Need some advice

[WyldWyl]

Presently I'm dating cross-dresser, for conversations sake we'll call her E. There's a guy who's been after E to domme him for a long time, but she's not really a dominant kind of girl. Now that I'm seeing E, this man has said he'd like me to dom him alongside E. He's offered to pay us both for our services in this regard. I'm flat broke, as is E, and that means we're having to give it serious consideration. We do have a fairly open relationship, also, so it's not 100% out of the question with regards to that.

The more I think about it, I find the idea doesn't really bother me, but I'm still a little iffy on it. Just wondering if people had any ideas/thoughts/comments/suggestions/experiences? It'd be appreciated, just to help me think through the question. Thanks in advance, folks...

[Ozme52]

I've met one pro-domme and she ended up (or maybe always was) totally vanilla. This was or became just a job.

So... one perspective is that when you take your fun and make it your work... might the fun dissapate?

I don't know... just one of many possibilities.

[gloombunny]

On the other hand, I know a girl who's done pro-domming (and I think a bit of pro-subbing, not totally sure) and still loves doing it for fun as well. So I don't think either way is gonna turn out universally applicable.

[His_blizzard]

Hmmm... I have a friend who wore the submissive crown in the site we were in. At the request of her Dominant, she dommed a friend of his. She was so good at it it (and surprised herself by loving it) that she became "pro". She made very good money. The other side of this coin is that she did end up ending her union with her Dom, and broke off contact with many of her submissive friends. ~blizz~

[Char]

On the other side of the coin, my Master once wanted us both to dominate another submissive. I tried to say that it was not my cup of tea, and that really I wondered why he was so adamant about it....

In the end it only caused me pain, the other sub was angry because I couldn't go through with it, and my Master was disappointed(not to mention causing some disagreement at home). Something like this should be a joint decision, if you value E, value her opinion.

[annie]

My only advice is to make sure that it is clearly defined what will and will not happen. Would hate for you to get in trouble for "prostitution" or something along those lines for taking money when that was never the intent to start with.

What one says when wanting something is not always what one does/remembers when they don't get their way or don't enjoy what they wanted.... and if things go south in a court of law who would be more believable?

[crazy_grrluk]

He's offered to pay us both for our services in this regard. I'm flat broke, as is E, and that means we're having to give it serious consideration. We do have a fairly open relationship, also, so it's not 100% out of the question with regards to that.

Just be very careful that you do not get "stitched up".

Because he has offered to pay you both for this service it can be classed as running a small illegal brothel in which a small jail time will be served.
Think about the state and the local law regarding this matter, and the state of Victoria doesn't look lightly on this sort of thing.

You could of course do it the proper way and get a PCA number and find some premises to operate from or even get E to register as an escort. You also can not do this from home, but all this is the extreme if you want to get a quick buck..even it it is just one guy...he will still be seen as a client in the eyes of the law and is proved that money has changed hands.

Just a few words of advice.

tgc and be safe

cg

[sidhewolf]

Presently I'm dating cross-dresser, for conversations sake we'll call her E. There's a guy who's been after E to domme him for a long time, but she's not really a dominant kind of girl. Now that I'm seeing E, this man has said he'd like me to dom him alongside E. He's offered to pay us both for our services in this regard. I'm flat broke, as is E, and that means we're having to give it serious consideration. We do have a fairly open relationship, also, so it's not 100% out of the question with regards to that.

The more I think about it, I find the idea doesn't really bother me, but I'm still a little iffy on it. Just wondering if people had any ideas/thoughts/comments/suggestions/experiences? It'd be appreciated, just to help me think through the question. Thanks in advance, folks...

A lot of Submissives Top well <G>. Evn if You end up Domming both of them...that could be great fun <smiles>. The things I would consider most would be; barriers (considering what the plans to do are), and the Legality of the activity as far as being paid for it in Your area. If this someone You feel You can Trust in this kind of situation?

Respectfully~SidheWolf

[WyldWyl]

Thank you all for your thoughts. Obviously the legal issues are important, I'll need to do some research of my own to find out if thats a chance I want to take. I also see the importance of establishing limits and boundaries for what happens in advance of it actually happening. Guess I'll have to keep thinking.

But thank you all very much for your help, it's greatly appreciated.