Beginners jitters

As I begin my part of the journey with childbride I am beginning to entertain doubts and fears.

What if I cause her harm through inexperience?

How do I project the confidence childbride will need to see, if I don’t have that confidence?

I am not talking about jumping straight into heavy scening. I have always intended to take things slowly and a little at a time..but the doubts are still there.

I would really appreciate reading the thoughts of those that have been through this and how they got through it.

Regards,
Tasker

go to the knowledge section. and read aesops tips for beginners. great thread for you to begin with. as far as presenting that confidence that you want her to see. if you intend on doing something that is potentially harmful, such as whips or whatever, try it on an inanimate object first. make your aim, and stroke method perfect and you will have no doubt when with her. for the other stuff. just as you said. go slow. with impact play be careful of the kidneys and tail bone when using a flogger or other impact toy, and you will be fine.

Almost four months on...how do You feel now?

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Originally Posted by Tasker

As I begin my part of the journey with childbride I am beginning to entertain doubts and fears.

What if I cause her harm through inexperience?

How do I project the confidence childbride will need to see, if I don’t have that confidence?

I am not talking about jumping straight into heavy scening. I have always intended to take things slowly and a little at a time..but the doubts are still there.

I would really appreciate reading the thoughts of those that have been through this and how they got through it.

Regards,
Tasker

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Keep us informed how it went. I have been off this site for few months due to work and relationship. It's all about communication with your partner. Find out her limits etc.

Good luck to you!

I think for you to talk to her about that is a good thing. Showing a bit of uncertainty may not be a bad thing depending on how you express it. If you show it by checking on how she is feeling by whats going on then that should help reassure her that you care about her welfare at all times. That also will help you become more confident as you learn by her feedback whats ok.

I think that confidence is important but I think its gained by experience. You will find that it will grow as you both learn what you like, limits and discuss what worked for you both and what you want to try.

Tasker, As the old ad used to say "You've come a LONG way baby" And I use the term "baby" with all due respect. Tee-hee
No one talking to you in chat would ever guess that just a few months ago you were full of indecision and unsure of yourself. From what I have seen, your are a natural born Dominant and cb is one lucky submissive! "Peace" ~blizz~

smiles at the wicked evil Tasker and His oh so lucky childbride!

hugs!
cali

Tasker, nice to know that you care enough to be scared. I would say that you will hurt her, but when you do, talk to her and let her know why it happened. We all make mistakes, eeven after we have been here for a while.