Well I am a guy from Canada, and have been involved in BDSM for a few months. I am mainly interested in role play, or at the very least a Dom/Sub relationship. I have only ever been doing it with one girl, and it was completely non sexual, beyond a kiss here and there.

I have grown a bit distant from the girl, but have since been talking to a really good girl friend of mine who I would take a bullet for, one of those "best friends" you will never leave. I tell her absolutely everything and including this stuff, she knows more about me than any of my friends and parents combined. I have been talking to her about BDSM for quite some time now, explaining what I did, and unlike others I've talked to, she never refered to it as "weird" or "gross" which lead me to wonder if maybe she was interested. So I have been talking to her a lot lately, actually beginning to wonder if maybe she likes me, but regardless she keeps asking things like "well wouldn't it be weird to do it with a good friend?" and many things like that, which kind of hinted towards her interest. So tonight, before she went offline I asked her if ever she might be interested. Not too my surprise she said she was, oddly enough I had always viewed her as the type for some reason, even though to most others she is just an average athletic girl.

To me she seems more like a bondage than a D/S role play type of person. Getting pleasure and stimulation through light pain and more sensual things like candle wax and stuff, rather than through being slapped or spanked or yelled at. Like tonight we had talked about wax, or being wrapped in saran wrap and stimulated and what not, what really helps is our overall openness to each other. We've never dated but I have no trouble in telling her anything about me.

I have researched how to go about first timers, but I wanted to hear it from more people. I know how to play it safe, and would start relatively basic with her, we are both virgins, and I have no intentions of having sex right now, so I don't want to dive into that, but assuming she is comfortable with removing clothes I am sure other stuff may take place. I know she likes the idea of someone being in control, but not an actual Dom/sub/slave type thing.

Anyway.

Suggestions, ideas, help?


Much Appreciated everybody.

-Colin.