Dom from wheelchair?

[truckinnhorsin]

possible?

I have an amazing man right now, and we have recently gotten very interested in BDSM, he the Dom, i the sub. Not quite 24/7, but not purely sexual either.

But there is a complication, he has MS. Somedays he requires a wheelchair to function. Even on good days, hes not entirely steady on his feet.

My question.... other than giving orders... how else can we continue enjoying the lifestyle on days he is wheelchair bound... or eventually, if he is permanently wheelchair bound? Does anyone have any experience with this? advice? ideas? I keep trying to imagine pain play or bondage with him in the chair.. and I'm just not sure how well it would work?


And while i have your attention, another side question... i have more knowledge with the whole scene, and a bit more experience than he does. What are some good ways to help draw him out and educate him, without losing my 'sub' role. I crave things, but telling him every time what to do rather defeats the purpose of letting him take control.

Teni

[tkk098]

What is MS? Sorry.

[vistana]

Multiple Sclerosis.
Google tells me it's an inflammatory disease of the central nervous system.

'In general, people with MS can experience partial or complete loss of any function that is controlled by, or passes through, the brain or spinal cord.'

[wannabeXopsed]

Hello Teni,

I have read a lot about what is expected from a Dom, and this has been helpful to me as to what is expected, and maybe it can bring some things to light for your Dom, and that he can expect from you. I dunno but I like what the web page had to say. Good Luck!

T
http://www.bestslavetraining.com/index.html

[truckinnhorsin]

Yes Multiple Schlerosis... how ever you spell it. Affects the nervous, in His case, mostly balance, legs, and on really bad days, one arm. I realize that if He loses control of his arms, all rough play is lost, i was thinking more along the lines of days when He just didn't have the balance for standing, but still had most/all of his arm control...... Thoughts on subing to someone wheelchair bound, being tied, punished, etc.

Thank you for that link.. it looks really great. i bookmarked it, and later when im not in the middle of getting ready for work, i'll definitely read more.

Teni

[slavelucy]

Hi truckinnhorsin, welcome to the forums

i confess i don't have any experience of the question you ask, but one thought that immediately came to mind when i read it was something on an old, old thread when someone asked about female dommes and male subs. i won't bore you with the detail of it, but what became apparent and a point on which most people agreed was that submission and dominance wasn't about wrestling someone physically to the ground, tying them up whilst they continued to fight etc. Sure, those things can be fun, but it isn't where Ds really lies, IMO. 'What of it?', i hear you ask..well, i'd say this fact went in your favour and what i'm trying to say is that your partners infirmity shouldn't interfere with your level of submission. Make sense?

i see that pratically, his condition could be limiting, but there could be some ways round that. Being dominant in a scene doesn't have to be about doing intricate and difficult bondage and marching around with a whip....certainly in my experience, there's nothing wrong with you lying on a bed and him sitting next to you/between your legs (*blush*)..or even HIM lying down (sitting in his chair) and you kneeling on the bed/floor next to him...it isn't about whether he could physically force you to stay there....you stay there because you want to be there and he still has manyother dominant tools at his disposal..like his voice, the way he looks at you etc. i don't really like to make any more pratical suggestions because i'm not sure what you're into, but i hope this has been of some use.

sl