I would be very grateful if any members of a 24/7 couple could answer a question that has intrigued me for quite a while, I guess this is based more towards Doms but I would love responses from either side.

I was wondering how long did it take you to find someone who was interested in actually living the submissive life as an actual lifestyle choice, and not just dabbling or being submissive in scene.

I am 29 and have been looking most my adult life for a lifestyle submissive (are there actual terms for this?) but have only managed to find either tourists, scene submissives or someone who decides that they liked being submissive but only in the sexual arena (into bondage etc but not in true submission).

I would especially like to hear from any Australians out there as I don't know if I am doing anything wrong but in the little part of the world where I live the BDSM community seems to have gone into hiding (or it is extremely elitist and only allows membership for couples ).

Jason