** · 04-04-2007

Sir_Russell,
Thanks for posting these checklists - they are helping me see my frantic desires a little more clearly and objectively. I am praying to get up the nerve to fill one out and actually give it to my husband <gasp> in the hopes that it will alleviate his fears about hurting me in a way I don't like. (Which I suspect is his main objection to this part of our sexuality and life.) Now if I could just get over this darn shyness! (Not shy in the rest of my life activities, like work, friendships, etc. but I am way too worried about what he'll think of me

)
Have a wonderful day!

**pixie_dust** · 04-04-2007

Thanks for sharing these, Sir_Russell. They definately help open the door of discussion for lots of folk interested in this lifestyle, especially those who find it difficult to express their fantasies and desires. I'm sure they will be well received by many.

**Sir_Russell** · 04-04-2007

sub to Border Collie.
Unusual questionaire response. You are intrigued with things you haven't done. Yet you are willing to do things for your Master/Dom that you have little or no interest in, and that is commendable. The next step is for Border Collie to do the Dom part of this so the two of you can compare and then he can plan to surprise you.

Russell.

**Sir_Russell** · 04-04-2007

his_j take the questionaire and print out the other one for him to take. Leave them where he will find them with some instructions.

Have you talked about this at all with him. I see your shy do you have a set of handcuffs is not buy a set, even the kids type with the lever to release you, then put on his favorite sexy wear or nude if he prefers. Then put on the cuffs behind your back and go kneel in front of him with mouth open or even better use your mouth to open his pants. Tell him to control how you suck by grabbing your head or hair.

If that doesn't work at least he knows a little of what you want.

Russell

**blossom** · 04-11-2007

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 4
Animal roles: no 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 5
Asphyxiation: no 4
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: no.
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): no 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 5
Breath control: no 4
Branding: no.
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no 2
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5
Chastity belts: no 5
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: yes 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 5
Clothespins body: no 4
Cock worship: no 5
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no.
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 3
Cutting: no.
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 2
Enforced chastity: no 5
Examinations (physical): no 4
Exercise (forced/required): no 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 1
Eye contact restrictions: no 4
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: no 5
Fantasy rape: no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no.
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: no 5
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 5
Forced homosexuality:no 3
Forced masturbation: no 2
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 5
Forced servitude: no 5
Full head hoods: no 5
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 1
Golden showers: no 0
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: no 2
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: no 5
Having clothing chosen for you: no 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): no 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no.
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no 4
Hot waxing: no 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private): no 4
Humiliation (public): no 0
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 3
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 5
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 4
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 2
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: no 5
Modeling for erotic videos: no 4
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 5
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: no 3
Nipple weights: no 0
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: (unable to have them)
Orgasm control: (^^^^^^^^^^^)
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: no 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 4
Pony slave: no 4
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 0
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 5
Rope body harness: no 5
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: yes 4
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving: no 0
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no.
Serving as furniture: no 4
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no.
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): no 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 5
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no.
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no 4
Sleep-sacks: no 5
Slutty clothing (private): no 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 4
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 4
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: yes 3
Standing in corner: no 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: n/a
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no 2/3
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 0
Tattooing: no 2
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: no 3
Triple penetration: no 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 0
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: no 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 5
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: yes 4
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling: yes 4

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