orgasm Denial

**qlight** · 09-29-2007

Hello everyone, My girlfriend and I are new to this excellent forum and we are after a little advice. My girlfriend is extremely orgasmic to the point of needing 2 or 3 climaxes a day which when we started out was just about the best thing, but as time has gone on it has become apparent there is not way I can come as much as her.

What we have have started to do is limit the amount of times I can come, say once a week or even once a fortnight, I am allowed to masturbate when I like and she encourages me to edge while I make her climax to orgasm, but no orgasm for me. It works just fine and I am able to keep up with her by just edging each time.

I have never considered myself to be submissive, in fact if anything I am dominant, but recently I have asked my girlfriend to tease me about not being allowed to orgasm and it is such a thrill for me, even to the point of wanting her to tease me about the size of my penis.

Has anyone else gone through this, maybe some of you may have so tips on how to play like this!

Thank you for reading this,

Robert

**moptop** · 09-29-2007

Well, I must say it sounds like definitely sub-reaction going on there... I can't give you any tips other than - if it feels good, do it!

**Wordsmith** · 09-29-2007

glight,

It sounds like you may actually be a switch rather than a pure Dom. You can be both Dom and sub...it is not all that uncommon. If the majority of the time you feel the need to be in control but occasionally you like to have your girlfriend be the one to tease and control, then you are most likely a switch. The only way to figure out is to talk with your girlfriend and experiment. See what works for the both of you.

**Warbaby1943** · 09-29-2007

You may be a switch or you may just enjoy being teased. One thing to remember is that no man can cum as often as a woman who is multi-orgasmic. There is no shame in that.

That is not saying to quit the teasing if you enjoy it but it also sounds like you may be a little into humiliation and that seems to point to submission or switch as you have already been told. In any case enjoy it all while you can. Anything that you both enjoy can't be wrong, can it?

**Rhabbi** · 09-29-2007

Definately not my type of thing, which does not make it wrong by any means. As Warbaby said, you may be a switch, or may just like teasing/humiliation type play. My advice would simply be, if it works, great.

**snowflake** · 09-29-2007

As everyones else has said you could be a switch or you just may enjoy it...i mean Doms do like a lot of attention and this would prolong it..

as for suggestions..

1. i got this off a site that i have

This is a fun, and frustrating, technique that can bring some of the spark back into sex. There are a hundred variations, but the basic idea is simple: prevent your partner from having an orgasm for a length of time (a day, two days, a week, whatever you want). You shouldn't make it easy; you can, for example, require that your partner have sex one or more times a day, or masturbate regularly (this works well when combined with a ritual of some sort), but your partner is not allowed any sexual release. Over time, the sexual tension builds up, and your partner becomes perpetually aroused.

When done over a period of several days or longer, this technique creates a very powerful level of sexual excitement. When you do finally allow your partner release, it's an extremely intense experience.

2. I would also suggest mental teasing works well also.. She could call you during the day whispering about different times you have had or how she will tease you agian when you next meet..

3, She could give you notes to be opened at certain times of the day {putting the time on each envelope}.. That you must read wherever you are at that time. In them a thought is put to get your mind racing.. and you must concentrate on that thought til you are good and hard yet again.

4. Making you count down from 5 to 1 {1 being when you shall cum} as you come to an orgasim not allowing you to go passed 2 each time and stopping dead with her teasing for a few minutes to allow you to calm down and not cum.

5. Making you beg for it and if you don't she will stop at say 3 or 2..

6. Making you jerk yourself during the day each hour but not cum only allowing yourself to go to say 3 as you count down.

7. another would be getting you to wear a cock ring during your normal daily routines and making you ahrd before you set off for those routines.

These things can be done over a long period of times as well.

These are just some suggestions off the top of my head. If you would lke more let me know.

i hope this helps you

hugs
snow