slavedoggieboy

[slavedoggieboy]

I am a submissive slave to women, and have been for 50* years. Now just recently, a man contacted me on one of my groups, and asked me if i would like to submit to him. I did submit to 2 men more than 50 years ago, but now i am conflicted. I would on the one hand like to submit again to a man, and on the other hand, i am afraid of STDs, especially aids. He has said he will subject me to much humiliation, and pain, and has said he will require blow jobs from me.
My questions, i guess aimed at the male doms, would it be unseemly of me to ask him to wear a condom during oral or anal sex? I dont wish to put him down by suggesting it, but dont know if or how i may bring it up.
Pleas help me

[fetishdj]

First concern is not STD but 'first meeting protocol'. Be very careful meeting someone you meet on the internet. You certainly should not be scening with him at this stage. A public meet in pub/cafe/restaurant, with friends of yours either nearby or on the end of a phone is your first step. During this meet you can discuss limits and negotiate what you want to do with each other. At this point, when you are still 'two men meeting in a pub' rather than 'Master and sub', is the time to mention basic safety and what you will and won't do to each other. My advice, if he says no to a condom then you walk. You may also want to consider dental dams. You could also at this point ask him for evidence of recent negative HIV tests and hepatitis vaccinations (and make sure you can provide this yourself).

Remember, you are not his sub until you agree to be his sub and even then you are not legally obliged to do anything he says...

[slavedoggieboy]

Thank you fetishdj
Thank you for that advise. He has been talking about meeting at a borders store for coffee, so it would be public. Dont really have anyone i can call with a safe call tho. I am not sure just what a dental dam is, but will look into it and find out.
Again thank you for the quick response. I can tell you i find that subbing to a male is exciting to me, but i am still a bit shaky about it.

slavedoggieboy

[Kahlann]

Not a Dom or a male, but I feel that you have every right to have him wear a condom. Just because you are submitting does not mean that it's not your body. You need to make sure that you are taking care of yourself and protecting yourself. If that's what you feel comfortable with then by all means ask him. If he's going to refuse and not respect you in this very important instance then I don't see why he would be worth dealing with at all.

[fetishdj]

A dental dam is a rubber device that fits in the mouth. I have never seen one before so cannot tell you more than that however it is supposed to minimise the risk of infection from oral sex.