Older women

[dennisthmn]

I would love to hear from Older women who love bdsm or anything, I would prefer over 50. or good stories concerning Older women

[thir]

I would love to hear from Older women who love bdsm or anything, I would prefer over 50. or good stories concerning Older women

Well, either the women here will not admit to their age, or BDSM is for young people..What does the list members think?

I am over 50, and I still like BDSM. It is not like it goes away, suddenly..
I do not have any stories, though ;-)

[BorderCollie]

My wife/sub is over 50 and she STILL loves to be tied up!!!

[TwistedTails]

We have not crossed the 50 line yet, but I don't see us stopping just because we pass some arbitrary age.

[PinkSugar]

Aging used to bother me, I dont think anyone wants to be OLD.
I also dont think old happens until you "stop" having fun, "stop" enjoying the things in life that give you pleasure.
Master is over 50, I am not quite there yet...
Stop is not in my vocabulary, sure hope Sir never says it either


Sorry, I dont have any stories if I come across any I will post the links for you

[diem]

With lucky genes or self discipline, women over 50 can be very beautiful and their mature character adds to their attraction. This category of women is quite common in my favorite stories and fantasies. MILFS? OK, but who talks about GILFS ?

[PinkSugar]

With lucky genes or self discipline, women over 50 can be very beautiful and their mature character adds to their attraction. This category of women is quite common in my favorite stories and fantasies. MILFS? OK, but who talks about GILFS ?

They dont talk about them, and to prove the point just look how popular this thread was.
The mature character may just simply be that women get quieter as they age, hold thier breath and hope like heck ANYone would still find them attractive. They try to convince each other "girl you still got it " but does that really work ? Most often you hear about them having to console each other because thier men left them for a younger women. They bite thier tongues and watch thier mates look sideways at every pretty young thing that walks by.
You hear 10,000 jokes, old ...dusty compared to one wow she still looks hot.
I think this subject is a bit of a sensitive one for me, Almost every women has some sort of body issue. I have never been a perfect 10, but my very average has gotten me by. I worked with what I had. But I now find myself at a threshold, I stand at my closet and go to reach for one of my favorite mini skirts. And I have to ask myself...how am I going to be seen. It's no longer going to be 'cute' it is going to be 'pathetic'
Even the very average gets thier share of flirting, cat calls etc. My very insecure ego has fed off that . Honestly I am quite terrified of this next stage, how does a women soothe the insecurities after they reach the point where that no longer happens ? How does she still feel sexy, when the ropes are half hidden under sagging flesh and wrinkles ? Yes, I know sexy is more of a mental state than a visual perfect 10.....but is there a sub space deep enough for me to find that in another few years?
Heck the way this is sneaking up on me, will I even be able to find that next week !!
Anyhow, just wanted to say thank you for saying "This category of women is quite common in my favorite stories and fantasies."
It gives me hope, that maybe...just maybe this aging thing will not be as terrible as I am feeling it is, and that somehow I will find the way to do it gracefully as they say.

[jeanne]

It gives me hope, that maybe...just maybe this aging thing will not be as terrible as I am feeling it is, and that somehow I will find the way to do it gracefully as they say.

You will. I'm 44 - and the one thing I wish is that I'd been less insecure when I was younger - and had less to be insecure about! Now, I am. Acceptance has set in, and I get attention when I choose to. Truthfully, it's a relief to not spend my every day worrying about whether or not I'm attractive that day, whether or not that cute man at the grocery store noticed me....I'm very comfortable in my skin.

The wrinkles and sags and stretch marks...do I love them? Nah. But, they are signs of a life well-lived. The stretch marks are from pregnancy - I had 4 beautiful children. The saggy breasts are from breast-feeding, which I don't regret for a moment. The rest of the sag is gravity, which plays no favorites. And the wrinkles. Wrinkles from laughing and smiling, wrinkles from frowns and tears, wrinkles as a result of many wonderful days in the sun...they are truly my life, written on my face. I wouldn't remove a single one if it meant the loss of the events and feelings that have made me the person I am today - someone I like.

[thir]

[QUOTE=PinkSugar;810168]They dont talk about them, and to prove the point just look how popular this thread was. [quote/]

quite ;-)

[quote]The mature character may just simply be that women get quieter as they age, hold thier breath and hope like heck ANYone would still find them attractive.[quote/]

I find that my age has to some extent liberated me from finding my worth in looks - and the looks of other people. Everything is just more relaxed. Perhaps it is also that my culture is rather less orientated around looks and age.

But I admit that a site like this, with lots and lots of young women (and a few males thrown in) is sending the message that bdsm is for the young and beautifull. At least if you are a woman. And that does annoy me. It is for everybody who enjoys it.

[jezabel]

that was beautifully put jeanne, im 42 this year and i like myself far better than i did in my 20's....im more confident and proud to be who/what i am...age certainly has matured me...like a fine wine lol (or a smelly cheese, depends how u look at it)

[leo9]

I would expect BDSM to be the best place to be if you can no longer be classed as young-and-beautiful, for the same reason that it's a good place to be if you are plus-size, differently abled or otherwise non-standard. (All my best subs have been at least one of the above.)

Things are confused because BDSM overlaps very much with the fetish scene, whose porn is even more than BDSM focussed on Barbie figures. But even there, in real life rubber or vinyl fans are just as likely to be large or old and not ashamed of it.

Every so often someone asks, more or less challengingly, "Why are there so many fat women in the BDSM scene?" And my own answer is that because BDSM is so much about what you do and what is going on in people's minds, looks don't matter the way they do to vanillas. A good slave is judged by the depth of her submission, not the height of her breasts.

The same should - and in my experience, does - go for age. And that's only subs: for Dommes, I would imagine that one of the wonderful things about the role is that as you get older you get better placed to project dominance and command respect.

By the way, I would be interested to hear again from the original poster. Is your particular interest in dominant or submissive older women? What situations do you like to see them in?

[PinkSugar]

For the record Jeanne, I am already a year older than you and have yet another birthday this month. I also had four children and adopted a fifth.

Like I stated I think this is just a sensitive topic for me because of where I am in my own life, ya know...that damaging process. I recently retired, and moved to another state and found out the following week I was going to be a grandmother. My day to day life just took a dramatic change.

Tina Turner still looks darn good in a mini...who knows maybe I can get away with it awhile longer too.

It is only myself that I look at the "physical" and judge, and do so very harshly. The odd thing to me is what I am judging and wishing I could be, is the very opposite of what I look at and am attracted to.
The weight I wish I could be in reality is unhealthy, and for me to see it on someone else I would think my gawd someone hold em down and stuff a cheeseburger down thier throat.
My job was in the entertainment industry, on a daily basis I would see people my age with so much botox, even plastic surgery scars . That they can not even use thier face to express real emotion. I felt nothing but pity for them and was not the slightest bit attracted.
When I did not have the time to really dwell on this, and my world was more "vanilla" I did not judge myself so harshly.
I am a bit of a perfectionist, when I do a job or give something I want it to be the very best possible. Maybe I am still holding too much of that vanilla and thinking that the visual perfect 10 IS the best that I could give. ....perhaps to that is just part of a need to punish myself because I know I am not giving that.
I think I am trying to find a reason for wanting to give something, that I myself am so unattracted to when there is no reason for it.
I knew along time ago that I was not attracted to the vanilla society, and was a little I guess shocked is the right word to find that there were so many others who felt the same. I dont know why it still surprises me at times , that I am not all alone in my way of thinking.
Even with in the BDSM, you can easily find stories, and photos....of plus sized, differently abled ...but where are those aged and aging ?

I think I am going to shut up now, and go get lost in a fantasy about being tied to a walker and cane raped.

[less_is_more_2005]

I would think aging would be easier for the dominant female than any other person on earth! It wouldn't matter to me what the woman looked like, she would be my queen. A woman over 50 could sit back and watch me clean her home and wait on her hand and foot, just ringing her little bell when she needed me to refresh her drink, massage her feet, or anything else she desired, knowing I'd run to answer her summons. How many non-dominant women in their 20's are treated like that?
And, after a couple weeks of being locked in chastity, the woman holding my key would be the most beautiful woman in the world to me and so far above anyone else in the world. How could anyone not feel beautiful under those circumstances????

[cheyanneautum]

Since i fall into this catagory i can honestly say my age has nothing to do with this lifestyle is the first thing i learned and glad of it because i was just to fearful that i was not going to look good in this or that and being as bashful as i am in alot of ways it was a big hurtle for me to try and overcome. But trust me when a person turns 40 or 50 Y/your like does not end or go down hill. i think women appreciate more and yes sometimes quieter but for different reasons.
Cheyanneautum

[MasterBaron1945]

I understand how you feel. I had a friend well over 50 (60 ) when I was in my early 40s.
The sensation was awesum. Her body responded like a youngster. She cried with joy how I found all her dormant feelings.

I can go into details if you wish.