Vanilla marriage to Lifestyle one

I'll chrip in with the rest of the thank yous that everyone else has been saying. My husband and I are new to all of this and I am particularly interested in finding info for him since he will be the Dom and I the sub.

One thing I would like to know is, from what I've read about BDSM, it is always seems to be from the point of view of a new relationship. I would be curious to know what it is like to get involved with it when two people are already married and have known each other for a while. Is the learning curve shortened? In our marriage, we have a 50/50 partnership normally but in this area, we want to try to not always have it be 50/50 (truth be told, I'm a bit bossy and don't want to be bossy all the time, it would be nice to be told what to do) so I would like to hear from others or get some advice about if we should be modifying anything?

I hope this was the correct thread to post this in. :-)

Thanks!

Beginning submissive's post was at the end of Aesop's tips, but I moved it to give it its own thread.

Looking forward to hearing what people think.

cariad

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Originally Posted by Beginning submissive

I'll chrip in with the rest of the thank yous that everyone else has been saying. My husband and I are new to all of this and I am particularly interested in finding info for him since he will be the Dom and I the sub.

One thing I would like to know is, from what I've read about BDSM, it is always seems to be from the point of view of a new relationship. I would be curious to know what it is like to get involved with it when two people are already married and have known each other for a while. Is the learning curve shortened? In our marriage, we have a 50/50 partnership normally but in this area, we want to try to not always have it be 50/50 (truth be told, I'm a bit bossy and don't want to be bossy all the time, it would be nice to be told what to do) so I would like to hear from others or get some advice about if we should be modifying anything?

I hope this was the correct thread to post this in. :-)

Thanks!

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Due to the assertive nature of how you handle things currently in the relationship. Learning how to speak, how to ask for things would be a good start. When putting dinner on the table, make sure he eats first, and ask for permission to begin your meal after he has started. Begin sentences with Sir. End questions with Sir. "Sir you look handsome today. May i get dressed Sir?". Teach yourself how to address him, by speaking in a submissive tense, it will put your mind in that context, and better prepare you for when he tells you to do things. It will also help him know you are feeling submissive, and receptive to being told what to do.