How can I take full control of someone over the internet? I'm in my first real Dom/sub relationship, and I'm enjoying it a great deal. But I'm finding that it's hard to push my little kitty, when she's doing everything to herself. She knows where each blow will land before it strikes, and she can stop the pinching and clamping before it really begins to hurt. I believe that she's doing things by my orders, but I can never be 100% sure.

The only idea I've had to do something she can't anticipate or control is to have her cell-phone set to vibrate, make her put it in a sensitive location, and call her at random intervals. I plan to try that the next time we have a session, but it's not enough. Do any of you wiser folks have any other ideas?

Thanks!