experienced slave and a wanabe Master with no experience

[robart]

Hello everybody!
I come to seek your advice on a (at least right now) hypothetical situation.

A few informations about myself:
I'm quite interested in bdsm, and have some kind of theoreticle knowledge, such as following discussions on forums like this one. But, for several reasons, I have no real-live experience neither with bdsm, nor - with sex at all.

Anyway, I just had a dream. (Yes, a dream. The ones we use to have when we're asleep.) ( It's about seven in the morning over here...)
It was me, with all the experience I don't really have, an a female submissive with a lot of experience (she seemd to be older, too, but that was just a detail). It was a "meeting-for-a-session", not some kind lasting relationship, so a "sliding in over several month" wasn't an option.
After waking up, I thought about the situation, and what I would/should do if such a situation apeared in real live. I came about several things you just don't think about when adreaming, but in the end I wasn't much wiser.

So: What would you suggest in such a situation? Is there anybody who actually experienced that kind of thing? What would be simple, but never the less "interesting" for an experienced slave?

[BDSM_Tourguide]

I know this sounds corny, but the best thing you can probably do to find information fast is A) read a book don BDSM, B) visit BDSM help websites like http://www.castlerealm.com and http://www.adarkwhisper.com, and C) ask a LOT of questions to anybody that will listen to you.

The people here, and there are about 7000 of them last I looked, are fairly knowledgeable, capable of answering your questions, and with that broad of a knowledge base, whatever your kink or experience, it is very likely that someone knows something about it and something to help you.

Also, the person to whom you should be speaking the most is your partner. Ask her questions, tell her your ideas, talk to her about what interests you. The person that can give you the best feedback about your relationship is her.

[MrJerseyGuy]

I don't know if the others will agree with me or not. Personally, I think the whole "meeting for a session" thing makes for a great fantasy. The problem is that it IS a fantasy wherein your partner is into everything you are no matter what it is.

In real life I don't think that's a very practical expectation. I don't know that meeting for a one time sexual experience in the context of bdsm would work. I'd see that as better suited to those with vanilla interests.

[robart]

@Tourguide:
Thanks for the links!

C) ask a LOT of questions to anybody that will listen to you.

Well, just started to do that, didn't I? ;-)

Also, the person to whom you should be speaking the most is your partner. Ask her questions, tell her your ideas, talk to her about what interests you. The person that can give you the best feedback about your relationship is her.

Yep, that's clear. While in such a situation there wouldn't be much of a relationship to give feedback about, talking about ideas and interests would certainly be the key.

The problem is that it IS a fantasy wherein your partner is into everything you are no matter what it is.

I guess it is just like Tourguide said - the key is talking. As long as nobody is fixated on his/her "one-and-only"-fantasy, there should be some fantasies to share.

I'd see that as better suited to those with vanilla interests.

Well, it is less complicated for them, isn't it? No need to be afraid to be forgotten in bondage or being baited by a mob of radical feminists...



Thanks for the answers, both of you!

[slavelucy]

.Well, it is less complicated for them, isn't it? No need to be afraid to be forgotten in bondage or being baited by a mob of radical feminists...

ROFL!

Yeah, i think what MrJG (please correct me if i'm wrong Sir!) could have been referring to was trust; in that clearly you have to trust anyone you go to bed with to some extent, but to do a a BDSM related scene with them, there is a hugely increased need for it and therefore most 'one off' scenes would either be with someone you know or in a safe environment.

As for your actual question, i confess i am a little unclear as to what it actually is Are you asking if it's likely/possible that you would happen to meet an experienced submissive to do a one off scene with? Or are you asking how to get into BDSM? All in all i'd probably concur with the trust thing and ther last paragraph of TG's post.

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[PopeRozen]

Lots a ppl will probably disagree here but I don't see anything wrong with a sub teaching an inexperienced Dom. Sure it won't be as fun for either, but then again the Dom would be learning about exactly what the sub will like, which is an advantage.