A Different Approach To BDSM Limits Lists

A Different Approach To BDSM Limits Lists

TOP PLEASURES DATABASE LIST

[This list may be freely distributed online providing it isn't used for commercial purposes and that it is sent in its entirety, including this link to my blog: http://slave802120.blogspot.com You may, of course, modify and adapt it to suit your own personal needs, but please, if you're reposting, use this original. Thanks :)]

This list is my own personal BDSM Limits list which was created a couple of years ago as a reference for hubby to give to others he selected to play with me. It's not a complete list as many of the traditional BDSM limits lists seem to be because the object of this one was to ONLY list things that I considered were within bounds, even if only just. There is still a vast many things on this list which I haven't tried, but they pop up in fantasies or may be used by anybody who writes with me as a guide for things that aren't going to thoroughly squick me.

The reason for organizing the list into activities grouped roughly into various BDSM areas rather than using an alphabetical list is this. At the time when this list was created, my 'slave training' was conducted as a game where activities my training master and mistress chose for me were chosen randomly by the roll of a seven-sided dice (hence the 7 activity groups rather than six). I'll discuss the rules that were invented for this in a separate post.

It should also be mentioned that it was my duty to create the list which was then amended by hubby and the Tops in my training game -- thus the list became known as the Top Pleasures List. The list hasn't been organized with any sense of priority either. There was another list I had to create which became known as the Bottom Pleasures List. This essentially was a list of non-kink things that I considered would be enjoyable 'rewards' for me and that Tops could refer to when the occasion called for it. I'll also post this list, just as soon as I can find where I've archived it!


TOP PLEASURES DATABASE LIST

BONDAGE

Bondage gags
Bondage blindfolds
Bondage clothes
Bondage hogtied
Bondage cages
Bondage straitjacket
Bondage locked bags & baskets
Bondage fishing nets & webs
Bondage ropes
Bondage silk scarves
Bondage handcuffs
Bondage suspension
Bondage chains
Bondage chastity belts
Bondage Japanese
Bondage duct tape
Bondage breast bondage
Bondage crotch ropes
Bondage hobbles
Bondage gloves/sleeves (armbinders)
Bondage leather cuffs
Bondage stocks
Bondage pillories
Bondage yokes
Bondage spreader bars
Bondage manacles
Bondage toe bondage
Bondage cling wrap
Bondage mummification
Bondage irons

CORPORAL PUNISHMENT

Corporal Punishment hand spanking
Corporal Punishment cat-o'-nine tails
Corporal Punishment hairbrush/kitchen utensil spanking
Corporal Punishment caning
Corporal Punishment flogging
Corporal Punishment whipping
Corporal Punishment cropping
Corporal Punishment pussy whipping
Corporal Punishment wooden paddles
Corporal Punishment leather paddles
Corporal Punishment straps & belts
Corporal Punishment breast whipping

FETISH

Fetish uniforms
Fetish water sports
Fetish wrestling (mud, jelly, etc.)
Fetish corsets
Fetish barefoot
Fetish leather
Fetish stockings
Fetish rubber & latex
Fetish high heels
Fetish fancy dress & fantasy costumes
Fetish living furniture
Fetish puppy play (being costumed & treated like a puppy)
Fetish infantilism
Fetish pony play (being costumed & treated like a show pony)

GAMES

Games roulette
Games twister
Games hide & seek
Games dice games
Games shell games
Games pervert scrabble
Games dart board games
Games strip poker
Games snakes & ladders
Games board games various
Games electronic games of chance
Games truth or dare
Games blackmail
Games auctioned for charity
Games raffled/lucky door prize

HUMILIATION

Humiliation forced public orgasm
Humiliation strip tease
Humiliation nude dancing
Humiliation public speaking/storytelling
Humiliation group grope
Humiliation glory holes
Humiliation shopping for kinky toys (fruit, vegetables & lubricant, etc.)
Humiliation public flashing "accidents"
Humiliation outdoor bondage
Humiliation sybians
Humiliation enemas
Humiliation forced dressing/appearance
Humiliation forced behaviour modification
Humiliation over the knee spanking
Humiliation sex toy demonstrations
Humiliation revealing secret desires or fantasies
Humiliation bathroom control
Humiliation public nudity
Humiliation shaving
Humiliation slutty clothing
Humiliation underwear/clothing restrictions
Humiliation standing in corner/dunce punishments
Humiliation swallowing semen
Humiliation teasing
Humiliation double penetration
Humiliation triple penetration
Humiliation body painting & temporary tattoos
Humiliation being lectured
Humiliation soliciting new submissives for Dom/mes
Humiliation wearing a strap-on dildo
Humiliation shopping for sex toys
Humiliation slings & chairs that force exposure
Humiliation cock worship
Humiliation mind games that spring traps
Humiliation eating utensil restrictions
Humiliation forced undressing
Humiliation acting on stage or for an audience
Humiliation forced counting or vocalization of punishments
Humiliation buttplug discipline
Humiliation dildo sucking
Humiliation strap-on sucking
Humiliation cock sucking
Humiliation dildo penetration
Humiliation strap-on penetration
Humiliation sex in public
Humiliation watching videos
Humiliation watching others
Humiliation peeing in public
Humiliation anal beads
Humiliation masterbation with hands
Humiliation masterbation with vibrators
Humiliation exhibitionism
Humiliation phone sex
Humiliation modeling
Humiliation competing with others
Humiliation posing for erotic photographs
Humiliation medical examinations
Humiliation inappropriate clothing
Humiliation subtle submission to strangers (frottage, etc.)
Humiliation begging
Humiliation being filmed

ROLE PLAYING

Role Playing schoolgirl
Role Playing initiation rites
Role Playing seduction of strangers
Role Playing slavegirl
Role Playing buck's party stripper
Role Playing 18th century chamber maid
Role Playing castaway maiden
Role Playing futuristic slut/slave
Role Playing prisoner scenes
Role Playing bride or bridal party concubine
Role Playing hitch hiker/back packer
Role Playing teacher or student
Role Playing doctor/nurse or patient
Role Playing office/work scenerios
Role Playing prostitution
Role Playing rape fantasy
Role Playing abduction or kidnapping fantasy
Role Playing interrogation scenes

SUBMISSION

Submission serving as a cleaner/housekeeper
Submission massaging
Submission kneeling & worship
Submission collaring
Submission chauffeuring
Submission eye contact/speech restrictions
Submission following orders
Submission serving as art
Submission serving as a maid
Submission serving as furniture
Submission symbolic bondage (paper cuffs, etc)
Submission serving as a waitress
Submission serving as an assistant
Submission pampering

TORTURE

Torture clothespins
Torture waxing
Torture modified clothing
Torture hot oils & creams
Torture housework
Torture ice cubes
Torture nipple clamps
Torture orgasm control/denial
Torture sensory deprivation
Torture sleep deprivation
Torture writing lines/mindless repetitive actions
Torture riding the horse (A-frame, horizontal bars, etc. - crotch stimulation)
Torture forced eating (unpleasant tastes or excess of treats)
Torture forced drinking (unpleasant tastes or excess of pleasant things)
Torture modified furniture designed to be uncomfortable
Torture scratching, rubbing and poking (for excessive pleasure or mild pain)
Torture violet wand
Torture writing fictional sex scenes
Torture rough or unlubricated sex
Torture waxing (breast cast)
Torture TENS Machine
Torture temporary piercing
Torture sensation play (fire/ice/hot/cold)
Torture needle play
Torture pussy clamps
Torture waxing (hair removal)
Torture tickling
Torture itching & irritations
Torture posture control
Torture hair pulling
Torture pinching
Torture stretching, bending & spreading
Torture forced exercise

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slave802120, welcome to the Forums!

That's quite a list. I hope you find your Bottom's Pleasure List soon, I am looking forward to seeing what's on it.

My pet and I recently modified the "usual" types of activity lists to include things folks might do in "fantasy" play versus actual play. It also includes a column for things switches might have done when they were the acting dom.

Waiting not so patiently,
Ruby

PS

The activity checklist as of June 2005:
http://www.vampirespet.com/ActivityChecklist.html

BTW: If anyone has suggestions for items to add, feel free to PM me here or send me an e-mail.

If you're just going to tell me to read slave802120's list and add everything she's got that I haven't, please save your typing fingers or you may be assigned that task. :D

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Originally Posted by Ruby

slave802120, welcome to the Forums!

That's quite a list. I hope you find your Bottom's Pleasure List soon, I am looking forward to seeing what's on it.

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Hello Ruby, and many thanks for your warm welcome :)

I should warn you in advance my Bottom's Pleasure List is really not very kinky at all. I like simple pampering pleasures like having my hair brushed or my feet massaged (which were acceptable) and others like "buy slave802120 lots of expensive perfume and jewellry" or "take her on a nice Carribean cruise" (which wasn't :)

But, I will post the list anyway, such as it is/was. As fate would have it, those playing were more interested in the Top Pleasure List than my little list of simple delights, although I did earn some wonderful romancing -- candles, fondue dipped chocolate, etc. -- before the whole game fell apart for reasons too boring to repeat here.

kinkabella

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Originally Posted by Ruby

slave802120, welcome to the Forums!

My pet and I recently modified the "usual" types of activity lists to include things folks might do in "fantasy" play versus actual play. It also includes a column for things switches might have done when they were the acting dom.

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One thing I probably should have been more clear on -- the basic concept behind both the Top and Bottom Pleasures Lists was that every activity listed was one that was (a) within the limits of all players and (b) as part of the game played, usually chosen "randomly" either using a special dice set (essentially a set of Dungeons & Dragons dice) or other elements of "chance". In other words, there wasn't any degree of "enthusiasm level" for either the Tops or me, as the Bottom, beyond if "it's on the list, it MIGHT happen". It was a simple case of everything on the list is fair game and "serendipity" decided the direction and the boundaries of the limits.

The reason for this was those 'traditional' types of Limits Lists originally scared the hell out of me. I still vividly recall the time I saw one for the first time, in a situation where I was expected to go through the whole rating process for things such as "anal toys - huge". I totally freaked and just wrote "NO! HARD LIMIT!" on everything that followed without ever really considering any other reply. It should also be remembered hubby and I had never operated within any kind of formally negotiated limit list prior to this either. After many years of marriage and intimacy, the whole concept of making any kind of 'shopping list' was a bit of an anathema -- for me, at least. If I can offer any suggestions/opinion from a sub perspective it is that we don't always like being pushed in any one direction, especially when we're newbies.

To impress this point I might say it actually took my hubby more than ten years of patience and gentle persuasion before I felt comfortable to undress in front of anybody besides him. I'm only speaking for myself and my own inhibitions, but he had the patience of a pebble with me and I seriously doubt I would be the person today if he had been anything else.

kinkabella

I noticed quite a few new people here, which is GREAT, and it might be time to revived some older threads that could be helpful to those on their journey. The site is so large it is daunting to go through the posts archives, so, I pulled up some of my favorites.

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Originally Posted by slave802120

A Different Approach To BDSM Limits Lists

TOP PLEASURES DATABASE LIST

[This list may be freely distributed online providing it isn't used for commercial purposes and that it is sent in its entirety, including this link to my blog: http://slave802120.blogspot.com You may, of course, modify and adapt it to suit your own personal needs, but please, if you're reposting, use this original. Thanks :)]

This list is my own personal BDSM Limits list which was created a couple of years ago as a reference for hubby to give to others he selected to play with me. It's not a complete list as many of the traditional BDSM limits lists seem to be because the object of this one was to ONLY list things that I considered were within bounds, even if only just. There is still a vast many things on this list which I haven't tried, but they pop up in fantasies or may be used by anybody who writes with me as a guide for things that aren't going to thoroughly squick me.

The reason for organizing the list into activities grouped roughly into various BDSM areas rather than using an alphabetical list is this. At the time when this list was created, my 'slave training' was conducted as a game where activities my training master and mistress chose for me were chosen randomly by the roll of a seven-sided dice (hence the 7 activity groups rather than six). I'll discuss the rules that were invented for this in a separate post.

It should also be mentioned that it was my duty to create the list which was then amended by hubby and the Tops in my training game -- thus the list became known as the Top Pleasures List. The list hasn't been organized with any sense of priority either. There was another list I had to create which became known as the Bottom Pleasures List. This essentially was a list of non-kink things that I considered would be enjoyable 'rewards' for me and that Tops could refer to when the occasion called for it. I'll also post this list, just as soon as I can find where I've archived it!


TOP PLEASURES DATABASE LIST

BONDAGE

Bondage gags
Bondage blindfolds
Bondage clothes
Bondage hogtied
Bondage cages
Bondage straitjacket
Bondage locked bags & baskets
Bondage fishing nets & webs
Bondage ropes
Bondage silk scarves
Bondage handcuffs
Bondage suspension
Bondage chains
Bondage chastity belts
Bondage Japanese
Bondage duct tape
Bondage breast bondage
Bondage crotch ropes
Bondage hobbles
Bondage gloves/sleeves (armbinders)
Bondage leather cuffs
Bondage stocks
Bondage pillories
Bondage yokes
Bondage spreader bars
Bondage manacles
Bondage toe bondage
Bondage cling wrap
Bondage mummification
Bondage irons

CORPORAL PUNISHMENT

Corporal Punishment hand spanking
Corporal Punishment cat-o'-nine tails
Corporal Punishment hairbrush/kitchen utensil spanking
Corporal Punishment caning
Corporal Punishment flogging
Corporal Punishment whipping
Corporal Punishment cropping
Corporal Punishment pussy whipping
Corporal Punishment wooden paddles
Corporal Punishment leather paddles
Corporal Punishment straps & belts
Corporal Punishment breast whipping

FETISH

Fetish uniforms
Fetish water sports
Fetish wrestling (mud, jelly, etc.)
Fetish corsets
Fetish barefoot
Fetish leather
Fetish stockings
Fetish rubber & latex
Fetish high heels
Fetish fancy dress & fantasy costumes
Fetish living furniture
Fetish puppy play (being costumed & treated like a puppy)
Fetish infantilism
Fetish pony play (being costumed & treated like a show pony)

GAMES

Games roulette
Games twister
Games hide & seek
Games dice games
Games shell games
Games pervert scrabble
Games dart board games
Games strip poker
Games snakes & ladders
Games board games various
Games electronic games of chance
Games truth or dare
Games blackmail
Games auctioned for charity
Games raffled/lucky door prize

HUMILIATION

Humiliation forced public orgasm
Humiliation strip tease
Humiliation nude dancing
Humiliation public speaking/storytelling
Humiliation group grope
Humiliation glory holes
Humiliation shopping for kinky toys (fruit, vegetables & lubricant, etc.)
Humiliation public flashing "accidents"
Humiliation outdoor bondage
Humiliation sybians
Humiliation enemas
Humiliation forced dressing/appearance
Humiliation forced behaviour modification
Humiliation over the knee spanking
Humiliation sex toy demonstrations
Humiliation revealing secret desires or fantasies
Humiliation bathroom control
Humiliation public nudity
Humiliation shaving
Humiliation slutty clothing
Humiliation underwear/clothing restrictions
Humiliation standing in corner/dunce punishments
Humiliation swallowing semen
Humiliation teasing
Humiliation double penetration
Humiliation triple penetration
Humiliation body painting & temporary tattoos
Humiliation being lectured
Humiliation soliciting new submissives for Dom/mes
Humiliation wearing a strap-on dildo
Humiliation shopping for sex toys
Humiliation slings & chairs that force exposure
Humiliation cock worship
Humiliation mind games that spring traps
Humiliation eating utensil restrictions
Humiliation forced undressing
Humiliation acting on stage or for an audience
Humiliation forced counting or vocalization of punishments
Humiliation buttplug discipline
Humiliation dildo sucking
Humiliation strap-on sucking
Humiliation cock sucking
Humiliation dildo penetration
Humiliation strap-on penetration
Humiliation sex in public
Humiliation watching videos
Humiliation watching others
Humiliation peeing in public
Humiliation anal beads
Humiliation masterbation with hands
Humiliation masterbation with vibrators
Humiliation exhibitionism
Humiliation phone sex
Humiliation modeling
Humiliation competing with others
Humiliation posing for erotic photographs
Humiliation medical examinations
Humiliation inappropriate clothing
Humiliation subtle submission to strangers (frottage, etc.)
Humiliation begging
Humiliation being filmed

ROLE PLAYING

Role Playing schoolgirl
Role Playing initiation rites
Role Playing seduction of strangers
Role Playing slavegirl
Role Playing buck's party stripper
Role Playing 18th century chamber maid
Role Playing castaway maiden
Role Playing futuristic slut/slave
Role Playing prisoner scenes
Role Playing bride or bridal party concubine
Role Playing hitch hiker/back packer
Role Playing teacher or student
Role Playing doctor/nurse or patient
Role Playing office/work scenerios
Role Playing prostitution
Role Playing rape fantasy
Role Playing abduction or kidnapping fantasy
Role Playing interrogation scenes

SUBMISSION

Submission serving as a cleaner/housekeeper
Submission massaging
Submission kneeling & worship
Submission collaring
Submission chauffeuring
Submission eye contact/speech restrictions
Submission following orders
Submission serving as art
Submission serving as a maid
Submission serving as furniture
Submission symbolic bondage (paper cuffs, etc)
Submission serving as a waitress
Submission serving as an assistant
Submission pampering

TORTURE

Torture clothespins
Torture waxing
Torture modified clothing
Torture hot oils & creams
Torture housework
Torture ice cubes
Torture nipple clamps
Torture orgasm control/denial
Torture sensory deprivation
Torture sleep deprivation
Torture writing lines/mindless repetitive actions
Torture riding the horse (A-frame, horizontal bars, etc. - crotch stimulation)
Torture forced eating (unpleasant tastes or excess of treats)
Torture forced drinking (unpleasant tastes or excess of pleasant things)
Torture modified furniture designed to be uncomfortable
Torture scratching, rubbing and poking (for excessive pleasure or mild pain)
Torture violet wand
Torture writing fictional sex scenes
Torture rough or unlubricated sex
Torture waxing (breast cast)
Torture TENS Machine
Torture temporary piercing
Torture sensation play (fire/ice/hot/cold)
Torture needle play
Torture pussy clamps
Torture waxing (hair removal)
Torture tickling
Torture itching & irritations
Torture posture control
Torture hair pulling
Torture pinching
Torture stretching, bending & spreading
Torture forced exercise

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Comments are welcome.