Delitediscontented

so i went out with Daddy tonight for dinner. I have been visiting him for about a month now, and he has been nothing but sweet to me... well in normal activity...
first we went out to dinner and then we watched some television at his house.
we played for a while. first was a game where i had to balance water on the backs of my hands while he caned me. yeah... that didnt go over too well. then he tied me up and used me which was lovely....
i was beet-red (not beat) in the face arms and shoulders`just from the emotional rush.
he then proceeded to give me a massage afterwards...
like i said he is SO sweet to me. nicer than all the men i have dated in the vanilla world.

well here is my concern:
do you have any ideas on how i could make him happier? i would do anything i think for him. i do have a low pain tolerance and even today i tried to make it through the water holding and i couldnt.

Does anyone have any advice to help me? he seems happy, but i am sure i can do more.
I am open to answering questions too that would make my story clearer.

he does say i am a lot of fun though.

The only person that could truly answer your question is him.

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Originally Posted by IDCrewDawg

The only person that could truly answer your question is him.

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yeah you are right.... thx

Well by the sounds of it; you are pleasing him and he is happy. The evening you described sounds wonderful and to end with the massage from him; it shows his appreciation and how he feels about you.

As for a low pain threshold; we are all different and maybe your limits are just the same as his...... just enjoy.

Not everyone into bdsm is into pain.

Ask him how best to please him.

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Originally Posted by AnticipatingPain

As for a low pain threshold; we are all different and maybe your limits are just the same as his...... just enjoy.

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I'd say the same, my pain threshold is also low, but my Leo just finds it nice to get such a lot of reaction out of me with so little effort :-)

If you are really worried ask him - there are other things to do than play with pain. But if that is the main thing for him, you could ask to be trained to raise your threshold, for example by being very excited first.

There are many kinds of sensation play that can also appease a dom who loves thrashing you.

I have an elkhide flogger that makes a huge smacking sound and provides a delicious buttocks bounce when I strike extra hard... but no one has ever said anything but "oooooh - that's wonderful" because of how it falls, caresses, and stimulates the skin.

It even brings up a nice glow... and yet provides nothing but pleasure.

i myself love some things my Master loves to do to me and others it is hard for me to cope with. i love being flogged, cropped, even the flicker whip...hate being caned. my Master has reserved caning for punishment for big issues for that very reason. i have learned in some positions to submit to pain better, like being bent over the bed while suspension positions are so much harder. my Master has been happy to work with me while teaching me more tolerance in somethings and also respecting me as an individual within that framework.

well ty ty guys :)
i did ask him and he said that it is not the action of causing pain but the act of me submitting and listening to his orders.... and disciplining me when i am late or being bratty (which i am... plenty bratty :*)

i am going to look into the elk hide flogger because i do enjoy that sometimes...
now i just have to gather up the balls to ask him if we could do some extreme vibrator sessions.... that i would looooooove.

Sounds like you are overly concerned about his pleasure. It is very early yet, and the two of you are learning each other. I would talk with him and ask him, let him know what you are willing to do, and ask him if there are other ways he would like to play.

It just feels to me like after a month, you feel like it is going too slowly. Give it time and communicate communicate communicate!

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Originally Posted by roxi.slut

Sounds like you are overly concerned about his pleasure.

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Ahhh roxi, there are some of us who believe one's sub can never be too concerned about their dom/me's pleasure.

nice ozme