but isnt it really gross if you do it on the bed... and then you urm remove yourself, and see urm, you know, that there's stuff that came along....
icky isnt it :x
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but isnt it really gross if you do it on the bed... and then you urm remove yourself, and see urm, you know, that there's stuff that came along....
icky isnt it :x
It can be a little "icky",,,, but it doesn't have to be something that ruins the fun.... just wash up and continue to play.... just part of the whole experience.......
Well, you can always enema for your guy beforehand...
* hint, hint *
dont want to do an enema.
i dont know why. i just got a phobia of it? :p
anglestar, sounds like you need someone to "expand" you limits a bit. someone that you trust completely to be gentle with you and someone you can just give yourself over to.... with love and trust, you can play safe and find new ways to enjoy.......
You can get it done with a doctor, comfortably... you calling the shots. Try it once. It might give you the courage to do one yourself sometime.Quote:
Originally posted by -angelstar-
dont want to do an enema.
i dont know why. i just got a phobia of it? :p
Come to LD's clinic, we'll take care of that phobia quick-smart! (Either that, or leave you terrified of the Doctors :D)Quote:
Originally posted by -angelstar-
dont want to do an enema.
i dont know why. i just got a phobia of it? :p
Have you ever tried one? Properly done, it can be nice and relaxing, not to mention good for you :)
LD
nope, never tried one. never even thought of trying it.Quote:
Originally posted by Lord Douche
Come to LD's clinic, we'll take care of that phobia quick-smart! (Either that, or leave you terrified of the Doctors :D)
Have you ever tried one? Properly done, it can be nice and relaxing, not to mention good for you :)
LD
:D:D
well if LD's clinic relocates to singapore. maybe i will stop by :p
say. which part of aussie are you in?
I was under the impression that condoms were a good idea because of bacteria and all, but the main thing I liked about it was that it really helped with the "what if I'm not as clean as I thought" worrying. I always imagined that having to scrub down a post-anal-sex penis would probably not be very pleasant, but if he's wearing a condom you just chuck it in the garbage and boom you're done.
It apppears I'm in the part that is furthest from Singapore: Melbourne!Quote:
Originally posted by -angelstar-
well if LD's clinic relocates to singapore. maybe i will stop by :p
say. which part of aussie are you in?
Quote:
Originally posted by whippedcream
I was under the impression that condoms were a good idea because of bacteria and all, but the main thing I liked about it was that it really helped with the "what if I'm not as clean as I thought" worrying. I always imagined that having to scrub down a post-anal-sex penis would probably not be very pleasant, but if he's wearing a condom you just chuck it in the garbage and boom you're done.
*Shrug* Anything that comes out of your butt can be washed off with soap and water. I'd be more concerned about a guy sticking his penis in my mouth or my ass if he hadn't washed it off beforehand.
Bacterial infections from anus to penis occur in about .0001 percent of infection cases. A man is more likely to get a yeast infection from a woman's vagina than he is a bacterial infection from her anus. That chance is very unlikely as well. I don't know that actual figure, but I'm guessing the chance of a woman passing her yeast infection to her man is about 1 in 8 million or so.
awwww. i think its sydney i'm going to :(Quote:
Originally posted by Lord Douche
It apppears I'm in the part that is furthest from Singapore: Melbourne!
Er...riiiight, think we'll leave that one there thanks TG.Quote:
Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
[B]I dunno, lucy, I've had things come out of my ass that were nearly as big as my daughter. LMAO
Well, certainly one thing that will improve wear on tear to both the anus and the vagina is pelvic floor excercises...in fact, it is it is the pelvic floor muscles being weakened or damaged that leads to some women losing their natural tightness after giving birth, and doing these excercises, according to anyone i know who has given birth, makes a big difference to getting it back. *sigh* So i guess it isn't by magic after all - dammit!
sl
I was planning to post a question along these lines when I found this thread. As always, I turn to my friends in the forum for advice and input (no pun intended).
My little sub has expressed a willingness to experiment with anal for some time. We haven't gotten around to it yet but we have a free weekend coming up. I recently came into a little windfall of $$$ so I'm planning a trip to the "toy store" later today to pick up some nipple clamps, a HUGE dildoe and a butt plug. I want to break her into anal in such a way that it can become a normal part of our sex. Over the years I've been around a bit (I'm 15 years older than she) and I've had women that tried and hated anal, most that will tolerate it...and one or two that actually liked it. This one likes a certain amount of pain and I think she would really like it if broken in correctly. My idea is this...
I thought about buying a moderately sized butt plug and a topical anesthetic. I figured that after she is tied, whipped and I'm working her with her dildoe...when she is really excited, I could insert the plug to get her relaxed and loosened for later. I was thinking that the anesthetic might minimize the pain of her first experience and make her more available in the future. This is just a personal "brainstorm" and nothing I have tried before. Any thoughts or ideas from those of you with more experience would be welcome.
If she wasn't special I'd just do it...but this one is a keeper and I want to go carefully. She has enjoyed every form of bdsm I've introduced her to so far and I'd reall like to add anal to the repertoire. I'm looking forward to your responses. She is usually tied "spread eagle", but I can change that if it will work better.
Would you object to using a finger first? Just to get her used to the idea and starting small. That's what my man did to me, and he did it at a great moment when I was so horny and wanting to cum so badly. Being able to distract her with something on her nipples or clit will help to. Other than that, lots of lube and start small. Good luck!
Yes - it is great idea and possibly lots of fun - but if you want her trained properly - TG mentioned earlier - it should be done on regular basis - every day, every other day - you should start with the smallest plug and work your way up - i would not start with moderately sized - rather with smallest one and work your (hers) way up to larger ones.
You do not need the topic aesthetic just lots of lube.
In the beginning she should be able to tolerate plug inside for good 2 hours before it is really uncomfortable (some could do it longer), when she is comfortable for a while with small size for a period I would say of some 6 hours at the time you can increase size.
Depending oh how much and how often you have access to her you might want to have her wearing plug on daily basis to get used to the feeling of fullness and to be relaxed enough for you to take you easily.
I think unlike vaginal probes the but plug is impossible to forget about it is constant reminder of intrusion and such a nice way of having her thinking of you.
I personally think it is great to have that combined with enemas another great humiliation play that also serves as a tool to cleanse and makes sub more at ease with anal play (in most cases cause it is clean).
And again
such a gorgeous but plugs for serious players
good luck and have fun :D
P.S. just as an after thought! Stick it up your ass and see how it feels nothing better than first hand experience ;)
ROFLMAO!! Oh red, there is something about this line that just really tickled me! Perhaps i should try saying it to my Master.....er, or, on second thoughts, perhaps not eh?! :DQuote:
Originally posted by redEva
P.S. just as an after thought! Stick it up your ass and see how it feels nothing better than first hand experience ;)
sl
yeah - lucy - you should not! but he is not my master - maybe just show him my post *gigles*
As for positions, the only way that I have been able to do it comfortably in the start is doggie and then, if so choose can change to another poistion.
However, ever since my daughter was born, I have really been unable to do anal without a large amount of discomfort and pain. Maybe is is because she rearranged the furniture while she was in there and didn't put it back when she moved out, I don't really know.
Angelstar,
First of all it helps if you are excited to begin with, so do some other things that you enjoy first. (Often at the beginning of a session I am thinking "no way am I going to do that today" but I change my mind later on in the session when I am turned on) Once you are aroused, try it first while on your stomach. Try to relax and youdefinitely need to be the one in control the first time.
Slow, gentle play is best. Start small get bigger slowly, one finger, then two then a small dildo them a larger one and combine it with plenty of clitoral stimulation and lubrication so it is enjoyable.
As far as the cleanliness is concerned, it has never been a problem for me, even without an enema. I am always clear if I am prepared carefully. It seems my body knows what's coming. (pun intended) You may be the same way.
If your partner really enjoys the anal sex, though. He probably expects things to be a little messy. Don't worry about that. It is his choice.
PS Enemas aren't bad at all. You might find them to be enjoyable.
LOL - Rearranged the furniture, what an excellent way of describing it!
*grins* Thanks. LOL
Funny...when I mentioned that I had gone out and purchased her a brand new lovely butt plug her response was the same as redEva'sQuote:
Originally posted by redEva
P.S. just as an after thought! Stick it up your ass and see how it feels nothing better than first hand experience ;)
I'm re-thinking my position on this.
Anyone who's ever had a spanking with a butt plug inserted can certainly verify that they add a certain dimension to the whole experience.
As a rule, I like to keep at east once butt plug in the house for a variety of reasons. Mine doesn't see too much use these days, but it's still there.
However, were my girl to tell me to stick it up my ass, I'd demonstrate how that butt plug works and exactly what kind of element it adds to a generous spanking. ;)
Dearest MrJerseyGuy,Quote:
Originally posted by MrJerseyGuy
Funny...when I mentioned that I had gone out and purchased her a brand new lovely butt plug her response was the same as redEva's
I'm re-thinking my position on this.
My comment was made in good spirit, and was not meant to offend. From your response I gather it did not either. I am glad, especially since I can see how you are responding to her.
My strong belief is that nothing is better than first hand experience. It is quite easily for any Dom (experienced or not) to be taken aback by the expression and the screams of pain of the afflicted sub if He/She did not have a pleasure of experiencing the same treatment before.
The theory and fantasy are something completely different from the real life experience. Even though I love fantasizing about anal play I do not even remotely enjoy the enema experience (if it would be administered by someone else, in the scene there of course is that humiliation element but that is all). As for the but-plugs they are fun. Definitely takes time to be able to accommodate one for extended period of time.
It is wonderful to see that you are taking her input seriously for me it really is no fun to force something on someone that that person does not want on some level.
So all that being said I still hope you manage to persuade her to see the things your way ;).
One thing I found out (from my own experience) is that but-plug is much easier to bear while aroused. So I think that anal training goes extremely well with orgasm deprivation. What do you think?
I agree completely. Orgasm deprivation usually plays a part when we have extended play and has led to the discovery of new "limits" on many occassions.Quote:
Originally posted by redEva
One thing I found out (from my own experience) is that but-plug is much easier to bear while aroused. So I think that anal training goes extremely well with orgasm deprivation. What do you think?
(Its also the reason my back and ass look like someone took a cheese grater to them...thanks to her fingernails!)
And yes, I was serious when I got into this thread. I found it as I was preparing to launch a similar one of my own.
I love this web site and visit almost daily. There is a nice assortment of both Doms and subs here, some with less experience than I and many with more. Its a great place to bounce ideas and questions off of each other and learn. As much as I like to throw out an occassional "tongue in cheek" response, most of the time I enter a thread because I am genuinely interested in the topic.
After all, most of these questions are not exactly the kind you can run by the guy/girl sitting next to you at the neighborhood bar!
You might find that investing in a reputable guide, such as Anal Pleasure & Health by Jack Morin, would make you both more comfortable.
My experience is that I cannot truly relax with the preparatory enema. A small to medium vibrating plug is also a great distraction to the actual insertion of the toy. Patience and plenty of foreplay and lots of lube are your best allies. My first experience took an hour or more to...consummate, and there was no pain.
Anal sex should not be painful...uncomfortable, yes...but not painful. Anaesthetic cream is not a good idea, as it can mask pain that would indicate more time, lube, etc., are necessary. The lining of the rectum is actually somewhat thinner than the vaginal lining and therefore more susceptible to abrasion or laceration.
The whole idea is to make him/her love it, right?
Happy tails! :)
HHHmmmm..I just got her a brand new riding crop yesterday! Should make for an interesting weekend.Quote:
Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
Anyone who's ever had a spanking with a butt plug inserted can certainly verify that they add a certain dimension to the whole experience.
The difficulty I've had the few times I've tried anal sex is not the pain or the idea, but the fact that as soon as he starts to enter, I immediately feel like I really have to go to the bathroom. It's very distracting and I have to call an end to things. I don't know if there's anything to be done about that. Perhaps I'm just strange!
*giggles* Yeah, i don't think that is all that uncommon, i figured it was just because..um..that's usually what it's used for and it feels odd at first doing that...if you try and ignore it and move past it, it will probably pass. Or, you could consider enema's....*looks at LordDouche meaningfully* (LD being something of an expert on such matters!).Quote:
Originally Posted by rlsk
Anyway, welcome to the forums rlsk! i notice this is your first post; when you get a minute, why not come and introduce yourself (say hi etc!) in the 'New Members' thread in the General Talk Forum.
Look forward to hearing more from you. :)
lucy