Hi,

I'm new here, with a question that I hope one of you incredibly wise people can help me with. I've known for a long time -- actually, I can't remember not knowing -- that I am a sub. However, given a variety of reallly quite boring circumstances, I've never had the opportunity to explore that in RL or virtually. I'm in a very long-term relationship with a great guy who demonstrates little or no interest in this kind of play, much less a lifestyle. Of course, as mentioned in an earlier post, I've never actually brought it up, other than asking him to do specific things in limited circumstances. (He did them, but it was more a humoring me type of thing.) So, in order to facillitate communication about this subject, how do I bring it up? I mean, it's not like I can just say "You know, really what I'd like is for you to take total control of our intimate life and make me grovel." Right? What if he says no? What if he laughs? What if he asks me what I mean and I don't exactly know how to explain it?

Any suggestions you might have would be really appreciated.

Soledesire