I'm not sure where to start...

[BabyGirl12]

Hi everyone
I'm new, my name's Megan.

I've been intrigued by the idea of a BDSM relationship for the past few months. I'm not really into pain. I have a very low tolerance for it, actually. I'm more interested in the Dominant/submissive aspect of BDSM. The closeness and intimacy of a relationship between a Master and a slave is something I am envious of.

I'm interested in relationship where I am the daughter or where I am a pet. I am cautious, I am stubborn, and I'm really new to this, so I'm going to need someone patient, I think. lol.

I just don't know where to look, or what to say...I'm still a little fuzzy on the rules.

[lucy]

Hello and welcome
There are no rules, as far as i know. However, there are two things you should always keep in mind:
First: be very careful about what personal info you share. There ARE freaks out there.
Second: Keep it safe, sane and consentual and don't do stuff you don't want to do just because someone tells you 'that's what little girls are supposed to do and if they don't they're not good subs and btw i'm a Dom so you better start doing what the heck i tell you' or any such crap.

Apart from that, the only rules that apply are those you set up yourself.

Where you should start? Hmm, browsing the forum, reading threads that interest you, talk to people in the chat, read stories on the library, join the tasking society, ask questions, asf aso, there's so much to do and learn.

And don't hurry, but enjoy and have fun.

[BabyGirl12]

Thank you for the advice.
I've had experience with jerks, unfortunately.
I will make sure to never do anything I'm not comfortable with.
I'll definitely browse.

[SOUTHERN GENTLEMAN]

Welcome to the site. lucy gave you GREAT ADIVE. Please keep it in mind. I,m an old MAN who knew about this life style, and dreamed of it for over 30 years. I'm just now able to persue it. I'm as new and as inexperianced as they come. The people here have been as friendly and as helpful as a Person can be. You'll enjoy your journey here. Good luck, and be CAREFUL.

[denuseri]

what lucy said X 2

Remember saftey first, kinky second and allways take your time

[sirbootnocka]

Hi everyone
I'm new, my name's Megan.

I've been intrigued by the idea of a BDSM relationship for the past few months. I'm not really into pain. I have a very low tolerance for it, actually. I'm more interested in the Dominant/submissive aspect of BDSM. The closeness and intimacy of a relationship between a Master and a slave is something I am envious of.

I'm interested in relationship where I am the daughter or where I am a pet. I am cautious, I am stubborn, and I'm really new to this, so I'm going to need someone patient, I think. lol.

I just don't know where to look, or what to say...I'm still a little fuzzy on the rules.

You've already started, by asking questions. I am still new to alot of this as well, but I'm taking it slow, and I'll find that perfect sub that I'm looking for.
Now just because I'm new to the lifestyle doesn't mean that I'm new to being a dominant person, with a dominant personality.
Have fun and be careful.

[Willsubmit2]

first of all, welcome to the site, you're more than likely able to get good information from this site. it took me a while to find my Master...lots of screening, questions, reading the Dom's writing (all my contacts have been on line). again, welcome...

[BabyGirl12]

Thank you for the warm welcome
It truly helps ease my nervousness.
I'm having fun exploring and talking to so many people

[Misschief]

It takes a lot of strength, as a female, to come to terms with being submissive (or Dominant..).. Not knowing about this realm but knowing you desire it means your desire is pure.. The gift you offer of submission is the most treasured, valuable thing on Earth and should be revered as such by your prospective Dom(me)..

Never settle for less..

And I welcome your questions if you ever want to talk more..



edit: the reason I say coming to terms with being a sexual deviant is hard on Women specifically is b/c of the social connotations of the masses.. ie: a Woman who loves to fuck and/or get fucked is a filthy, dumpster, whore (Yes, I speak from personal experience.. But I was actually referred to as a dumpster-trash-whore..).. while a man who loves to fuck is revered.. etc..

[BabyGirl12]

Your post made me smile Misschief, because it wasn't hard at all for me to admit that I have submissive tendancies. I admire everyone for being who they want to be despite such horrid treatment they might get, as you did. I truly hope you beat the crap out of whoever told you that you were a dumpster trash whore. lol.

[Misschief]

Honestly, it was so long ago. And ironically, the person who was being warned against being with Me, ended up dating Me for two years.. he screwed Me over big time, broke My heart while we were in Italy, messy break-up.. But in the end, 3 or 4 months after I was WAY WAY (happily!) over him.... he came crawling back, hands and knees, tears.. Appologies.. I gave him the one finger salute (the middle one) and didn't even respond to his missives..

It was at this point I finally came to terms with My deviance..

I figured out how to masturbate at 8 years old, in 2nd grade, when we were learning how flowers reproduce.. I thought the diagram on the board looked like what I had between My legs.. So later that night, when I was alone (LOL and many nights thereafter) I began to explore the realm of autoerotic fantasy.. (Funny side note: Considering the fact that I learned from a diagram about flower reproduction, I actually thought for a very short while that I might get Myself preggers!!!)

Anyway, My early fantasies were not something I had ever talked about to ANYone up until this point in My life.. There were two actors in My mind.. A faceless blonde woman and a faceless man with a scraggly grey pony tail.. The St. Andrew's Cross (though at the time I had no f-ing clue what it was called..) was always horizontal, as a table.. The man had the woman bound in the standard St. 'Drew's fashion and he would do all kinds of terrible things to her.. Like mess up her hair, spit in her mouth, rub her lipstick all over her face, mess her make-up, pull on her nipples, rip her clothes... Bite and scratch regardless of her tears.. Very much enjoyed the golden shower fantasy(never scat though).. Everything all the way up to and including penetration.. I couldn't ever picture Myself in these fantasies.. I was too shy and honestly could not fathom ever having sex.. I thought slaves (actual owned slaves before the modern era) were lucky because they could get fucked by their owners 24/7 but wouldn't have to feel guilty about it.. That's what they were for..

Up until I was 20, the only way I could achieve orgasm with a partner was to stimulate Myself while we were going at it.. No-one could do it for Me.. (And it still takes Me at least 45-60 mins..) No-one knew who I really was inside..

After this break-up, I decided My next experience in love was going to be satisfying for Me.. So not knowing anything about anything, I typed "bondage.com" in the address bar of My browser (this was back in 2001 when they let you email other members for free), out of the blue, hoping that the url actually existed.. And it did..

My advice to you is to find all of those dark desires within you.. Get with someone worthy of your trust and attention.. And within the constraints of Safe, Sane, Consentual.. Explore all that which you really are inside.. Seems like you are on the right path so far..

I have yet to tell My partner EVERY of My depraved desires.. Each time we traverse into new (lascivious) territory it brings us closer together..

There's no faking who W/we are here.. And W/we are all so different..

[BabyGirl12]

Oh wow.
Thank you for sharing. I do have to ask though...What exactly is a St. Andrew's Cross? I can kind of picture just a big cross (which isn't all that hard seeing as I've been raised Catholic), but it doesn't seem like a regular cross would suffice for the kinds of things I've read.

I read a lot of stuff, and I've always gravitated to the stories with the more forceful, D/s sex and D/s relationships. I happened across a friend who is in a relationship currently with her Master, and she sent me here to explore and ask questions.

[damyanti]

St. Andrew's Cross pic

[BabyGirl12]

Oh!
Thank you
That actually looks like fun.