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So I got to thinking about one of my favorite fetishes, and was curious how others do the same activity, but maybe their technique is different than mine.
When you do breathplay, how do you do it? How did you learn to do it? How long have you been doing it?
This is also one of my favorite things. I cum much, much harder when asphyxiating for some reason. Sometimes, it's with his hands around my neck, which is just okay for me as it won't induce me to cum any harder or faster since you can't really cut off all air that way without risking damage to the delicate tissues in the neck. Usually, it's with his cock in my throat, either holding my head while he forces his cock into my throat or in a 69 position with him on top (my favorite). I just push his hips to let him know when I need to breathe again. I also really love a pillow over my face which is hard to get anyone to do since they can't really tell what's going on under the pillow. Occasionally, I'll put my own face into a pillow while being fucked from behind. I learned to do it quite by accident while masturbating. I'd put a pillow over my face to muffle the sounds I was making while cumming and noticed it felt so much better. I've been doing that for years. The more I need to breathe, the more aroused I become while having my clitoris stimulated (since I'm a clitoral orgasmer). Orgasm is reached at about the same time I feel my body begin to struggle from lack of air. I know many people consider this particular activity too dangerous, but I feel that if proper precautions are taken to minimize the risk, it's not any more dangerous than holding your breath for as long as you can. Never wrap anything around your head or neck, such as a belt or plastic bag, while alone. Common sense should tell you that. I don't prefer the choking sensation of something around my neck anyway, but if you do, care should be taken because it's also the most dangerous. It can cut off the blood supply to your brain and cause permanent damage in either the brain or neck. I also don't recommend continuing until passing out as it only takes about 5 minutes for anoxic brain damage to occur. Passing out from lack of oxygen can induce a heart attack or seizure leading to a permanent vegetative state or even death.
i love breathplay too! my Man has put a pillow over my head a couple times. Sometimes He puts His forearm across my throat or wraps a belt around my neck. But those arent my faves. i love for Him to shove His cock down my throat. Even more i love for Him to sit on my face while i tongue His ass. But my very fave is "plain ol' kissing". He holds my nose & covers my eyes w/ His hand while He kisses me long & hard. i push against Him when i need air but He holds me a second longer till i start to struggle then He moves His mouth long enough for me to gasp a breath then He kisses me again & again. i love having His hands over my face. He will also hold my nose w/ 1 hand & shove his other fingers in my mouth & make me suck them. He is bigger & stronger than me. He literally has my life in his hands & i willingly give Him that control. Makes me wet just thinking about it...
My style is palm of my hand over her mouth with thumb and forefinger pinching her nose. My hands are big enough to cup her chin while doing this. I can be licking her or in her or in her ass and normally it sets most ladies off to a new level.
I word of caution arms on throat belts, rope chain around throat can be fun but also very harmful if there is just a little too much pressure.
The largest death rate in our life is do to breath play so be very careful.
The neck is fragile. The soft tissue parts moreso.
I also suggest using the mouth and nose for breath control and not the throat. Careful for those carotids too.
I basically agree with Flaming Redhead here, except for the pillow issue.
The most exciting of all is to have his hands around my neck. I love that beyond all measure. So much so that, by putting his hands round my neck and throttle, he will push me from not-having-thought-about-sex-at-all to a sudden readiness close to orgasm.
The method of covering the mouth and pinching the nose is much safer, but it does not get me anywhere near that level of arousal. I remain completely aware of what is going on, and the main joy that arises from that is the one of my Dom who looks in my face and sees my growing feeling of fear.
For some reason, I only enjoy breath play if my Dom uses his hands.
Any other way, like pulling a scarf or rope round my neck, just makes me go completely rigid with fear. I cannot move at all as I am literally paralyzed with anxiety. It does not excite me at all.
And as I only enjoy it when another person does it to me, I never did anything of the sort to myself when masturbating, and am in no danger of hanging myself and being found dead in a compromitting position. :-)
My Dom had experience in breath play already when he met me, and as he worked as a paramedic for a while, he is also aware of the safety issues. I trust both his technique and timing. If you need sources about technique or safety precautions, I would have to refer you to him; he is here under the name of "dorsch".
(I have been with him for 9 years now, and he has not done any damage to me, if that helps. *lol*)
Kind regards
Arria
Arria,
I train my sub/slaves in this way. "When you offer me your mouth you offer me your power, when you offer me your throat you offer me your life".
Simple put it is a very animal response, when animals submit to the stronger animal they go on their back and allow the stronger to know it could kill them. Same is true here when your Dom has your throat in his hands you know that death could happen and that is where the thrill comes from. I could grab morgan throat in the middle of a fight and she would melt.
Thatīs a very nice explanation, Sir Russell, I never looked at it that way...
Yes, I always get a nice response by encircling her neck with my hand, but I don't wish or need to apply pressure.
The touch alone can suffice to put her in exactly the same mental space.
A training technique (do you wish to know?) is to whisper in her ear, a lot, about what it will be like if I squeeze down... Another is to have her hold her breath while my hand is on her throat, again whispering in her ear to control herself, to do it for me. Later, when I want her complete, shallow breathed attention, the touch of my hand around her neck results in an immediate attitude change. Even if she's being completely submissive, this intensifies the feelings for her.
Damn... now I'm all hot and bothered. I need a long-necked nekkid lady.
the kissing thing....*smiles big* i definitely want to try that. damn that is so hot!Quote:
Originally Posted by newby
i've tried the hands around my throat that was pretty good, but you definitely have to be careful.