In another thread, Pearlgem wrote something that I found incredibly intelligent - something that I intuitively knew, but didn't know...if you know what I mean.

Quote Originally Posted by Pearlgem View Post
I think subs can abuse Doms by not telling them the truth about themselves.
IMO, this is so very, very true. Keeping vital information to ourselves, and then placing ourselves in a situation that could cause some unexpected consequences, is an awful thing to do. I would think a perfect example would be a submissive who had been a victim of rape. Not telling her Dom about the rape and then consenting to a 'rape scene' is a selfish, abusive act. Anything could happen when the re-enactment occurs, and putting that depth of responsibility on another human being - without their consent - is abusive.