For those of you who are unfamiliar with the song by Naughty By Nature, OPP refers to other people's pussy, penis, or property. The song basically glorifies lack of respect for OPP. While this is not a new phenomenon, I've been somewhat offended by a couple I've known for years who began swinging almost 2 years ago.

I have nothing against swinging, per se. To each their own. I even helped this couple get started by being their first threesome partner. Shortly afterward, though, I met VoodooMan and informed them that I could no longer participate with them. They seemed to understand and didn't approach me sexually....until VoodooMan and I broke up.

While I was dating someone else, they approached me to engage in another threesome. I explained that I was only allowed to play with females, not that I'm bisexual or anything. They, again, seemed to understand. However, whilst topping the female, her husband kept trying to get me to do more. Since I knew the guy I was dating wasn't going to work out, I have to admit that I did a little more than I should have but firmly refused to have intercourse.

What, you ask, does all this have to do with anything? That encounter made me feel uncomfortable because the husband did not respect my boundaries. I later talked to the wife and let her know how I felt. She agreed that I shouldn't ever have to feel pressured or guilty, especially with them because they're my friends. I thought all was well. Then, VodooMan and I got back together. They already know he doesn't share, and they also know how I feel about him. The couple and I were hanging out at a local bar a couple of weekends ago. The wife and I were dancing when the husband came up behind me and began rubbing his crotch against my ass. It was fine...sort of...until I felt his hard-on.

Recently, the wife called to ask if I'd be interested in pole dancing at her husband's birthday party. I was floored. She kept going on about how sexy I am and what a wild and crazy girl I am, etc. I told her there was no way I could strip because VoodooMan wouldn't like it. She then suggested that maybe I could give her husband and his friend a lap dance instead. I told her that he probably wouldn't like that either. She asked if he would be coming to the party. I kind of got the feeling that she thought as long as he wasn't watching it would be okay. I told her I didn't know what our plans were for the weekend, which is the truth.

It's not just them, either. I was trying to shoot some pool at the bar when the guys I was playing with decided to grab my ass. I can't go out on the dance floor without someone humping my leg. I can't go to the dungeon without someone asking me to play. I can't go anywhere or do anything! It doesn't matter if I'm polite or rude. They all want to know where my man is.

The problem, if you can call it that, is that my relationship with VoodooMan is as yet undefined. In the beginning, I didn't mind these little annoyances so much. My sister is of the opinion that it's really none of his business what I do right now and that I don't have to tell him anything. However, the longer I'm with him, this feeling of inappropriateness gets stronger and stronger. I feel like people should respect the fact that I'm "with" someone irregardless of whether or not I have a ring on my finger or a collar on my neck. Of course, I'm perfectly aware that these symbols would more than likely be ignored by quite a few. It's my responsibility to protect his property when he is not with me, but what if I'm not technically his property?

I know I need to sit down with my friend and have a talk with her about boundaries, and I will....but I'm sick to death of dealing with people who have no respect for me as a person, much less as property. I've had people on another site approach me even though my profile says I'm under consideration. I guess I'm ranting because this is something that I've had to deal with for practically my entire adult life, but what kind of man wants a woman who is supposedly already with someone??? If he can "take" her from her man, she can just as easily be "taken" from him. What kind of woman wants a man who doesn't respect other people's boundaries or relationships??? If he doesn't respect you now, he's not liable to respect you once you're with him. Why does this mad pursuit of other people's property continue???

Okay, I'm done venting now.