my Man & i have been together nearly 4 years & neither of us have any background in bdsm. We found that the harder He bit me or the harder He pulled my hair, the more we liked it. Fast forward to light bondage, spanking, breath play. i just knew there was more to this than "kinky sex". i love Him controlling me, commanding me, so i started researching & found this site along w/ some others. i definitely consider myself a sub but i dont quite understand how to balance this part of my life w/ my "real" life. One of the first things i read about 24/7 said the sub didnt work, didnt have a drivers license, only gets money her Dom gives her, has to have permission to get her hair cut etc. We knew this wasnt for us. i own my own biz. i'm an independent woman. But the more i read on this site, it seems alot of you have kids & jobs & lives outside the bedroom. So if you sit on the couch instead of at your Dom's feet, or if you are helping your kid w/ his homework & dont greet your Dom at the door, are you in a 24/7 relationship?