Can I find what I'm looking for?

[Mr_Clock]

Newbie here so I apologize for the randomness of how this post may come out, but I thank you for reading it...... I just joined the site a few days ago and have read a lot of interesting posts and have started to get an idea of what I'm looking for. First and foremost I'm only looking for something strictly online. Judging by some of the personals I don't think that will be hard to find. I've had some experience with online subs and that was very rewarding, nothing too hardcore, some edging and picking out clothes for them to wear, role play, and just talking like a close friend. I'm not much into inflicting pain, but I do love to give a good spanking.

So I began to wonder what it was like on the other side. Back when yahoo had the role play rooms I starting looking around as a male sub seeking a female dom, and never had an experience that was rewarding. It may have something to do with the fact I like to open a dialogue with the person I'm playing with first. So I joined this site looking to explore my sub side, but started reading personals by female subs which sounded very interesting. Which got me thinking that maybe it would be nice to have another online sub again.

Somewhere in the midst of this I discovered the term switch. Which I think describes me. However, I guess my question(s) are should I be looking for another switch? Is that a good idea? I can fully understand when people say once I topped my dom, I couldn't see him as a dom anymore. Are switches that prevalent? Or is it better to look for two seperate people and be honest with both of them. I"m opposed to the idea of creating two ids, because that is dishonest. I am not in a rush to find someone, and am enjoying reading about other people's experiences and questions.

[leo9]

There's no law says that switches can't play with one-siders; in fact it may be safer, particularly if you're after long term D/s rather than quick role-play games. I know switch couples who can change back and forth at the drop of a whim, but they're rare.

If you want to find a Domme and a sub (and why not?), it's probably a lot easier to look for two different people than to try to get them both in one economy package. I would advise being totally frank about your situation, simply because lies, however well intentioned, get in the way of real relationships. A few people (as you will see on other threads) simply can't relate to someone as a Dom if they know that he also submits elsewhere, and likewise, a few female supremacist Dommes might feel that a sub who also dominated women didn't have the right attitude. But there are plenty of people who won't have a problem with it, so why not keep it simple and honest?