Have you ever had a Dom that said you weren't a true submissive unless you...(insert whatever he said here)....?
Have you ever heard or read posts that describe what does (or does not) make a 'true' D/s relationship?
Have you heard that a submissive always wants pain?
Have you heard that unless its 24/7 its not real, just bedroom bondage?
Have you seen that to be a submissive you cannot have a mind of your own?
Have you ever seen or read anything that makes you feel you don't really qualify for this 'club'?

The truth is, there is no One-True_way. D/s is so broad that about the only thing that we necessarily have in common is that there is a degree of submission and dominance and that its safe sane and consentual (SSC). Even SSC is not a universal part, others prefer what is know as RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink).

In this world you take as much as you need to satisfy your desires, and hopefully you will find a partner that is compatible to do that. It can be online, it can be once a week with that special someone, or it can be 24/7. Its up to you, not what another defines as the One-true-way, because the only True way is what is in your heart.

Brosco