Stories of Inspiration

My girlfriend, and I have recently got into bdsm. We are really excited with our progression, and would like to hear about other peoples experiences. Especially from the female submissive side. Things that have really turned you on, and things that have really turned you off. Before anyone writes back that we need to communicate with what we both like, we have great communication. We are just looking for real live experiences to draw inspiration from(and juicy stories to force my slave to the edge over and over again reading and recreating).

streetbob - spend some time browsing the forums, there are lots of members who have written about particularly great experiences they have had. "My BDSM Life" would be a good forum to start with. There's lots of information there - you and your girlfriend will learn about all kinds of things, including some great how-to threads (spoken by a newbie who has gotten quite an education in the last couple of months!) You two have fun learning and exploring! :wave:

Hi streetbob-

here's a story i wrote - maybe you will be inspired....

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What turns me on as a female submissive is my dominant/ master doing whatever he wants to me- giving up that control...

specifics-
choking,
faceslapping
being peed on
being spit on
just being manhandled and maneuvered around however

You can have formalized acts if you want- protocol- that you can implement all the time or certain times.. such as...
restricted eye contact
kneeling in your presence/ no sitting on furniture (unless w/ permission)
she can speak about herself in the third person as "Your slave".. as in
"Master/ Sir, may Your slave/ girl/ sub/ whatever do _____?"
you can have more stringent speech restrictions, such as she may not speak freely unless she asks first ("Master/ Sir, may i speak freely/ May i ask a question?")

i think the best thing is the element of surprise- knowing the dominant is always in charge, in control (even if just for a weekend or whatever) and the sub never knows what he will do to her...

use a new toy...
tie her in a new position
use chains instead of ropes for the first time
use a new gag
use a hood instead of just a blindfold...

i know you are new, so some of these things may have to come later with more experience, but hopefully they will spark some ideas for you..

And of course, since you are new, i would suggest safewords... until you are totally in tune with each other...reading her body language and understanding her sounds to know when she's had enough and you shouldn't push anymore at that time.

good luck have fun!

Hello StreetBob, :)

I understand your desire for stories of inspiration. Every day I feel like I'm living that life in all honesty. I just feel so very blessed. I used to fantasize about being in a relationship where I could offer my submission fully, trusting that much that I could release what I came to realize was inside of me. Trusting...... this was a key that opened a door for me.

As far as us....
I feel so very blessed by what I get to share with the most amazing person I have ever known in this short life. Honestly, I feel the reason we can experience this so fully, so magically......has everything to do with the strong friendship we have built. I've seen many others make connections where they jump right into the world of BDSM without getting to know someone first.....they yearn so much to submit and to feel the adrenaline rush that they put themselves in places where hearts are sometimes broken...this makes me sad. (now I am not judging others' experiences, for those that want the meaningless erotic night of pleasure....hats off to them. I see the draw. But there are many submissive beings out there who are sad and broken b/c of hurtful experiences. Out of respect for them and knowing who I am, I share my experience with you only :) )

My wish for you and your girlfriend would be..... continue to build on the trust and respect you have for one another...work at that everyday, take it slow, communicate endlessly, and love eachother. Did I mention communicate endlessly? lol.

One thing we have done that I LOVEEEEEE is ...we have nights where we meet at the Marriott (thank goodness for rewards points!). He will arrive before I do. He will set things up as he pleases. I will know all day that we will be meeting there, (whew is it hard to concentrate on work!) but I will have no idea what is going to happen. I will call him on my way and he will give me a set of instructions for the night. I arrive at the door and know that once I enter, my full submission is required. The first night this ever happened was one of the most amazing nights of my life. He had many toys placed on a table and I spent most of the night kneeling on the arms of a chair......mmmmmmmm....my collar was there placed on a table...waiting for me.

Now we have integrated D/s into our life more fully, but it took us a long time to get where we are. There are articles of jewelry that I wear and never take off and we both know that they are equivilent to a collar. As we have children, we are not able to share it 24/7, but when we are alone, or i am alone in the house, I am submissive all the time. It's a long road still.....but it is well worth it. Thanks for letting me share with you. I hope my words inspire you in some way. Take care and all my best to you and your girlfriend.
midi :)