Seeking my diamond in the rough

I am seeking to build a long term, real-time relationship with the right woman. I am seeking my diamond in the rough, my partner in life, my submissive and love. But the difficult I seem to always run into is that I am not harsh enough for some and too much so for most others. I am seeking a partner who enjoys both the softer side of life, cuddling in bed and whiling away evenings reading, and harsher activities such as in-depth sessions involving consensual non-consent and edge play. More than this I would prefer to discuss only with a prospective partner. By no means are the listed activities I list the only one I am interested in. As I said I am seeking to build a life with my partner. PM me if you are interested.