How did you get started in real life?

This thread is to talk about getting started in the lifestyle in real life!

Any tips/ideas/thoughts that you might have that you experienced or have gained that may be helpful to newbies can be posted here!

I could use some ideas regarding assignments I can give my submissive when we can not get together

Try sending her on a "shopping" trip for a cucumber and some k-y jelly to a store she doesn't frequent.
And don't allow her to purchase any other items from that location to hide what she is about.

ps. also instruct her not lie about why she is buying them if asked.