pushing her limits???

My wife/sub and I have a friend who we just out of the closet with.
Here is my delema, he is very into her and she is very into the idea of someone other then me watching her. Would it be wrong of me to have her put on a show for him? She had said (before we came out to him) she would rather keep their interactions vanilla, but I KNOW they would both enjoy it.
BTW he is bdsm curious but not active
And how, if I decide to go through with it, do I keep it from setting up false expectations for him? Neither her or I would ever want him to fuck her.

In that case, you're better off with a stranger. I have no doubts that a scene with a friend will lead to expectations, if not his (unlikely imo,) then yours or hers... and unless such curiosity proceed exactly hand in hand, one or the other of you will be hurt.

Remember, today's boundaries have NOTHING in common with tomorrows fantasies and new boundaries. And then, if you do decide jointly to explore further... will you want to with your friend? Likely not imo.

Thanks, I hadn't thought of that
you don't have to see a stranger tomorrow if things go bad

Exactly.

P.S. I've been called stranger. ;)

There is this Silus guy ....I dont know, but I hear he's a stranger also.

The inclusion of a friend can be difficult...but the devil one knows often times beats out the unknowns of a perfect stranger.

One can of course usually find plenty of anonymous spectators more than happy to oblige in any number of bdsm clubs/public dungeons.