Caring for yours and your own.

[Eraser]

Recently life has been rather hectic for myself. For the last 2 months I've been rather regular in my postings. The last few weeks just after thanksgiving I've been rather overwhelmed with my responsibilities.

The reason I am posting this thread isn't so much to explain my absence but more so to show an example since there seem to be this assumption that "training" means no relationship or is "cold" or there is no caring involved etc.

Some specifics about my personal life, I have a total of 4 slaves. My wife who's been with me for 9 years, and my personal slave. About 3 months ago I acquired (for lack of a better phrase) a pair of slave sisters that had been basically abandoned by there owner; who literally disappeared, no calls no nothing after 3 months of no contact with either of them they were confused. Though seen on-line and active, read receipts for emails sent, speaking to other friends on-line and playing in public settings. Then came on-line released one girl and told the other the need to "figure out" what to do with her as well. a month later no word no reply no contact again the other girl begged her own release to no reply no response nothing. A month later she considered herself abandoned.

Both of them came to me asking for something, they had lived a 24/7 existence focusing and a rigid structure and schedule and now had no direction at all. I agreed to take them both on for 6 months to give them structure to help guide them and time to heal emotionally. A short time later, both asked me for training after seeing how I interacted with my own girls and the significant difference in there submission and what they had been taught so far. I agree'ed to train them for the remainder of the 6 months but I couldn't take them both as my own permanently as thats just to much to handle responsibly. That and the fact that one is active duty navy and lives 90 miles away.

Just after thanksgiving, one of the girls went into the ER with severe abdominal pain, at first it was thought to be appendicitis. She was sent home and told to return in 12 hours or sooner if it got worse. To shorten the story, over the past 3 weeks, she's been in and out of the hospital or ER nearly every day or two with no determination as to what it was until just this week. Ovarian cancer.

During these weeks, I've spent countless hours in the ER with her (each visits taken 12+ hours), driving down daily to make sure she has what she needs and her home is taken care of by someone. During her ER visits I've held her hand through getting shots and IV's (she's scared of needles of all things) I've held her while she's cried in pain, I've hand fed her when she was to doped up on medication she couldn't hold her spoon. As her diagnosis worsens/changes the responsibilities have changed, the care needed is increasing quickly and her mobility is stricken heavily. Everyone in our household has contributed to her care and wellbeing.

We've done this because as trainee, not collared by me permanently, she is still mine. As a Dom my first responsibility above anything else, is her emotional and physical well being, that being in a scene or outside of it. I do my duty and my responsibility as her Trainer to the point of utilizing the resources I have to ensure she has what she needs.

For those of you that want to accuse me of being a braggart as to having more then one girl, the girl specifically mentioned here is gay. We have absolutely no sexual relationship. The other is Bi but leans HEAVILY toward women sexually. Though my wife is bi, she's only ever had platonic interaction with either of them.

And for those that keep saying training has no emotional bond, or has no "relationship" I just have to say, I disagree with you completely.

[GaryWilcox]

That's a good reminder that there's more to BDSM than sex, and more to you than BDSM.

You have my admiration.

[Nightstriker]

*I whipe a tear from my eye.*

That is very admirable and increadibly touching, and like Gary said there is a lot more to the life than sex.

[Mobius]

Your de dom.

But seriusly how can it be 24/7 if one is in the nave and the other lives some were else?

Is there such a thing as a 24/7 online ?

BDSM or no bdsm whatyou have shown us all is basic human compasion.
I hope she recovers and can live to serve again.

[Dngnkeeper]

Eraser

Thanks for sharing this great example. I echo Gary and Nightstriker in their praise. It reminds me of a similar thing here recently when a Dom was diagnosed with cancer and a sub, who he was not involved with, moved in to help him through chemo.

:goldcup:

[GaryWilcox]

I think all people should feel a responsibility to each other and want, even for those who wrong us, health and life.

M.'s responsibility to his submissives is a personal relationship, and in truth, we have no right to praise him or judge him.

It's my impression that he gets something out of those relationships that is deeper than sex, and I understand that, identify with that.