Are my fantasies normal?

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12-22-2004
Poor Victim

Are my fantasies normal?

I've always had fantasies that instead of being a guy, I was some tall, hot leggy babe who loved to tease guys with my assets resulting in me being horribly gang raped. But in the process of being raped, my inner demons take over and I start enjoying it, cumming many a times as I am taken again and again.

Recently, my urges have gotten so strong that I dressed myself up in the full drag ( and I do mean everything ) and acted out my fantasies by myself in my room with my imaginary assailants. In the end, after I've acted out the entire fantasy, I'll masturbate till I cum, then just return everything to its normal place and get on with life.

Is this normal? If it isn't, what is wrong with me?

Thanx for you time pple.
12-23-2004
Chuckdom19

Normal

Regarding sexuality, if there's anything Doctor Sue on the Sunday Night Sex Show and all her psychiatric compatriots say, it's, "There's no such thing as normal."

Do you hurt yourself doing this? Doesn't sound like it. Is anybody else harmed? I couldn't see how. What is the result? A good climax. How is this, in substance, any different from masturbation?

Just wash your hands when you're done, PV, and make sure all the mascara is out of the sink. Enjoy yourself. Life is too short not to.
12-23-2004
Poor Victim

Thanx for the reply chksng19. Although what you say is true, is cross dressing and acting out one's fantasy to such an extent really normal? In fact, if I could find a lady to assume the male,s role, it would make my fantasies even more exciting. Is there any way to help prevent me from having these play-acting sessions?
12-23-2004
csr

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Originally Posted by Poor Victim

Thanx for the reply chksng19. Although what you say is true, is cross dressing and acting out one's fantasy to such an extent really normal?

Yes it is. Like chksng19 just said, there is no such thing as "normal." The sad thing is that many people have elaborate fantasies and don't make any effort to derive as much pleasure from them as you do. The fact that you would go to the trouble of outfitting yourself in drag and the whole 9 yards is wonderful and attests to your open-mindedness and personal sexual liberation.

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Originally Posted by Poor Victim

Is there any way to help prevent me from having these play-acting sessions?

Why? If you said you outfitted yourself in drag and masturbated on your front steps, then I would say that you need to exercise control, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you are doing OR what you are fantasizing about.

Enjoy it, guilt free.
12-23-2004
Cokera

"Just wash your hands when you're done, PV, and make sure all the mascara is out of the sink. Enjoy yourself. Life is too short not to." :)

Said all too well. chksng19

Just "enjoy yourself" and consider yourself a unique individual.

BUT

Hmm... not really so different than alot of people who desire but simply have too many inhibitions to act on their true self and explore their true identify. Not to mention their true sexuality.

I believe this makes them incomplete and certainly not true to themselves.
12-26-2004
midnightsky

There is nothing wrong with crossdressing and there is no need to change who you are or your fantasies because soceity sees them as "wrong". Sexual repression is unecessary (within reason- doing something truly dangerous or stupid, like raping (nonconsent)someone to fullfill a fantasy is NOT a good idea)- repression is just a means of control and unncessary guilt
12-26-2004
Poor Victim

Thanx for the advice guys. It has really helped me to get over my guilt. But just asking, what causes people to have these kind of fantasies? Too much porn? An over-active imagination? Thanx people.
12-27-2004
tkk098

*shrugs* I had a few things that I had to get over, I had some porn obsessions that were making me feel really guilty about. I had started that when I was like 15. I wasn't supposed to be around porn at that age, but anyway, I eventually got over it. I was just exposed to it, and became turned on by it over time.

As far as the sexual fantasy, i've done that with the exception of the being a girl and bribery part. It's somewhat normal. We're all unique in our ways of thinking.
12-29-2004
slavelucy

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Originally Posted by Poor Victim

Thanx for the advice guys. It has really helped me to get over my guilt. But just asking, what causes people to have these kind of fantasies?

ooof, we could start a whole new forum dedicated to that question. *smiles* Who knows why we have the fantasies we do? Genetics? Hormones? Programmed to be that way? Or, on the flip side...childhood, something we saw or experienced, perhaps that we have no recollection of?, male and female influences in our lives? The media and a constant stream of images and ideas pumped into our subconscious? Ever changing gender roles? Ever changing expectations on us?

Or...a combination of all of the above..otherwise known as being human. :) i strongly second what everyone else has said...give yourself a break and enjoy being who you want, completely guilt free...the joy of being human is that the mind tells us exactly what it's turned on by, editing out anything that doesn't appeal...and we can revel in it, even on our own...it's an amazing feat, make the most of it, i say!

sl
02-20-2005
Barton

Normal??

Normal?? There is no such thing when it comes to sex. It is all pretty much normal.

Barton
02-20-2005
Aeneas

Be yourself

"An' it harm none, do what thou wilt."
03-03-2005
emmacd

emmacd

Your fantasies are very real. I have done this all my life. To what extent it is up to the individual It is amazing how this feeling is so so good. When a sub I love it. As a dom I love it even more for I can take people like you at a further level which allows you to measure your sensations and get a hold of what you need and express this to one that is doing you. Try it both ways (1) All dressed up and used by your fantasy people or (2) you dressed to the nines and take on a woman man or crossdresser like you. You would be amazedWoW Wow Emmacd

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Originally Posted by Poor Victim

I've always had fantasies that instead of being a guy, I was some tall, hot leggy babe who loved to tease guys with my assets resulting in me being horribly gang raped. But in the process of being raped, my inner demons take over and I start enjoying it, cumming many a times as I am taken again and again.

Recently, my urges have gotten so strong that I dressed myself up in the full drag ( and I do mean everything ) and acted out my fantasies by myself in my room with my imaginary assailants. In the end, after I've acted out the entire fantasy, I'll masturbate till I cum, then just return everything to its normal place and get on with life.

Is this normal? If it isn't, what is wrong with me?

Thanx for you time pple.
03-10-2005
truckinnhorsin

just one point...... your on a BDSM site asking us whats normal :-D normal is kinda like beauty, its in the eye of the beholder.

As far as the fantasy, ive talked to or read posts from way more than one guy that likes some version of your fantasy.
As far as i'm concerned, so long as you aren't hurting someone else (consensual whipping doesnt count lol) ... then its fair game.

Teni
05-31-2005
badspyro

9yrs old

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Originally Posted by Poor Victim

Thanx for the advice guys. It has really helped me to get over my guilt. But just asking, what causes people to have these kind of fantasies? Too much porn? An over-active imagination? Thanx people.

My mum swares BLIND that she knew that I would be into this kinda thing from the age of 9 when I had an erection when I was frightened, so it definitely isn't porn related! :D
Could be genetic though, or just an eroticaly healthy and active imagination... :rolleyes:
05-31-2005
csr

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Originally Posted by badspyro

My mum swares BLIND that she knew that I would be into this kinda thing from the age of 9 when I had an erection when I was frightened, so it definitely isn't porn related! :D
Could be genetic though, or just an eroticaly healthy and active imagination... :rolleyes:

Not something I've asked my mum about, lol....hehehe...

I have wondered about heredity though... and whether any of my family has the same bent. I doubt very much any of them would've acted out, but you never can tell what people fantasize about.

My daughter went through a faze of asking to be spanked a fair bit and likes chains. Hmmmmmmmm...