What is an SM scene for?
For me the aim of the game is to stimulate myself and my "slave". I've always thought a poor master would be one that ignores his submissive! Talk in other posts has suggested that "breaking the skin" might be way beyond the pale but surely if you know what your sub "wants", their limits, then anything goes?
She should reach her limits and be stimulated at the same time, shouldn't she?
Isn't a scene about sex to most people? I want to make my sub come so many times during our meeting that she begs me to stop so she can have a break! I'll do whatever is required to achieve this. My pleasure is causing her pleasure - the pain along the way serves to stimulate her to a much higher level than she would normally achieve. It also feeds my cruel nature. I become a double winner - my cruelty is satisfied and I have great sex !!! What more could you want ?

"The greatest enemy of good sex is selfishness" - Count Dracula.